The role of role models is very important. They can help us become the person we want to be and inspire us to make changes. Choosing wisely means that you will be positively influenced and continuously encouraged so that you can become the best person you can be. How to choose a role model in your personal life will be different from choosing a role model from celebrities but by following these steps, you can choose the best people to fill that role in your life.
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Method 1 of 2: Choosing Role Models You Already Know
Step 1. Choose a role model that you already know who can help you shape yourself to be the best you can be
The role models you already know can help you become more mature and become a more mature person. They can provide guidance and advice and show real life examples of how you can achieve your best.
Step 2. Identify your bad habits, or negative aspects of your personality
These are things about yourself that you don't like or want to change and they play an important role in determining how you want to change.
Step 3. Make a list of the main characteristics you would like to have
Do you want to live a certain way? Achieving something in particular? Becoming someone with a certain trait? Make a list of the things you want to get, both personally and in your life.
Step 4. Cultivate confidence in yourself
As you begin to consider how you will choose a role model, develop faith in yourself. The purpose of choosing role models is to motivate you to become a better person. You have to have faith in yourself and your abilities to be whoever you want to be.
Step 5. Identify people who can demonstrate the skills you want to have
If you want to be an inspiration, think about the people who can inspire you. Try observing. Why do you admire them so much? What message do they convey through their actions?
Great role models may be around you. These people may have a huge influence on you, they can even guide you, and make you choose them as your role model on the basis of the greatness of their potential
Step 6. Choose someone who has a desire to achieve a goal
A good role model must be someone who understands who he is. Don't choose someone who seems perfect but has no desire to achieve a goal. You have to pick someone who doesn't like pretending to be someone they're not.
Step 7. Choose someone you feel comfortable being who you are
Your role model should be someone who thinks it's a good thing to be unique, even if this means accepting ridicule. They will always enable you to be positive and feel good about being who you are.
The purpose of having a role model is to encourage and inspire you to improve yourself. It's a good idea to choose another role model if your choice doesn't make you feel this way
Step 8. Look for people who get along well with other people
This person should be friendly and able to communicate well with others. People will easily understand and imitate it if they are able to communicate well.
Step 9. Look for people who are not in the top positions
It's best to choose role models who can demonstrate dependable competence and who have managed to achieve their position through dedication and hard work. Oftentimes the people who rise to fame in a short time because of spectacular success are those who take big risks and are lucky, they are not the most skilled people. It is better to choose role models who are willing to work hard and consistently in achieving their success.
Picking role models who are already at the top can actually demotivate you and demotivate you because it's very difficult to emulate their spectacular success unless you're also lucky
Step 10. Choose someone who is different from you
We are all often tempted to choose certain role models because we see something of ourselves in them. A role model like this will only get in your way because you can't really change any traits about yourself, but you're only perfecting the traits you already have. Choose role models because you see there is something in them that “isn't” you but you definitely need.
- Imitating role models who are not the same as yours may make you uncomfortable or used to it but it will lift and motivate you to a level you thought you would never experience.
- Choose a role model that you usually don't want to emulate.
- For example, if you are a bold and spontaneous person choose someone who is calm and well-known for his thorough analysis.
Step 11. Study their successes and failures
You have to learn every success and failure from your role model. Sometimes the lessons learned from the failures of your role models can be more encouraging and a source of motivation for you than the lessons about their success. By studying their failures, you will realize that they, like you too, are only human and can make mistakes. Most importantly, learn from them and keep trying to improve yourself.
For example, even famous scientists like Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein had to struggle and fail many times throughout their lives but they kept working hard to achieve success and eventually they succeeded. By studying their struggles, you will be able to motivate yourself to keep working hard even when nothing seems to be working
Step 12. Choose someone you already know and see if your role model lives life in a way that is in harmony with your moral values and beliefs
A role model should be someone you admire in all aspects of their life and live the right lifestyle.
Find good things like passion and ability to inspire, clear values, commitment to community, selflessness and acceptance of others, and the ability to overcome obstacles
Step 13. Don't copy your role model entirely
Everyone can make mistakes, including those you have chosen as your role model. They are just your guides and not someone you should fully emulate. Don't just follow them.
Step 14. Develop your own style
While imitating role models is a good thing, you also have to maintain your individuality. Don't lose yourself trying to follow the example of your role model. Take the good things you most want to improve on yourself but let what is good about you remain as it is.
Be yourself and be confident in what you do. Don't plagiarize what others are doing, stick with it. Plagiarism only proves that they are insecure and not what they are, they are not like you
Method 2 of 2: Choosing a Celebrity as a Role Model
Step 1. Choose a celebrity as a role model, or great person, who excels in a particular field that you want to emulate
A great character is usually someone who excels in certain areas of their life. You can get to know this person better through the media than personal observation.
Step 2. Identify all of your best characteristics
What are your strengths? What are the things you do well? These are characteristics you want to nurture and maintain but are not things you want to find in your role model. Think about what your strengths are and form a picture of who you are and who you want to be.
Step 3. Identify your bad habits, or negative aspects of your personality
These are things about yourself that you don't like or want to change and they play an important role in determining how you want to change.
Step 4. Make a list of the main characteristics you would like to have
Do you want to live a certain way? Achieving something in particular? Becoming someone with a certain trait? Make a list of the things you want to get, both personally and in your life.
Step 5. Cultivate confidence in yourself
Once you begin to consider how you will choose a role model, develop faith in yourself. The purpose of choosing role models is to motivate you to become a better person. You have to have faith in yourself and your abilities to be whoever you want to be.
Step 6. Identify people who have done something that you think is worthy of admiration
It could be someone who has given a lot of money to charity, saved many lives, helped people in need or found a cure for a disease. Find someone who has good characteristics that you don't (or don't) have!
Step 7. Remember that only God is perfect
God is perfect, but man is not. Don't expect a role model to be perfect; they too can make mistakes. For example, you can choose a role model for their accomplishments without imitating their personal life.
This should be taken into consideration when choosing a celebrity as a role model, especially for children, because many celebrities do not live the personal life you want to emulate for yourself or your children
Step 8. Find someone who lives their life the way you want them to
If you want to become a famous author, your role model should be someone who is already successful at writing. If you've always wanted to be a nurse, your role model could be someone who works at your local hospital who is dedicated to doing his job and someone you value for his success.
Step 9. Study their successes and failures
You have to learn every success and failure from your role model. Sometimes the lessons learned from the failures of your role models can be more encouraging and a source of motivation for you than the lessons about their success. By studying their failures, you will realize that they, like you too, are only human and can make mistakes. Most importantly, learn from them and keep trying to improve yourself.
For example, even famous scientists like Isaac Newton and Albert Einstein had to struggle and fail many times throughout their lives but they kept working hard to achieve success and they succeeded in the end. By studying their struggles, you can motivate yourself to keep working hard even when nothing else seems to be working
Step 10. Learn about their personal mistakes
Many celebrities do not live their personal lives in a way that is worthy of emulation and imitation. You have to make sure by finding out how their personal mistakes have affected them and their careers. Be aware that there are many celebrities who have gotten away with things like this without having to suffer the consequences for their fame and/or money. By recognizing these mistakes you will avoid forming bad habits by following your role models.
Step 11. Don't copy your role model entirely
Everyone can make mistakes, including those you have chosen as your role model. They are simply your guides and not someone you should completely emulate. Don't just follow them.
Step 12. Develop your own style
While imitating role models is a good thing, you also have to maintain your individuality. Don't lose yourself trying to follow the example of your role model. Take the good things you most want to improve on yourself but let what is good about you remain as it is.
Be yourself and be confident in what you do. Don't plagiarize what others are doing, stick with it. Plagiarism only proves that they are insecure and not what they are, they are not like you
Tips
- Keep in mind that having a role model doesn't mean you're going to be exactly like that person. Try to keep your character. Imitate them, but keep your own mark in what they do.
- Imitate your role model until you can become a role model for yourself; this is how you know you have mastered your qualities.
- Good role models are those who have the qualities we would like to have. In addition, role models are those who can influence us in a way that makes us want to become a better person. Sometimes, we don't know the people we are imitating until we become aware of our own personal growth and the progress that they have caused.
- When you choose a role model that you already know, you can ask them to be your mentor. That way they can teach you and guide you to improve yourself.
Warning
- Always remember that everyone is not perfect.
- Someone who isn't good but is chosen to be a role model may take advantage of their position and force you to do things that make you look bad or be a bad influence on others. Make sure you don't follow any of these role models and never imitate someone who isn't wise.
