Whatever the reason, bullying or grades, don't let your child drop out of school. Statistically, in the US, people who drop out of high school earn $10,386 less than those with a high school diploma. Those who drop out of school also have a 30.8% higher risk of living below the life line, and 63% more likely to go to prison than those who graduate from high school. Prevent your child from dropping out of school by finding the core of the child's problems, engaging in his learning experiences, and helping him develop future goals.
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Method 1 of 3: Finding the Heart of the Child's Problem
Step 1. Ask why the child wants to leave school
Listening to your child's problems without judging them is very important. You can't solve a child's problem if you don't know the root of the problem.
- The most common reasons children want to drop out of school are that they have been out of school for too long, or that they feel that they cannot improve their grades. Both problems can be solved, but the child may not understand them.
- Other reasons the child may give are bullying, pregnancy out of wedlock, depression, drug/alcohol addiction, or social problems at school. If you're digging deep into your child's reasons for wanting to leave school, be prepared to deal with whatever the child's reasons may be.
Step 2. Remain calm when dealing with the child, and instead of getting angry or yelling at the child, offer support to the child
Ask what you can do to help the child.
- Helping children does not mean supporting every behavior. If your child wants to drop out of school simply because he doesn't want to be held accountable, you should be firm and say that he will face more responsibilities at work.
- Some children want to get out of school just to break free and stay at home. Don't let your child do it. If your child is out of school, tell him to find a job. Dropping out of school is an adult decision.
Step 3. Work with the child to solve the problem
Children will have hopes and visions of the future if they are heard by adults.
- Community resources are available for children who need to recover from alcohol/drug addiction, or require mental health counseling. If your child's problem is physically or mentally rooted, take your child to see a doctor.
- Schools generally provide resource centers. Discuss with the BK teacher with the child's permission. Schools can also provide information about alternative learning options if needed.
- If your child's crux of the matter is at school, visit your child's school. You may be able to resolve issues such as bullying by contacting the principal. Problems with teachers can be solved with class adjustments, and poor grades can be solved with additional classes.
- If your child's problems are too complicated, you might consider homeschooling your child. Homeschooling programs also offer the opportunity to start college early, or finish school online. Knowing all of the academic options will help you find a suitable option for completing your child's schooling.
Step 4. Maintain relationships with children outside of school matters
Children who are on good terms with their parents do not hesitate to pour their hearts out to their parents, and listen to their advice.
- Children whose parents are active in school and show that they care about education are more protected from the threat of dropping out. Be a role model by learning for life, and encourage children to develop themselves outside of school.
- Support children to find hobbies or volunteer in groups they like to find future careers. Finding a hobby or volunteering together is a great way to find shared interests and support your child to think about the future. Future campus targets will prevent children from dropping out of school.
- Setting aside time to do activities together outside of school will build a good relationship and become a memory for you and your child. Students who feel they have other talents outside of school are less likely to feel pressured by a bad grade or two, and will not consider dropping out as a solution.
Step 5. Remember to listen to your child
Sometimes, parents are too busy lecturing their children that they ignore their children's requests for help. Watch your child as he or she speaks, engage in conversation, and listen to them.
Although hearing the news that your child wants to leave school can be shocking, it's generally something that children have been thinking about for a long time. Children sometimes ask for help in subtle ways, and getting involved in your child's education can give you clues about the changes your child is going through
Method 2 of 3: Engaging in Children's Education
Step 1. Contact your child's school and schedule a meeting with teachers and school administrators
Pay attention to whether your child needs any adjustments at school.
Although problems at home can cause children to want to drop out of school, generally school problems are the reason children want to drop out. Involving the school can help you prevent your child from dropping out
Step 2. Join the school committee
By joining the school committee, you will visit the school often so that you are known to the school staff.
- If the crux of your child's problems is at school, your presence may be able to help resolve the issue. When your child needs you, you can help them quickly.
- Communicate with staff efficiently, and respect children's privacy. Involving the child in the conversation will also help resolve the issue.
Step 3. Keep in touch with the parents of your child's friends
The parent of a child's friend may be able to help you identify a behavior problem that requires action. Also, by getting to know your child's friend's parents, you will find out what your child's friends are doing, including bad things like drugs, sex, etc.
Some children may hide problems by lying about whereabouts or friends. By getting to know your friend's parents, you can prevent your child from lying
Step 4. Have the child visit a psychiatrist if necessary
A psychiatrist can offer therapy for your child and prescribe medication for conditions such as ADHD or bipolar disorder that can interfere with learning. A mental health counselor can help your child solve problems such as social stuttering or depression.
Checking the child's psychological condition can eliminate his desire to leave school, and provide him with the necessary assistance
Method 3 of 3: Supporting Children's Future
Step 1. Invite children to join extracurricular
Sometimes, a sport or other activity can help a child feel involved in school, and increase the child's enthusiasm to maintain grades to keep the child on the team.
Feeling successful outside of school can provide a stimulus for children to improve their school performance, and help children realize the importance of school. In addition, activities in groups, organizations, or sports clubs may allow children to associate with other children who have clear future goals. The motivation of these children may rub off on your child
Step 2. Talk to your child about his daily life at school
Talk about what's going on at school, how their grades are, and how they're doing in sports or organizations. When your child feels cared for, he will dare to say bigger things in the future. Keeping up a conversation about school will also help you identify problems more quickly.
Start a conversation about school by creating a regular agenda for the whole family. For example, at dinner, everyone at the dinner table describes the best and worst things that happened to him that day
Step 3. Help the child develop and pursue future goals, to maintain his commitment to school
A child who wants to leave school may feel that he has no future. Encouraging your child to look to the future and focus on goals will help them realize that current failures are just small obstacles
Step 4. Remind the child that a high school/vocational high school diploma is necessary to find a job
Talking about how difficult it is to find a job without a diploma will help your child get out of his dream world.
Disclosing real-world data can help you remind your child of the tough competition in the world of work. You can take your child to the Disnakertrans office and talk to the staff there about how difficult it is to get a job if your child doesn't have a diploma. You may also be able to take your children to watch documentaries or look up statistics on relevant sites, including the Disnakertrans website
Step 5. Consider alternative schools
The school environment may have an effect on your child's problems. If you have done all of the methods above but your child still wants to leave school, you may be able to consider SMK, courses, Kejar Paket C, or other educational options that are more supportive of their success.
Other options to consider for a high school diploma are homeschooling, online classes, and programs that mix high school and college classes for students who are bored with regular classes
Tips
- Find good sources of entertainment for children. While your child needs to be successful in school, you also need to provide him with time off so he doesn't feel pressured.
- If your child has to leave school due to health problems or other equally serious problems, such as pregnancy out of wedlock, try to keep him/her following the Kejar Package C. The package C certificate can be used to continue to university or find work, even if the child cannot continue high school.
- If your child is really unhappy with their school, consider transferring your child to another school or considering other educational options. As a parent, you can prevent your child from dropping out by providing other educational options, getting your child involved in an organization, or providing career information.
