Interacting with other people in cyberspace has become commonplace. If you're looking for a partner, looking for someone with similar interests or furthering a relationship with an acquaintance, the internet has it easy for you. However, the internet has many social rules and risks, which is why it is important that you do so carefully.
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Part 1 of 4: Choosing a Place in the Virtual World
Step 1. Know beforehand you are looking for like people to know the right site and app for you
Each site or app has a different character, so it's important to know from the start who you want to meet. For example, both eHarmony and Tinder are great examples of meeting potential partners. However, eHarmony is often used by people who are interested in a serious monogamous relationship while Tinder is more often used by people who are only interested in a momentary relationship.
Step 2. Think about how much information you want to share
The amount of information requested by each site is different and the way the site publishes it is also different. Online forums for people with similar interests such as GradCafe or Heaven Games are often open to all internet users and don't ask for much information from their users. Some social media sites such as Facebook, ask for quite a lot of personal information, but users can set the level of privacy according to their wishes.
Step 3. Think about how intimately you want to be with the people you meet online
Each site has a different level of intimacy for its users as well. Dating sites and apps are generally designed with the aim of bringing two people together one-on-one. While special forums are designed to facilitate interaction with many different people to share information and it is not common to establish personal relationships or make land copies with people you meet on forums like these.
Keep in mind that it's going to be harder for you to do a ground coffee with people you meet on sites and apps that don't filter location. Suppose you make a new friend who also likes wine but lives on a different continent, it will be difficult for him to come to your city and enjoy wine together
Part 2 of 4: Creating a Profile
Step 1. Create your profile carefully
Your profile on the internet will determine how people perceive you. If you're posting pictures of yourself on a site looking for a partner, choose a good photo of yourself taken with a quality camera. If you're writing a short biography of yourself, write one that shows your interests that are very interesting and unique. Try to write complete sentences using good and correct spelling. Don't write too long because other people often spend a little time summarizing their opinion of you.
Create a profile carefully by adapting it to the site or application you are using. Before creating a self-profile, you can leave it blank and take some time to explore the site or app. That way, you can know what kind of profile to expect at the venue
Step 2. Create an honest profile
While it is important to maintain privacy, it is also important to be honest when sharing information on the internet. If you really want to meet your acquaintance in person, make sure he or she is interested in meeting the real you. In addition, being honest is an important element in building trust in cyberspace which is often perceived as dangerous and unsafe.
Step 3. Create a complete profile
Filling out your online profile completely is important to attract other people's interest and get them to respond to you. By filling out your profile completely, you look more trusted and more interesting and fun to talk to.
Part 3 of 4: Sending Messages to Others
Step 1. Try to familiarize yourself with social etiquette when communicating on the site or app
Each site and app has different social expectations, some of which may never be mentioned. Try browsing cyberspace to find out what these expectations look like. An example of one form of courtesy is to send a short message to an acquaintance before adding him as a friend on Facebook. If the site or app you're using lays out things like what they're expecting, then you should definitely follow suit. Many online forums, including Reddit, lay out the rules. If a user violates this rule, he or she can be excommunicated and even worse, can be removed from the site or application.
Keep in mind that online forums often have different moderators and rules. Don't assume the rules of one subforum are the same as those of another. For example, the "askphilosophy" subforum on Reddit allows users to post open-ended questions, but the "philosophy" subforum only allows you to post questions followed by arguments or statements
Step 2. Interact with the online community
Meeting other people online can be very intimidating, but the only way to have a successful relationship is to ignore your fears and try to interact with other people! Given your anonymity online, you can easily withdraw whenever you encounter an unpleasant situation and this is especially useful if you have to escape an awkward interaction. On the other hand, this state of anonymity may allow some people to act rudely and therefore it is important that you avoid dealing with such people and remember that their opinions have no effect on you outside of cyberspace.
Step 3. Keep yourself safe and always take steps with caution
Anonymity on the internet also requires you to be careful with other people because you can't know for sure what they are like. Never provide further personal information if you are not comfortable. Follow your instincts in any situation.
If you feel threatened, contact the moderator of the site or app or find a link to report a user who is bothering you. If you need further assistance, you can call the dedicated cyberbullying hotline that is staffed by people who understand your situation
Part 4 of 4: Ground Coffee
Step 1. Try politely asking if the user wants to meet face to face or not
Maybe you don't want to have a land coffee with the person you're chatting with online, but if you do, it's important that you ask them out politely. Don't ask for information that you don't want to share yourself. Offer to meet in a safe public place (so you and he can protect each other!).
- Choose a place that gives the two of you the opportunity to chat as long as you want with the possibility to leave whenever you want. It's best not to meet at the cinema because you can't chat while the movie is playing. In addition, meeting over dinner is also not a good choice because if you want to leave before dinner ends it will feel awkward even though the conversation is already feeling unpleasant.
- If the users on the site or app you're using are not used to doing ground coffee, make requests with caution. If you ask to meet without giving it much thought, your request can feel intimidating or suspicious.
Step 2. Arrive before the appointed time with a good appearance
Doing a ground coffee is no different than meeting other people you know outside of cyberspace. You can't impress other people if you don't try. Treat others as you would a friend you haven't seen in years: with warmth, enthusiasm, and respect. You still have to remember that you are strangers to each other and you know very little about each other. Therefore, you need time to establish a relationship and intimacy in the virtual world is very different from intimacy in the real world!
Tips
- Never swallow what other people say in cyberspace.
- Use humor to lighten the mood with people you've just met.
