Getting a woman to want you back can be a challenge-especially if your relationship ends badly. However, if you know that there is still a close bond between you, it is worthy of you to take back the dampened embers and then rekindle the fire that has smoldered in the past. If you want to know how to make your boyfriend want you back, then you need to give him space while making him remember how amazing you are. If you want to know how, just follow the steps below.
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Method 1 of 3: Taking a Step Back
Step 1. Give him some space
Even if you think that the best way to get your boyfriend back is to approach him from head to toe, you're actually better off giving him some breathing space than trying to get his love back. Unless the relationship between her and another guy has entered a serious stage, and you need to take action, you should play it cool until he has time to recover his feelings and get a clearer perspective on reconnecting.
- That doesn't mean you really have to cut off communication with him unless you think it's the best way. But you shouldn't text her every 5 minutes and ask her out all the time, unless you want to scare her off.
- If you give him space to himself, he will start to think about you. He would think, “I haven't heard from him lately. That should mean he's fine without me…” This will provoke him to think about what exactly you're doing.
- If he takes the initiative to ask you out together first, that's okay. But don't show feelings that are too strong when you're together.
- Giving him space also signifies your maturity. This makes him want you back even more.
- Needless to say: don't go "too" long before you see him again. Wait a moment for her to have time to recover, but not so long that she forgets the amazing things about you. Every situation will be different - feel it. While it's a general rule, give it at least a few weeks, but no more than two months.
Step 2. Think about what went wrong
When you give your loved one space, don't just sit still and wait for the clock to move until it's time. Better, think about why your relationship ended. If it's something predictable like you didn't give him enough time, that's a good thing. But if it's due to something complicated-a combination of him feeling unappreciated and you're spending more time partying, for example-then all you need to do is pinpoint the issues that are causing your relationship to weaken.
- If he ended the relationship, then you have more challenges in your grasp. Think of all the reasons for ending this relationship; if it ends abruptly, check your old messages or e-mail so you can pinpoint the problem.
- If you are the one who ended the relationship, then you may have a different challenge in your grasp. You have to reassure him that you won't hurt him – again.
Step 3. Plan a trick to solve the problem
Once you know the problem, it's up to you to determine the solution. If there are multiple problems, then, you need to find multiple solutions as well, or an all-in-one solution to these problems. If it ended because you were spending more time with your friends, find a way to make them your top priority by setting up weekly dates and giving them all the new things you want to do with them. If this relationship ends because you cannot communicate properly, practice honesty and compassion every day in your relationship.
- The fixing the problem part will mean you have to rely on yourself. There is no reason not to blame you in this relationship.
- Another part of the plan could mean that you should try to change the way you view it; If his obsession with horses irritates you, find a way to make it less annoying before you can go any further.
- If you have to solve some big problem, then make a long-term plan for you to solve it, whether by going to therapy, letting go of addiction, or improving your personality on a large scale.
Step 4. Work on yourself first
Even if you think you've found the main problem and solution that can win your lover's heart quickly, it's rarely that simple. Instead, you need to make yourself a more desirable person overall. When you come back to your lover, he will see the difference. This means changing yourself from the inside out; While having a new haircut won't impress her, seeing you happy to be alive and knowing you know what you want to show her will catch her attention.
- Spend more time on your passion, be it cycling or mechanical stuff. Being more passionate about the things you find interesting will make you someone to talk to.
- Try to develop good behavior in your life. If he's happy just being around you, then he'll want to keep seeing you.
Method 2 of 3: Make Him Want You Back
Step 1. Make him realize that you are fine without him
If he hears that you are suffering, cries in public, and shouts his name on a street corner, his feelings will go away faster and all you can say is “I miss you!” Instead, you want him to hear-and see-that you spend happily every day without him by your side. He will see you as a person of color and a lot of things have happened in your life, and start to wonder why you are not showing any signs of missing him.
- Casually travel to a place that you both like. Make sure you meet your friends and they see you laughing and passing the time without overdoing it.
- If you meet him at an event, such as a party, don't rush everything, approach him and ask how he's doing. Approach him late-but let him see if you have a busy social life even without him by your side.
Step 2. Let his friends see that he needs you
Fact: you can never get your boyfriend to come back to you if his friends don't approve of it. If their friends don't like you because you're too controlling, don't care about them, or just because you're a bad boyfriend, then your job is to make them think you're not that bad-and it's also useful to pass this information on to your boyfriend.
- If you turn to his friends, try to start small but not too predictable intentions.
- If you talk to his friends, don't talk about him right away. Although you can casually ask how he's doing and that will let him know that you're still in pain, and that you have a chance to be very vulnerable.
Step 3. Slowly approach him when the time is right
Once enough time has passed and you have reintroduced yourself into his life, you need to slowly start making your way back into his life. This could be as simple as stopping for a five-minute chat with her, or casually placing your lunch tray next to hers, or even sending her a message that you're sure she'll like what's playing on TV at this point.
- Stay calm. Be nice to him and make him think that you just want to be friends. Don't shower him with compliments the next time you go out together.
- When you have started the conversation again, raise your stakes. Invite him to do small things, like drink coffee together or check lectures together. Don't ask him to do romantic things for now.
Step 4. Show him that you have changed
You can let him see you've changed without yelling, "Look how different I am now!" Just spend enough time with him to show him you are truly changing your path, if changing yours is a must. If he thinks you're too messy, try to improve your appearance. If he criticizes your habit of being late, then try to always arrive early on the next date. Don't directly state this change; let him see for himself and feel really impressed.
- This change should feel natural to you. Don't change anything about yourself just to impress her, or you'll revert to your former self the first time you date her.
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If you feel like you hurt her when you were dating, it's not too late to apologize. He will be touched by you who pay a lot of attention to the relationship even though the relationship has ended.
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Step 5. Try as hard as you can to get it
So true. Not just because you feel like you want to get your boyfriend back, not just because he finally realized how amazing you are, means that this is a good time to express your love. Instead, create a situation where he feels he still has to fight to get you back. Once you become a frequent traveler with him, make sure you can't always fulfill his travel requests.
- Go disappear for a few hours and make him think where exactly you went. His mind will start thinking about you all the time.
- If you go on a date, talk about him but don't be so descriptive that he thinks he could miss you.
Step 6. Make sure he wants you back
Once you feel like you've grabbed his attention and even made him a little jealous, it's time to check to make sure he really wants you back before you tell him how you really feel. While you don't need to know his feelings 100% for sure, the more certain you are that he wants you back, the less likely you are to embarrass yourself. Here are some signs that he wants you back:
- Pay attention to his body language. When you talk to him, does he move closer to you and try to make eye contact, and does he look down whenever he feels embarrassed?
- See if he's feeling jealous. Does he ask if you've met other women, or seem annoyed if you talk to other women? If so, he probably wants you for himself.
- Observe if he treats you like his girlfriend again. Does he give you hugs, compliments, and ask you out on a date?
Step 7. Tell him how you feel
Once you are absolutely sure that he has the same feelings as you, there is no point in remaining silent. Find the perfect time when you are both alone and find a place that is a little romantic and can give you the privacy you need. Then, look him in the eye and tell him how much you miss him, and how much you want to date him again. You don't have to put yourself down, but you do have to show him that you've thought a lot about the relationship that ended and that you're reassuring him that this time it will be better than the relationship.
- Clear. Show that you are trying to change instead of making empty promises.
- Give him time. If he seems reluctant at first, don't be angry or upset. Remember even though he wants you back, he still wants to protect his own feelings.
Method 3 of 3: Take Care of Your Lover This Time
Step 1. Give your relationship a refreshing start
If you are lucky enough that your boyfriend wants to give you another chance, then you should try to make the best possible start. While you can get back to enjoying the same restaurants, TV shows, and things you both enjoyed, it's important to choose new activities and work around your relationship so it doesn't feel like it was before.
- Although you can bring back good memories. Try to avoid thinking or thinking about the bad things you've been through, unless you can make them a laughing stock together.
- Don't let him turn away. Just because you're dating again doesn't mean you shouldn't take the time to show him how much you care about him.
- Slow down. Think of it like you're starting a new relationship, not jumping back into a past relationship. Don't spend all your time together always, even if you often do it before your relationship ends.
Step 2. Don't make the same mistake
While you shouldn't be constantly worrying about the end of the relationship, you should pay attention to anything that has made your previous relationship fail. If the relationship fails because you spend too much time with your friends and you realize you are with your friends all the time, reduce the habit little by little. And if your relationship ends because of what he did, be honest with him so that it doesn't happen again.
Remember how messy you felt when you made that mistake the first time. You certainly don't want to feel the pain again
Step 3. Don't think too much
While you should be thinking about the mistakes you've made, you shouldn't get too hung up on them or you'll destroy the relationship before you have the chance to fix it. If a bad situation starts to arise, you can remember what happened earlier and deal with it more carefully, but don't keep worrying that you might mess up or you won't be able to enjoy your relationship.
If you're always worried about messing things up, your boyfriend will tell you that he's not enjoying the relationship very much
Step 4. Remember to be yourself
Even if you need a dramatic change (for good) for this relationship, then do it, but you shouldn't be running around like a dog with your tail between its legs because you're trying too hard to change anything that makes you uncomfortable. At the end of the day, your boyfriend starts dating you for who you really are, so don't forget to let him see the side of you that he likes the most.
- If you feel like not being yourself can cause big problems for your relationship, you need to rethink your priorities.
- Believe in yourself. Remember if he loves "you"-not the soft side of you that is desperate for affection from him.
