One of the main aspects of being an adult is to behave like an adult so that you are respected by others and have independence. This article describes some tips that you can apply in your daily life so that you can be responsible and show maturity, no matter your age. A mature mindset helps you control your emotions and experience new things. As you go about your daily life, try to achieve your goals and complete tasks independently so you don't have to rely on other people. When communicating with other people, the habit of thinking before speaking and being a good listener makes you seem more mature. Learn to show maturity every day so that others will respect you!
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Method 1 of 3: Showing Emotional Maturity
Step 1. Think carefully before making a decision, instead of acting impulsively
When faced with several options, take time to consider each option. Determine the purpose of the decision and then write down the positive and negative aspects of each option. Instead of choosing the easiest option, think about all the steps you can afford. After considering various decision alternatives, choose the one that best supports the achievement of goals.
- If you can't decide on the best option, ask people you can trust for advice.
- You may make spontaneous decisions every now and then, such as hanging out with friends if you are invited and have free time or eating at a restaurant because you don't have time to cook dinner.
- Be assertive when making decisions so that you appear reliable, rather than simply going along with what other people want.
Step 2. Control anger or irritation to prevent impulsive behavior
Once you start to get angry or upset, take deep breaths to calm yourself so you don't throw a tantrum or fight. If you want to be alone, go elsewhere to clear your head and understand the problem from an objective perspective. If you want to meet someone or discuss an issue that makes you angry, speak calmly while explaining what you are thinking and feeling.
It's normal to feel angry or upset, but don't let these feelings get you out of control. Instead of keeping your feelings under wraps and keeping them to yourself, express how you feel
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write down your feelings in a diary to ease them. Also, take note of why you got angry, how you reacted, and how you felt when you got angry.
Step 3. Take responsibility for your actions if you are guilty
Don't blame other people, even though you made a mistake. Instead, sincerely apologize to the person affected and express remorse. Ask him to forgive you and try to work things out. Despite the consequences, this move makes you sound mature and trustworthy.
- For example, apologize by saying, "Sorry, I accidentally broke your glass. I'm sorry. If necessary, I'll buy a new glass later.
- Don't lie to other people because this behavior makes you hard to believe.
Step 4. Be positive and always optimistic so that you can overcome difficulties
Focus on the positive, instead of thinking about anything bad or negative. Take a bad experience as a learning opportunity and determine what needs to be improved. If you're having trouble thinking positively, write down fun things or activities you look forward to to make you feel happy.
- For example, if you don't pass an exam, you may be upset that you didn't focus on your studies. Instead of regretting the situation, try to improve your test scores, for example by studying harder or reading the subject matter more carefully.
- Negative attitudes or behaviors discourage other people from interacting with you and perceive you as immature.
- Failure is a part of everyday life. Don't beat yourself up when you fail.
Step 5. Have an open mind so you don't judge others
If someone gives a conflicting opinion or says confusing things, ask questions instead of judging them. Try to understand his perspective so that you understand what he is saying. In addition, dare to leave your comfort zone so that you can gain new experiences and knowledge.
- Open up your horizons by learning a new skill or starting a new hobby.
- Do activities that feel uncomfortable so that you can learn and develop into a more mature person.
- Join a community whose members have different backgrounds and perspectives.
Step 6. Be humble so that you don't come across as envious of others
You are considered selfish if you want to beat others or boast. Use envy to improve yourself, instead of putting others down. Write down the good things you have or earned so that you can appreciate yourself and your successes so far.
Don't try to get attention because you seem like you're forcing yourself to be considered an adult
Method 2 of 3: Taking Mature Actions
Step 1. Demonstrate persistence by completing challenging tasks
Starting something and then stopping halfway makes you seem unreliable. Instead of giving up, break the task down into easy-to-do activities to make it feel lighter. Try to complete the task as best you can without rushing. Set aside time to deliver high-quality work so that you appear responsible and able to complete challenging tasks.
- For example, if you have to write a paper in 2 weeks, do it a little at a time each day, instead of writing hastily the day before the deadline.
- Ask for help or advice if you're overwhelmed or don't know the next step.
Step 2. Do the task independently, instead of having someone else do it for you
Do not shift responsibility to others because you seem lazy to work. Write down what needs to be done and then try to do it yourself. Get to work as soon as possible so you don't run out of time. Allow enough time to complete each task so that you get the best results.
- You can ask other people for help if you don't know how or if your physical condition prevents you from working. Instead of passing the responsibility on to someone else, ask him to teach you how so that in the future, you will be able to do the work yourself.
- Don't take advantage of the kindness of the person who offers to help.
Step 3. Determine work targets according to SMART criteria to increase self-esteem
SMART targets mean goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, useful, and deadlines so that you feel successful when the task is done. Set work targets that are easy to monitor and achieve within a certain timeframe. Record work progress in a diary or agenda so that you know the activities that have been and must be done to achieve the target.
- For example, write a goal, "Lose 3 kg in 3 weeks", instead of setting an ambiguous goal, for example, "Lose weight".
- In addition to short-term targets, set long-term targets so that there is something to strive for.
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do not set targets that are difficult to achieve. For example, set a target A grade for 2-3 subjects to make it easier to achieve, instead of wanting to get an A in all subjects.
Step 4. Show concern for others by providing assistance
Helping another person is a way of showing concern and unselfishness so that he or she respects you. Instead of thinking only of yourself, try to put yourself in the other person's shoes so that you understand what they want. Offer to help or do a selfless favor, such as holding the door for the person behind you or tidying the house without being asked.
Don't help others to impress you because this is not sincere. Show genuine concern for the other person and the task he or she has to do
Step 5. Do selfless kindness as a way of loving others
Do something you wouldn't normally do because you want to be nice to someone else. Make sure you share kindness sincerely, instead of being seen as kind or mature. Start this step by removing 1 thing from the weekly routine to accompany other people to do what he wants.
For example, cancel plans to play video games on the weekends so you can travel with family members
Step 6. Be prepared to accept circumstances that cannot be controlled
Sometimes, your desires are not fulfilled and bad things happen that cannot be changed. Accept what happened and don't let it have a negative impact on you. Try to see the good side of every event so that you can take lessons and apply them in your daily life.
- For example, if your car is scratched by a microbus, don't worry about the scratched car door. Instead, be thankful that you and the other person weren't injured.
- As another example, if you and your family moved to another city, imagine how nice it would be to meet new friends and visit new locations.
Method 3 of 3: Communicating Like an Adult
Step 1. Think before you speak to consider what you want to say
Before responding to someone, take a moment to consider the message and the sentence you want to convey. Choose words that match your intentions. Stop talking if you haven't found the right word, instead saying an insert, for example, "what is it?" or "umm". Make sure you speak clearly so that the other person doesn't get confused.
- You may sound immature and impulsive if you just say what's on your mind.
- Don't gossip or badmouth other people because this behavior makes others distrust you.
- If you're not ready to respond, ask the other person to give you a chance to consider options before making a decision.
Step 2. Don't complain too much
When faced with a serious problem, it's natural to complain, but don't be negative or make excuses for complaining. Be grateful for what you have and the goodness you experience. Be a person who is always grateful by saying thank you and showing concern for people who help you.
- For example, instead of complaining because you don't like the menu that is served at the dinner table, be grateful because there are ready-to-eat dishes.
- It's natural for you to disagree with someone or complain occasionally.
Step 3. Listen actively to the interlocutor to show him respect
When talking to other people, make eye contact and nod your head occasionally to show that you are listening. Follow the other person's body language, such as leaning slightly towards him or mimicking his posture to make you feel more connected to him. When it's your turn to speak, take the time to understand what he's saying and then paraphrase it so he knows you're listening.
Don't interrupt the person who is speaking
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don't ignore the person you are talking to by looking at the phone screen or distracting them because you don't seem to care about them.
Step 4. Show your stand when someone belittles you
If the other person says something you think is rude or contradictory, take your stand and express how you feel. Don't yell or fight with him. Calmly explain why you are upset so that he respects you. If he continues to talk rudely, leave it so you don't get angry or get into trouble with him.
- For example, if a friend makes fun of the clothes you're wearing, tell him, "I mind you making fun of me. This is my favorite dress and most importantly, I'm fine."
- Show confidence when you speak so others can see your sincerity and feel appreciated.
Step 5. Don't be rude or negative to others
If you disagree with the other person, ask for clarification, instead of speaking in a high-pitched voice or saying negative words. Try to understand the explanation by repeating what he said from his perspective. Make sure you have an open and objective mind to show that you are a person who is polite and cares about others.
Arguing is common because your opinion is not always the same as someone else's. However, don't get angry or be rude when arguing
Step 6. Thank the person who helped you or gave you something
By being grateful, he knows that you care about him and appreciate what he did. If someone has taken the time to help you, thank them sincerely so you don't sound like you're pretending. Don't complain if what he does is not as expected. Instead, try to look on the bright side.
- For example, if a friend gives you a gift you don't like, you should still say, "Thank you so much for the gift."
- Get in the habit of saying thank you to others during your daily activities. For example, if you're late to pick up a friend, say, "Thanks for waiting."
Step 7. Show a desire to improve by asking for feedback or criticism
Mature individuals continue to learn and develop themselves. For that, ask for advice from someone you can trust. Explain that you need input so he or she knows what to evaluate or give advice. Listen carefully to what he has to say without responding right away so you can understand what he's saying. Consider his advice and advice and then apply it as best you can while living your daily life.
