The anxiety felt before the matchmaking meeting is normal. At a meeting about an arranged marriage between two people, you will discuss life issues. As with many things in life, you will feel better if you can feel what to expect. This article provides a guide that can explain how to speak at matchmaking meetings to help you make the whole process easier. Read on from the first step below.
Step
Step 1. Decide what kind of wife you want
Is a wife who enjoys being a housewife right for you? Do you want a sweet and caring wife who is family oriented, or are you looking for a career woman? Do you want a wife who shares your interests or do you think opposites are attracted to each other?
Step 2. Remember to read your bio two or three times before meeting your future wife
- This bio can give you ideas about questions you can ask your potential mate. For example, you could ask, "What do you like about your hobby?" Or you can say, "Oh, you love to cook and travel? Me too!".
- Try looking for it on Facebook, or Twitter. You can find details about his life and interests in the media.
Step 3. Respect his parents
This can depend on local traditions. For example, in a Hindu family, you may be required to touch the feet of the parents.
Step 4. Remember that the candidate will be nervous, and so will you
So, calm down and smile. Make the other person feel comfortable.
Step 5. Ask simple questions
Try asking the name and then the meaning of the name.
Step 6. Ask him if he really wants an arranged marriage or does he want a love marriage?
Often a woman is under pressure from her family to be matched. Make him comfortable so he can open up and tell the truth.
Step 7. Ask him what he wants to be
Housewife, career woman, or whether she wants to play both roles at once.
Step 8. To narrow the topic, ask if he wants to live separately or live with a large family
Step 9. Discuss the issue of religion or belief if this is considered important in marriage
Step 10. Talk about each other's hobbies
What habits do you like and don't like. Many women say that smoking is a habit they do not like.
Step 11. Ask if your candidate is open to change
What you want right now may be a career woman, 3 years from now you need a caring mother and daughter-in-law because your parents are getting old and 5 years from now you may need a housewife. Find out if it is flexible.
Step 12. Women often ask how independent the male family is about how to dress
Be honest and tell the truth. Answer honestly about what is allowed at home, what is allowed at social events, and what is allowed when going outside.
Step 13. Women often ask further questions about your income
Answer whether your salary is fixed or a percentage profit. Explain if you are not a regular salary person. You can be profit oriented. The family business is profit driven and in the event of a loss, the family must give up all assets to ensure the family name is not tarnished and employee salaries are paid in advance.
Step 14. Never ask about his past
In life, some women fall in love and regret later. So don't delve into the details of his past.
Step 15. Explain if you expect your partner to do some tasks
If you have elderly grandparents or parents who have had surgery twice for health problems and want a housewife who can take care of them, mention this. Just like they take care of their parents or their children. Make it clear.
Step 16. Don't create a monologue
This encounter should flow through conversation.
Step 17. Don't agree to marry after the first meeting
Make sure you have at least two or three good meetings before making a final decision.
Step 18. Many women hide the truth during the first meeting and only open up after the second or third meeting
Step 19. Make sure you talk to your family to respect your spouse after the marriage is legal
Step 20. Ask the family to respect and provide privacy by not exceeding the limits specified in the law or the marriage agreement
Tips
- Speak softly.
- To find out more about the person you want to marry, find out how he behaves with other people.
- Do not fight.
