Apologizing can be tough, especially if you did something you deeply regret. However, if you're in a relationship with a guy, you can do a few things to get him to forgive him. One of them, of course, is to apologize profusely.
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Part 1 of 3: Confronting the Results of Your Actions
Step 1. Admit your mistakes
When you make a mistake, the first thing you need to do is admit it. It is human instinct to find excuses to make things easier. But if you want a man to forgive you, you must first admit that what you did was wrong and not make excuses.
Step 2. Stay away from your emotions
Stay away from any emotions that would make you want to make excuses. If you feel angry when an action is done, you will likely find excuses. However, you can't truly apologize until you admit what you did. Accepting all responsibilities at the time of the incident is already your partner's job.
Step 3. Write down your heart before apologizing
You shouldn't read your apologies, but apologizing will be easier if you've written the apologies beforehand. That way, you won't be making excuses. Focus your mind on accepting responsibility and improving things.
Part 2 of 3: Talking to Your Spouse
Step 1. Don't delay the apology
It's human nature to put off things you don't want to do. However, apologizing must be done as soon as possible. If you wait, your partner will only feel more angry and hurt.
Step 2. Choose the right time
Don't apologize when your guy is watching his favorite sports broadcast or reading his favorite book. Pick a time when he's not busy with anything else, and ask if he can spare a minute to talk. If your partner already knows about your mistake, chances are he has already guessed where the conversation is headed.
Step 3. Show guilt
You must adjust your demeanor and tone of voice so that the guilt is evident and the sincerity of your apology is well received. Apologies should not be laughed at or made a joke. Look your partner in the eye, then say sorry seriously and regretfully.
For example, you might say "I'm really sorry for what I did."
Step 4. Take responsibility
In addition, you must admit your mistakes in front of your partner. That is, say what you did wrong to admit the wrong thing that you have done.
For example, say, “I know I made a joke that hurt your feelings. I should have thought before speaking. I know you are very sensitive to the matter.”
Step 5. Say how you will get better
Finally, promise that you will behave better in the future. This is your attempt to improve the situation. You can't undo what happened, but you can promise that the same mistake won't happen again.
At the end of your apology, you might say, “Next time, I'll hold myself back before I start talking. You deserve better. I love and respect you, and I will show it with the right actions."
Step 6. Let him respond
If this was the first time he'd heard about the mistake, he'd probably be furious. Let your partner vent his anger, and don't try to defend himself. Even if he knows why you're apologizing, your partner also needs time to vent and explain why.
You can give your partner some time to talk by asking, "How did you feel about what I just said?"
Step 7. Acknowledge her feelings
Finally, show that you understand your partner's feelings. Show that you've listened and understand why he's upset.
One way to show that you have listened is to repeat what he has said. For example, say, “I totally understand when you tell me that a joke I made made you feel excluded and belittled, and you have every right to feel that way
Part 3 of 3: Moving On
Step 1. Make room for your partner
Sometimes, when a person is feeling very angry and hurt, he needs time to clear his head. Your partner may take a few days or even a week to think about what you did. Give it time so your partner can calm down.
Step 2. Don't argue
If you want your partner to forgive you, don't argue your point until the end. In other words, once you've apologized, don't prolong the matter. Don't force the opinion that you have done the right thing.
Step 3. Surprise her with something she likes
If you feel you are showing something as part of the apology, surprise your partner. You can cook a cake or give him a meaningful gift. Do things that show that you still care about him.
Step 4. Realize that everyone makes mistakes
To continue your relationship, of course you must be forgiven by your partner. But you also have to be able to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, and by comparison, maybe what you did wasn't so bad. Even if what you did was actually pretty bad, don't beat yourself up all the time. You have to be able to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty.
However, that doesn't mean you have to completely forget your mistakes. Take this incident as a lesson for the future
Step 5. Understand that he doesn't have to forgive you
No matter how much you want to improve the relationship, he is not obligated to forgive you. There are times when you have to learn from your mistakes and move on with your life with someone else.
