Losing someone special is an unpleasant experience. Although he is irreplaceable, there are various ways to deal with the loss of a breakup, either temporarily or permanently.
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Part 1 of 4: Facing Farewell for Good
Step 1. Give yourself time to grieve
Deep sadness is a very personal thing and everyone experiences it in a different way. You know best how to feel sadness. Separation can occur because a loved one moves house, breaks up, or dies. Be patient because the recovery process takes time.
Step 2. If you lost someone who just passed away, reminisce about the good times you had with them
It's natural to feel lost and the various emotions that come with a breakup are normal, but don't forget the good memories you shared with him as a way to find balance when you're feeling really down.
Step 3. If someone is hostile towards you, but is still seeing each other, be strong
Dealing with people who don't want to be interacted with is a very difficult thing. However, be nice to him by smiling and saying hello, but don't expect him to return or talk to you. A polite attitude shows that you don't hold grudges and don't want to stir things up. It also helps you to cope with and protect yourself from lingering negative emotions. You can't control other people's behavior, but your positive attitude will be seen by others, not just this person.
Step 4. Find new friends or supportive people
If you have lost someone you have relied on for a long time, try to find someone who is willing to provide support to replace them. However, you also need to be supportive in order to build a relationship that is beneficial to both parties. Instead of just looking for a replacement, take this opportunity to forget the past by making new friends and joining supportive groups so you can meet people who can bring about positive change.
Part 2 of 4: Accepting Temporary Separation from Close People
Step 1. Realize that separation is sometimes inevitable when those closest to you want to achieve their goals, get a job, or do what they love
If you find out that the breakup only lasts a few weeks or a few years, this will pass and you'll just have to re-schedule your daily activities for a while. There are times when a spouse, lover, child, or best friend has to leave home with good intentions. The ability to accept circumstances that you have no control over frees you from wanting to resist change. In addition, you can begin to prepare yourself for the best possible separation by considering the following points:
- How long has he been gone?
- How will you communicate with him?
- What do you want to do to deal with this breakup?
Step 2. Make a deal with your partner or loved one who will leave you for a while
Maybe you find it hard to let go of a lover who wants to climb the Himalayas or let your children volunteer to help disaster victims and hope they stay with you at home. However, you won't be sad if you realize that they are chasing a dream. Try to overcome the attachment without ignoring your own desires by accepting the fact that they will do fun things that will have a big impact on their success in pursuing a career and living life later. Make a deal so that the two of you can interact in different ways and live a happy life. Discuss the best way to communicate with each other, how long he will be traveling, and how much time is available to interact. This way, you will look forward to enjoying your time together, instead of always being tormented by the sadness of losing someone.
Part 3 of 4: Keeping Close
Step 1. Communicate in various ways to keep both of you feeling close to each other
You can communicate with each other by phone, text message, video, email, or other media. Send a letter in a parcel containing his favorite treats to show that you always remember what he likes best.
Step 2. Invite him to meet
Whether he lives out of town, abroad, in prison, in a military dormitory, doing research in Antarctica, or under a long-term contract, find out if you can meet him. Sometimes you have to adhere to very strict visiting rules, but it can't hurt to think about the possibilities and start saving so you can travel to see them. This method makes the daily life that you have to live alone does not feel heavy.
Step 3. Send news regularly
If the two of you can't interact on a daily basis or use other means of communication, find out if you can keep them in touch by sending letters or other written information. Keep a journal written especially for him and keep it safe to give to him if possible.
Part 4 of 4: Strengthen Yourself by Distracting
Step 1. If losing someone is causing you a lot of pain, do something to distract yourself so you don't dwell on it
For example: take friends on a trip, take an after-hours course, or enjoy a new hobby. Do or learn things that have been pending and make the most of the time when you both have to be apart for a while.
Step 2. Get busy
Do activities to take your mind off the person you miss. The busier you are, the less opportunity to think about it.
Step 3. Be kind to yourself
If you're feeling lost because someone left you forever, take time to let go of your sadness, but don't drag it on. You have to get back to socializing and making new friends.
Step 4. Pretend he's always with you
Daydreaming isn't just for kids. You can pretend you're chatting with him, but don't be loud if you're in a public place. Imagine she is leaning on your shoulder telling a story like a teenage couple in love or a mother with her daughter. Ask yourself what he would do to solve the problem and then laugh silently at the thought of his response.
Step 5. Face the realities of life
If all means do not work, accept the fact that has happened. Living life without regrets is the secret to happiness. By understanding this and accepting reality, you will realize that you are capable of solving problems. Even though the feeling of loss is still there, never give up. Know that all sad experiences will pass and life will change over time. Even though they all sound the same, be patient because this process takes time.
Tips
- If you spend more time at home, the memory of the person you miss will interfere with your daily life and leave you feeling helpless.
- Make new friends, get back to socializing, or interact through social media.
- If you are saddened by someone's death, come to the place where they are buried to remember the good times they had with them or share your feelings with people who have also lost.
- Long distance relationships can be difficult at times, but many people do well because they've made an agreement by setting boundaries and expectations.
- Express everything you are feeling by crying or telling a story to someone close to you.
Warning
- Don't let the feeling of loss keep you from closing yourself in. Refusing to socialize in everyday life because of the loss of someone makes you even more lonely.
- Don't be angry with people who stay away from you because anger drains you of energy. This method will hurt yourself because you are only busy making scenarios that are not necessarily true, even though he doesn't care about your problems, opinions, and ideas. Don't demand that he explain until you can communicate with him again.
