The busyness of everyday life sometimes makes us feel like walking without a clear direction. Life feels very chaotic because of the many demands of work, family, and other matters that we have to fulfill. So that you can reorganize your daily life, try to make time to rest, go on vacation, chat with close friends, or evaluate the things you have been prioritizing.
Method 1 of 4: Organizing Your Life
Step 1. Use reminders
Live a purposeful life by putting together a schedule so you know what time to be where. That way, you don't have to make last-minute decisions so that all activities can go smoothly as planned.
- Get regular exercise, even if you prefer to hang out with family or friends, even if you have to take your cat to the salon. All activities can be managed properly so that your life runs smoothly.
- Take advantage of the Google Calendar app available on the website (preferably using a mobile phone) to schedule daily activities, pay bills, or make appointments. Set the app to sound an alarm reminding you to do certain activities.
- These days, calendar apps are very easy to get, even on mobile. Take advantage of these facilities and use them regularly so that you are more used to it.
Step 2. Establish a daily routine
Routine is usually a good thing because it is made up of things that are good for oneself and done without much thought, for example: brushing teeth, bathing, combing hair. Unfortunately, so do bad habits. Therefore, start re-evaluating your routine to get rid of bad habits and replace them with good ones.
- Forming good habits is easier than breaking bad habits. Start by recognizing if there are bad habits in your routine and then replace them with the opposite. That way, you can still carry out your regular activities as usual and new good habits will gradually replace bad habits.
- Routines help you maintain the lifestyle you want without feeling burdened by having to make the right decisions. This method helps you to develop good, productive habits so that your life is more focused.
- When thinking about a routine, use visualization to determine what kind of life you want to live each day, week, and month and then implement the steps that must be taken as part of a good routine.
Step 3. Adhere to the schedule you have set
The habit of ignoring important appointments, postponing deadlines, and finishing tasks at the last second only leads to chaos. This lifestyle will eliminate the opportunity to become a more developed person. You also don't get to meet friends and colleagues to work together and socialize. In addition, tasks will continue to pile up on your desk.
- Don't overlook the little things. It's natural for you to forget every now and then, but the habit of neglecting the little things can pile up your workload and lead to confusion.
- If you haven't done a certain routine or activity until it's finished, try to complete the task as best you can so that it remains a part of your schedule.
- For example, if you haven't had time to exercise, try to walk quickly to your destination; if you haven't had time to finish writing the article, write one paragraph; If you don't have time to cook, make a salad.
Method 2 of 4: Keeping Expectations
Step 1. Show concern
Family, friends and colleagues look forward to having you at family events, social events or other gatherings. As part of a “family” or “team,” your absence can have a negative impact. Therefore, take advantage of these expectations so that you are able to focus on living a more purposeful life and prioritizing the things that are most important.
- You don't have to be a team member. Make new friends while doing fun activities. For example, if you enjoy exercising, take the time to meet new friends and invite them to work out together. After some time, they will wait for your arrival to practice together.
- Think of it this way: a team needs the participation of all its members in order to successfully achieve its goals. By being part of a successful team, your contribution makes you motivated and feel valued. Don't go through life doing nothing, try to live up to your expectations and stay focused on your goals.
Step 2. Focus on the things you can do
Many people often think about what they want to achieve or have, but after that start looking for reasons why they haven't got it. These negative thought patterns tend to trigger depression or a sense of hopelessness that will distract them so that their lives seem to lose direction.
- In order to be able to focus again on the goals you want to achieve, reflect by thinking about what are the obstacles so that your desires have not been fulfilled. Instead of thinking, "I don't have time, "I don't have money," or "I don't have experience," focus on your abilities and be positive.
- Remember that many people who achieve success started from the same conditions as you: lack of money, time, and experience. Just like them, set goals that are realistic and you can achieve while building self-confidence and gaining experience. Tell yourself, "I can do it" as a source of motivation.
- Making progress with the time, money, and skills you have is still better than daydreaming about what you can't do. Do whatever you can and feel the power that comes from making progress.
Step 3. Focus on the little things
Many people think more about the end result to be achieved, but the goal will be more difficult to achieve if we ignore the little things. Efforts made based solely on the end goal make you overlook the details that make a big difference. As a result, you jump to conclusions without knowing the patterns and relationships that play an important role in determining success. As such, you're likely to have a hard time finding the connections between the different views that play an important role in understanding thoroughly what you need to do to achieve your ultimate goal.
- Find a balance so you don't get overwhelmed and lose sight of your goals. You can imagine the ultimate outcome, but remember that reaching your goals will be more satisfying if you pay attention to the little things.
- Write down the process or steps that must be taken to achieve the goal. After that, think about the things you need to do for each of these steps and do it, for example: create a work plan, look for inspiration on a website, or create a floor plan.
- Evaluate each time you complete a certain step and make a summary of the final results you achieved.
Step 4. Create an environment that supports success
Motivation, inspiration, and determination can be lost at any time and sometimes difficult to maintain. Therefore, create an environment that makes it easier for you to achieve success, for example by finding people, friends, and activities that have a positive effect on your behavior.
- Your environment can affect you in a number of ways. The paintings on the walls, your desk, the coffee shops you visit, and the people you meet will influence your actions. Make sure you are aware of these influences and change them by creating the best possible environment.
- The environment also affects mood. Choose an environment that provides a sense of comfort, good lighting, fresh air, and allows you to meet happy people.
- Environmental changes also affect behavior. If you are forgetful, make changes so that the new environmental conditions are more conducive to your success. For example, start small by placing your journal next to your house key. This way, you'll remember to keep a journal before you leave the house, so you don't have to remember the task and reduce stress.
Step 5. Prioritize your interest in achieving success
Determine what you are really interested in and make your life more purposeful. Don't get caught up in chasing after things you don't like because if you fail, it will trigger negative feelings if you think of yourself as a loser. Do activities wholeheartedly so that the chances of success are even greater.
- If you find it difficult to reach multiple goals at once, work on reaching them one at a time. You will work hard until you succeed if you have to reach a goal or form a certain habit that you are truly passionate about. If not, it may not be of your interest.
- Living a purposeful life is not an easy thing. Therefore, try to anticipate the emergence of obstacles, mistakes, and problems, but never give up. Make a well-thought-out plan so you can live the life you want again.
Method 3 of 4: Stay Focused
Step 1. Challenge your fears
Living in fear makes you lose your way. Many people make decisions based on fear of the future. Don't let fear get in the way of the success that awaits you because no one knows what will happen in the future. Be a responsible person by being consistent, reliable, and innovative.
- Actions can spark enthusiasm. Admitting that you are afraid is a way of overcoming your fear and opening up opportunities to get to know who you really are.
- Positive thinking can bring success. Instead of always anticipating the worst, learn to expect the best in everything you do.
- Rely on the support of family and friends. They are usually able to see your strengths when you forget them yourself. They will also compliment you and encourage you.
Step 2. Restore your life
A failure is usually followed by a subsequent failure. Break the cycle by changing your life in favor of success. To restore your life again, try to live life with the right perspective so that you can achieve the best in every aspect of life. In other words, live a daily life that is in harmony with your dreams and aspirations.
- Breaking the cycle of failure is not easy. In order to restore life, you must interrupt your thoughts, actions, or feelings. These three things are related, but changing one will change the other two.
- You can interrupt your thoughts by improving how you respond to problems. Interrupting thoughts is not easy, but you can learn by reading books and articles, consulting with experts or colleagues, discussing with friends to get new views.
- You can interrupt your feelings by channeling your emotions and forming positive thoughts that produce the desired results, for example by keeping a journal, evaluating your goals regularly, interacting with positive people, thinking positive ideas, and changing physical conditions that make you feel better. positive.
- You can interrupt an action by changing the activity. You may need to do some trial and error before deciding what activities you want to prioritize, but start by implementing new ideas as soon as possible, changing habits, stopping negative behavior, and determining the most beneficial way.
Step 3. Make a commitment to a new priority
Beware of the emergence of old habits because these are usually difficult to break. Make commitments that make you feel responsible and ready to take on new priorities. Commitment isn't enough to just change your actions, but you have to change your attitude.
- Set aside 15 minutes/day to think about what makes you excited, relaxed, and happy and then write it down to make it easier for you to focus on those feelings.
- Reject things you don't like or are self-defeating. If this seems difficult, ask friends or family for support so they can help you.
- Get into a daily routine, such as taking a morning walk, listening to quiet music, or relaxing in the park so you can enjoy solitude to evaluate daily activities and remember new priorities.
Step 4. Evaluate your decision
Remember that your decisions have a big impact on your life. Change will not happen until you evaluate the lifestyle that you have applied so far. In general, people feel lost because they made the wrong decision. Therefore, make decisions that are in line with your goals. Otherwise, you will suffer from wrong decisions or choose not to make decisions. Both of these things make you feel helpless and prevent you from making positive life changes.
Start restoring your life by making quality decisions. After that, you must commit to running it so that your goals can be achieved
Method 4 of 4: Recovering from a Traumatic Experience
Step 1. Recognize the symptoms you are experiencing
Recognize that trauma is caused by an abnormal environment, such as a job loss, divorce, or an embarrassing experience. While the experience may leave you feeling helpless, you will recover more quickly if you know the help you need by recognizing the symptoms of post-traumatic stress.
- Trauma can be recognized through physical and emotional symptoms. Physical symptoms can include fatigue, difficulty concentrating, restlessness, anxiety, and muscle tension. Emotional symptoms include: feeling shaken, denial, guilt, sadness, irritability, and anxiety.
- These symptoms can last from a few days to several months. Even if you feel better after some time, distractions may occur over time due to painful memories triggered by repeated dates or from seeing pictures, people, or hearing sounds that remind you of the experience.
- Deep sadness is a normal emotion after experiencing trauma. Grief is a natural reaction to trauma. Even if sadness causes suffering, you can share your feelings so it's easier to get support from others. Don't hinder the process of letting go of sadness because it is very necessary for recovery.
Step 2. Talk to someone you trust
After experiencing trauma, it's a good idea to talk to a family member, friend, or colleague about your thoughts, feelings, and reactions to the traumatic event. You can talk indefinitely, so keep talking until you want to stop.
- The people around you play an important role in these conditions. Connect with positive people in an uplifting environment. Emotions can be contagious, so you should be around people who have a lot of positive energy.
- Find family members, friends and colleagues who are ready to accompany and encourage you. They can provide emotional support until you find the right way to recover.
Step 3. Create a positive environment
Being in a safe and secure environment keeps your mind at ease and helps you relieve stress symptoms. Avoid chaotic, messy, or contentious situations. Instead, seek harmony and peace so you can recover faster.
- Buy fresh flowers and decorate your home.
- Light an unscented candle to feel calm and relaxed.
- Open the window blinds so that sunlight enters the room so that it feels warmer and more pleasant.
- Play soft music and read calming books.
- Tidy things that pile up because a chaotic and disorganized environment makes it easy for you to get distracted.
Step 4. Perform activities as usual
Take time to recuperate, but don't keep hiding. Start normal activities and routines as soon as possible. Traumatic events usually throw your life into chaos, but routine will create stability and order will provide a sense of security. Let your life recover again!
- People who have experienced a traumatic event tend to think that they need a lot of time to relax in order to recover. However, you should try to get up again as soon as possible because time is running out. You can use this precious rest opportunity to restore your life.
- Start socializing, even if you're still reluctant. Being in a crowd and doing daily activities makes it easier for you to mingle again in society.
Step 5. Meet nutritional needs and get into the habit of exercising
You have to get enough nutrition and exercise to build mental and emotional strength. Take care of yourself and try to stay healthy and fit. Research has shown that exercise can increase resistance to stress. Turn negative feelings and emotions into positive ones by meeting nutritional needs and exercising.
- Regular exercise helps the body produce the hormones serotonin (which triggers feelings of comfort and happiness), endorphins (functions to reduce pain), and dopamine (regulates brain function to be able to respect yourself and feel pleasure). In addition, exercising will also increase self-esteem and improve sleep patterns. Get used to exercise at least 30 minutes / day.
- Eat a balanced diet to increase energy, keep your mood from changing easily, maintain mental and physical health. Get used to eating foods that contain lots of omega 3 fats, for example: fish, walnuts, and soybeans that help you maintain positive emotions.
- As part of your daily exercise routine, also incorporate some of the relaxation techniques found in stretching, yoga, and meditation exercises to restore balance and relieve stress.
Step 6. Get professional help
If you're having trouble getting over the trauma or the memories are starting to interfere with your life or happiness, it's a good idea to see a psychotherapist. The recovery process usually takes a lot of time, but if you are still experiencing post-traumatic symptoms after several months or years, see a health care professional who can heal the trauma.
- Consult a mental health professional if you have difficulty performing activities at home or at work, suffer from severe anxiety or depression, have frequent memories of traumatic events, stay away from friends and family members, take drugs or alcohol to manage problems.
- Choose a psychotherapist you feel comfortable with and experienced in healing trauma. However, dealing with trauma is often scary and painful because you can remember and experience the traumatic event again. Make sure you feel valued and understood by the therapist.
- A professional therapist should be able to understand your feelings, help you release negative energy, teach you how to control negative emotions, and build mutual trust as part of the recovery process.
Step 7. Focus on the future
Trauma sufferers tend to think about the past more often and the negative things they want to change, but nothing can change the past. Usually, you will think about the traumatic experience, be angry with the other person, and keep wondering what went wrong. To restore your life again, start thinking about positive things that will happen to you in the future.