Finding the right moment to kiss a girl is sometimes confusing. Maybe you're not sure if he sees you as just a friend, or you don't know if he's ready to kiss. If you want to take the romantic step, you have to let him know that you're attracted to him as more than just a friend. Starting a kiss is a direct signal to say that you want to be in a relationship. Forge a deeper bond with him so he wants to kiss you too.
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Part 1 of 3: Cultivating Chemical Bonds
Step 1. Understand the importance of chemical bonds
Chemical bonding is a term used to describe a spark or attraction between two people. Chemical bonds play an important role because this is what distinguishes a love relationship from a friendship. If you are attracted to this girl, you will need to create a chemical bond so that the relationship can develop more seriously towards the first kiss.
Don't worry if you don't feel a chemical bond with him right away. Some couples can grow it over time. But if the bond doesn't develop after a few dates, you may need to take action. You can show a more affectionate attitude or talk candidly about the direction of the relationship
Step 2. Show interactions with your surroundings
Women actually give a chemical response to the figure and behavior of men. He will give a positive physical reaction if your behavior shows that you are good at getting along with other people. For example, let him watch you interact with your friends. At parties, laugh and joke with your male friends. Make sure you do it fairly, don't make it up.
You can also show the same with the girl. Try doing something sweet but simple for him. For example, when he walks into the party room, offer to get him a drink
Step 3. Increase your heart rate
Doing something fun will make your face flush and your heart rate increase, the same reaction when someone is physically excited. Ask her out and do something that gets her adrenaline pumping. One of them is by watching horror movies. He may automatically lean in or hold your hand, especially during scary scenes. This type of touch will open the door for a kiss.
You can also do something challenging. If your city has an amusement park, take him on a roller coaster. The experience is sure to get your heart racing
Step 4. Talk about fun things
Feelings of pleasure increase the desire to make out. So, try to set up a cheerful date atmosphere. Ask him what topics are fun for him. For example, if he's planning a vacation in the near future, ask him to tell you about it.
You can also ask him about his favorite restaurant. Not only will he talk about the good experiences, but you'll also get to know what he likes and doesn't like. Bonus
Step 5. Spend some time alone
Time alone is an opportunity to get to know each other more deeply. Eliminate distractions including cell phones, uninvited guests, or blaring music. Choose a place that offers privacy as well as comfort. He may not be comfortable coming over to your house in the early days of the relationship. You may not feel comfortable kissing her in public, so think carefully about the place you choose to kiss her for the first time.
- Choose activities that the two of you can do together, such as studying together, hiking, or eating. Make sure he understands that the event is for the two of you so you can set expectations.
- If you're dropping him off, saying goodnight is the perfect time to kiss him.
Part 2 of 3: Setting the Right Time
Step 1. Look around
In particular, you have to make sure that you are alone or in an appropriate place to kiss. You don't want to scare her off by trying to kiss her in front of people who shouldn't be there. For example, kissing him in front of his parents is not a good idea at all.
- Sometimes there are times when kissing in public is considered appropriate and reasonable. For example, if you're watching a soccer game and your team scores the winning goal, it might be a natural moment to kiss them because chances are no one is paying attention.
- The best idea is to follow your instincts. If you think a kiss would be inappropriate, don't do it.
Step 2. Choose the right moment
Just as he might not want to be kissed in front of his family, he also didn't want to be kissed at awkward moments. Pay attention to his verbal cues and body language to know when the time is right. If he's talking about an important project at work, it's not the right time. Instead, show that you listen to what he has to say.
If the conversation stops by itself and you both look at each other and smile, that's the perfect moment to kiss
Step 3. Use effective body language
The right timing is determined in part by understanding that you are both open to kissing. Your body should indicate that you want to kiss it. There are many ways to make your point.
- Turn your face to his. Smile and look him in the eye to ensure a positive and open bond. Remember that you have to be sincere, don't force a smile or eye contact as compulsion will put on an unnatural expression that she may find unattractive.
- Keep your focus and show interest by nodding and responding to what he has to say.
- Relax your arms and shoulders by doing whatever feels natural. You can fold your hands or put them in your pocket. If you usually move your hands when you're nervous, maybe both options will keep your hands still.
Step 4. Go beyond touch limits
Some people are more used to initiating physical touch, while others are not. If you haven't had physical contact in your relationship, get your point across by touching it. Touch not only signifies physical closeness but also conveys that you want to be close to him emotionally. Touching is a form of seduction and should be done casually.
- Touch him in reaction to his jokes or approach him without touching him by complimenting his perfume or hair.
- Try touching his hand when you laugh at a joke he tells. You can also pat or rub their shoulders while complimenting them.
- Dancing is the perfect way to cross touch boundaries. Even when accompanied by fast music, there are always plenty of reasons for your hands or other parts of your body to touch while dancing.
Step 5. See her reaction by first touching her face
Once he displays proper body language, continue stroking his face by lifting his chin. If he returns your touch, allows you to come closer, and returns your verbal advances, you can continue to touch his face.
- Bring his face close to yours. Maybe he will feel embarrassed and avert his eyes. Be patient and relaxed while continuing to read his body language.
- If he doesn't respond well when you touch his face, don't go on. Don't make the situation awkward by forcing a kiss.
Part 3 of 3: Kissing Fairly
Step 1. Kiss him lightly
Don't smell too hard, too fast, or too wet. While that first kiss will be a memory you will always remember, you should also enjoy it. Do not rush. Instead, earn his trust by showing that you want to make him comfortable.
Before you start kissing, look him in the eye and lean in closer. Your intuition should tell you when it's a good time to continue with the kiss
Step 2. Don't rush
If you lunge in with a nonchalant kiss, his reaction may be displeased and walk away. Maybe he will also make the atmosphere awkward by laughing. Give him time to prepare, not only to build anticipation, but also to cool off.
Step 3. Read the reaction
Is she smiling and blushing or is she confused and tense? If he reacts positively, continue to flirt or compliment him and express your feelings. If he reacts negatively, just continue the conversation reasonably. Don't babble incoherently or move restlessly.
- If he stays away, respect his instincts. Give him time to understand his own emotions.
- If he smiles, continue your kiss!
Tips
- Brush your teeth and maintain general oral hygiene. If you don't have time to brush your teeth or use mouthwash, always carry menthol candy with you.
- There is no time frame for building a special bond. Continue the relationship at a pace that is comfortable for both of you. If you go too fast, he can get scared. If it's too slow, he'll think you're not interested.
- Show respect in your actions.
- Some girls don't like to kiss passionately the first time, so if he doesn't return it, you'll have to settle for a casual kiss.
