Sometimes it's not easy to tell if a guy is flirting or not. When you're sure a guy likes you, he may act cold or give you lots of other signals. It can be very confusing to know if a guy is flirting with you, because guys can flirt with you just by being nice to you, ignoring you, or even being a little rude to you. However, there are some surefire signs that a guy is flirting with you. If you want to know what he really thinks of you, check out the first step below to get started.
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Step 1. See how he behaves in front of other women
If he's flirting with you, this may indicate he likes something about you. However, if he is flirting with all the women, he may just be someone who is quite flirtatious and also naturally attractive and charismatic. If you go on a date with him, and there are a lot of women around you, pay attention to how he talks and treats them. If he treats you the same as any other woman, then he's not really flirting with you.
Step 2. See if flirting is part of the job
If your guy, for example, is a waiter or bartender, it's part of his job to flirt with girls, don't think too much about how he treats you at work and see how he feels about you when you're not. This will give you a better idea of how he really feels about you. On the other hand, if your man works in a more professional field, he probably won't flirt with you at work even if he likes you because he doesn't want to get into trouble or doesn't feel comfortable flirting with someone during work hours.
Step 3. See if he starts to touch you
If the guy likes you, he will find every reason to touch you because he wants to be closer to you. He may touch your hand when you hand you the pencil or he may come close to you, put his hands around your back or sit so close to you that your knees or feet will touch. If he seems like he's always looking for ways to touch you, then he's probably really flirting with you.
Step 4. See if he laughs at your jokes
Maybe you're the next Sarah Silverman, but she's really teasing you if she thinks you're funnier than you think. If he likes you, he'll laugh at whatever you say, even when you're not trying to be funny. If he finds that he laughs excessively when you're telling a joke, or looks a little nervous as he laughs when you talk about what you ate for lunch, then this may be his way of teasing you. Maybe he's laughing just because he enjoys being around you.
Step 5. See if he uses you as a loan
If a guy is flirting with you, then he will be looking for opportunities to spend time with you. If he keeps borrowing your books, DVDs, or notebooks in class, then chances are he's trying to find an excuse to talk to you or keep some of your stuff so he can think about you more. Chances are, if he's acting like this, it's for him to share your likes with him so he can make you like him!
Step 6. See if he acts like a nice guy to you
While some men are born to be gentlemen, if a guy likes you, he'll open the door for you, pull up a chair for you and lend you his coat when you're cold. If you are walking on the side of the road, he will probably walk by the side of the road to "protect" you from traffic. Watch him in front of other women; if he's just acting like a gentleman in front of you, then he really is flirting with you.
Step 7. See if he makes fun of you
Teasing is one of the most obvious ways a guy can show you. If he makes fun of you about your clothes, the way you walk, the way you laugh or anything else about you, that he actually finds very attractive, then he must be teasing you. If you feel that a guy is always giving you a hard time and pointing out your "faults" all the time, then this is a sign that he's really flirting with you because he really cares about the little things about you.
Step 8. See if he's lying about having the same preferences
It's great when you and your guy have the same taste in music, books, movies or food, but chances are your tastes are a little different. If he seems a little bit interested or nods excitedly when you mention your favorite movie or band, then it's probably because he's trying to flirt with you and form a bond with you so you'll like him more. Don't blame him; this lie is simply a man's way of winning the key to your heart.
Step 9. See if he gives you a small gift
He may give you a new pen because you don't have one in class. He may give you a lip balm because you have chapped lips. Whereas, this is not the same as giving a very large bouquet of flowers, it is a guy's way of flirting with you and showing that he cares about you and what you need. He's being understanding and doesn't want to scare you with excessive gifts if he's not sure you like him.
Step 10. See if he makes fun of your other male friends
This is one of the classic ways a guy can flirt with you so you know he's interested in you. If a guy is always making nasty, rude or silly comments about your guy friends you know, or hanging out a lot, there's a good chance he's jealous that you're paying attention to other guys besides him. If he says something like: "What exactly did you see in that guy?" he is clearly teasing you.
Step 11. See if he makes jokes about you dating someone else
If he calls the other guy your boyfriend or makes fun of you going on a hot date, then he's really flirting with you. The person taunts that you already have a boyfriend or that you are dating someone else because he or she wants him to be the one to go on a hot date with you.
Step 12. See if he blushes around you
If the guy blushes while talking to you, then it's a sign that he likes you and he's flirting with you. Pay attention to his face when he's talking to you while he's saying something to you, and if he's turning a lot of light for no apparent reason, or he's blushing just from saying something directly to you, then that's a sure sign that he likes you. and just teasing you.
Step 13. See if he finds subtle ways to compliment you
He may not say "You're really hot," but he may compliment you in other ways that cover up the fact that he's flirting with you. If he compliments your eyes, the color of your hair, the way you laugh or some other awesome facet of your personality, then he must be teasing you. He might tease you a bit when he's flirting with you, when he says something like, “That's the brightest sweater I've ever seen,” but he's still teasing you. Most guys don't feel comfortable simply complimenting the girl they like, so they like to say something ambiguous or insulting as an act of kindness.
Step 14. See if he makes eye contact with you
If a guy is flirting with you, he will lock his eyes on you when he is talking to you. If he likes you, then he might find it annoying to look elsewhere, to check his phone, or maybe to look around for friends. He'll probably stare at you for a while, then he'll get a little nervous and break eye contact, maybe even a small smile. He can also flirt with you by making eye contact from across the room. If you catch him staring at you, it's also his way of flirting with you.
Step 15. See if he turns to face you
It's all in body language. If he turns his shoulders, arms and legs toward you instead of turning his body away from you, then he wants to keep his posture open and flirt with you for sure. Make sure his arms are beside his body and not crossed in front of his chest, and that he is really positioning his body facing you. He does this all because he likes you and wants to be closer to you: he may even lean in close to you from time to time.
Step 16. See if he plays with his hair when he's with you
This is another key signal that he is really flirting with you. If he likes you, then he will be worried about how he looks and how you see him, and their hair is one of the biggest obsessions of men. When you're with him again, watch how many times he touches his hair or puts his hands behind his head. Maybe he's playing with his hair just because he's nervous about being around you, which is another sign that he's flirting and likes you.
Step 17. See if he's preening around you
If the guy likes you, then he will want to look his best in front of you. This means he will try to tidy up his wrinkled clothes, clean up the crumbs in his pants or just want to look his best in front of you. He wants you to see him at his best, so he will do everything he can to make his appearance look as good as possible. The next time you're with him, see if he's paying attention to how he looks, which will be a major sign that he's flirting with you.
Step 18. See if he talks to you with an open expression
If a guy likes you, his eyebrows will be slightly raised, his nose will be slightly puffy, and his lips will be slightly parted. This includes biological markers. If he likes you, his face will give you signs and you can tell if he's flirting with you just by reading the look on his face. Don't stare at his eyebrows and nose for too long, as that will make him a little confused.
Step 19. See if he speaks in a low voice
If a guy likes you, he'll lower his tone of voice as a sign that he's interested. When you're about to talk to her again, see if her voice is a little lower than her usual voice like when she's talking to friends, teachers, or other girls. This may be a sign that he really likes you and is flirting with you.
Step 20. See if he opens his heart to you
If a guy is open about giving you some personal information, then he's definitely flirting with you. If he's been telling you about his family, his pets, his friends, or about his relationship with his parents, then he's definitely flirting with you. His way of flirting with you is to open up and show that he may be more than you think. If he's telling you things he doesn't tell everyone and you realize you had a real private moment with him, then he's definitely flirting with you.
