Men and women have different understandings and ways of communicating. Maybe that's why it's hard for both men and women to communicate feelings or needs to one another. As a woman, you can change your communication method to be shorter, more focused, and positive so that men can understand it. The methods used vary between chatting with a man you just met, a man who is your partner, a man in your family, and a man in the workplace. By practicing communication techniques such as active listening, you can improve your communication skills with the opposite sex.
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Method 1 of 4: Talking to Strangers
Step 1. Pay attention to your surroundings
Make sure you are safe when approaching strangers, regardless of gender. Also, make sure you can control all the facilities and have a path to go if anything goes wrong. Don't talk to strangers when you're helpless. Try to let people you know know that you are approaching a stranger.
Step 2. Introduce yourself
The first way to chat with a guy is to introduce yourself. Introductions are a sign that you are interested in knowing or chatting with them. Make eye contact to show that you're not kidding.
- Say your name and repeat it. Repeating a person's name is a great way to remember them, and it also shows that you're interested in getting to know them.
- Speak clearly in a steady voice. Make a good impression and try to get him to understand what you're trying to say.
Step 3. Ask a few questions
To get to know new people, you need to ask questions. Choose a neutral topic like hobbies or pets. Avoid sensitive questions like politics or religion.
Step 4. Get in the habit of active listening
Your goal, of course, is to have a two-way chat. The trick, you must be able to listen actively. Ask him something related to his previous answer, or ask him to clarify the topic to show that you are listening. Don't dominate the conversation by talking to yourself. Here are some ways to try active listening:
- "Oh, so you like soccer. I prefer basketball."
- "It's good that you like Thai food. I know there's a good restaurant in the middle of town."
- "You like rock climbing? I've never tried it, how do you climb?"
Step 5. Compare hobbies
One way to get to know men is to compare hobbies. Once you find common ground, compare your knowledge with theirs. This tactic can make the conversation easy and natural.
Method 2 of 4: Talking to Boyfriend or Husband
Step 1. Get in the habit of direct communication
Despite what may happen every now and then, couples really can't read minds. Make sure you communicate directly by telling them exactly what you mean or what you think. Don't keep him guessing. You can practice direct communication in several ways.
- Find the right time. Make sure you talk to him at the right time. Look around and choose a time and place that is comfortable for both of you.
- Think ahead and don't attack. Make sure you are polite to him. Don't verbally attack him if you're angry or frustrated. Think about what you want to say before the words leave your mouth. Practice first if it looks like the conversation will be emotional.
Step 2. Don't hold back your emotions
Express your feelings often to avoid getting too frustrated. Remember that your partner is there to help and he or she will want to help you. Be honest with him and share your emotions so you can both talk as a team.
Step 3. Ask questions to show that you are listening
When he talks or tells about his day, it means he wants to share his feelings or let go of a burden. Show that you listen to him and empathize with his needs, by asking or repeating what he said. You need to be actively involved in the chat, not just a passive listener.
Step 4. Answer the question
Questions like "What do you want to eat?" is actually an opener. When asked, answer honestly. If he makes suggestions, don't give vague answers. Say what's really on your mind or say you're not sure. There are several ways to express thoughts. Try the following methods:
- "Pizza huh? Looks good too, but I'm not sure what to eat tonight. Any other suggestions?"
- "No, sorry, I'm lazy to go out tonight. I'm glad you want to go to the party, but can we just relax at home?"
- "Sorry. I was disappointed last night that you came home late. I would really appreciate it if you called or texted first, telling me you'd be late so I wouldn't worry."
- "I don't have an opinion on the living room paint color. I think the color you chose is good."
Step 5. Be honest
You must always be honest with your partner. Communication is much easier when you don't have to pick and choose between lies and half-truths. Relationships will be stronger if you can share your thoughts with your partner.
Method 3 of 4: Talking to Siblings or Dad
Step 1. Communicate your needs verbally
In order to communicate effectively, you must say what is needed directly. Families are more likely to respond if they know exactly what you're asking for.
Step 2. Use body language and nonverbal cues
Communication doesn't just rely on words. You can communicate effectively with family members with both verbal and nonverbal communication techniques.
- Verbal communication is done by speaking. How, by asking questions or voicing opinions.
- Nonverbal communication is the use of body language. Pay attention to how you stand or place your hands. For example, if you speak with your arms crossed, the impression that arises is hostility or anger.
Step 3. Use familiar vocabulary in the family
You spend a lot of time with your family. There may be a shared vocabulary or memory that is used internally in the family. Take advantage of that when chatting. Sometimes, families share nonverbal cues, such as gestures or body language. Strengthen family communication by getting used to using these methods.
Step 4. Keep in touch
Life is very busy sometimes and you lose track of time. Unknowingly, communication with the family is ruled out. Take time to chat with family. Find the medium that works best for all. Try text messages, letters, or emails.
Method 4 of 4: Talking to Your Boss or Coworkers
Step 1. Respect the other person
Show that you are a valuable employee and a good communicator. If you work with a male colleague or boss, show respect. Don't try to outperform or boast of accomplishments. Not that you shouldn't, but use humble language to show respect for the people you work with.
Step 2. Avoid ambiguous words
Time is precious. When talking to coworkers or bosses, try to get to the point. Don't waste time on unneeded details. If it's an important project or topic, include details if necessary or requested. This shows that you are good at managing your time and respect other people's time.
For example, instead of saying, "I'll call you later," say specifically, "I'm not sure when I'll be able to call you again, but I will definitely email you by Friday."
Step 3. Learn to say "no"
The number of women holding leadership positions is generally less than that of men. This may make you want to agree to an easy project or idea. Learn to say no to a male colleague or boss in a firm and polite manner. Try some of these tips:
- "Thanks for the opportunity, but I'm working on three cases this week. Maybe if my schedule is a bit off, I can take an extra case."
- "I'd like to be late again, but I've been working late every night this week. Can we schedule a meeting tomorrow to discuss this matter?"
- "Your idea for this newsletter is great, but I don't have time to implement all those changes. Have you spoken to the design and marketing team? Maybe they can help."
Step 4. Focus on the facts
The workplace is a place for business. So that you can communicate in the most effective way, stick to the facts. You must be able to complete projects and prove yourself as a capable employee or leader. The use of facts shows that you are focused on the work in front of you. Use knowledge and statistics to make a strong impression:
- "According to my report, sales increased 45% last year."
- "We saved 250 million last year by eliminating direct telephone service."
