Easy body language changes can make you more approachable, especially when trying to attract the attention of strangers or acquaintances. People who already know you will be more interested in approaching you for a conversation about something more serious if you display a humble, trustworthy, and confident attitude. You will have to work to change your attitude to this, but your efforts will not be in vain and lead to deeper and more meaningful relationships.
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Method 1 of 3: Using More Approachable Body Language
Step 1. Use an open posture
Keep your head down and your shoulders straight. When sitting, try to lean back slightly and make yourself comfortable. This posture allows your face to be seen easily, instead of being hard to see and covering yourself up.
Step 2. Keep your arms in such a position that you don't appear to be closing in on yourself
Place your arms at your sides or in your lap. If you are holding something or moving your arms, keep your hands near your sides or near your lower torso. Avoid positions that make you look closed, such as crossed arms or arms raised in front of your chest. An overly enthusiastic posture with your arms raised above your head can make you even more difficult to approach, although some psychological studies have differed on this issue.
Step 3. Smile
A smile will make you appear approachable and warm to others. But a fake or forced smile won't work. Think of a happy memory, or a funny joke to encourage a genuine smile.
Step 4. Make eye contact
People prefer to approach someone who is looking directly into their eyes than someone who averts their eyes or avoids their gaze. Long eye contact and a smile will make all the difference. If you want to try something more seductive, here are some alternatives for girls:
- For a bold flirt, try eye contact for a few seconds, smile a little, then slowly look the other way.
- To sound shy and adorable, try making short eye contact with someone who's staring at you, then immediately looking down or the other way and smiling.
Method 2 of 3: Look More Approachable Through Other Methods
Step 1. Avoid objects that block your face
Sunglasses, hats, and scarves can make your face harder to see. Even if these objects don't get in your way right away, their psychological effect makes you appear more introverted and difficult to approach.
Step 2. Put distracting objects
If you're checking your phone or reading a book, other people may not want to approach you. It could be that you missed some of the glances, smiles, and other cues that could lead you to have a conversation with him.
Step 3. Polish your look
It may sound superficial, but people who are trying to polish their appearance will appear more inviting to approach. Try ironing your clothes, learn to dress well, or even completely change your appearance.
Step 4. Pay attention to personal hygiene
Shower and wash your hair regularly, brush your teeth, and keep your nails clean. Wear clean clothes, and remove any debris in your home that can create bad odors on your clothes or accessories.
Method 3 of 3: Approaching Others and Making Relationships
Step 1. Show interest in others
When talking to other people, ask questions about their lives and try to spend more time listening than talking. If he's willing to open up, he may start a deep conversation and be happy to see you showing interest in him. Try to make this a habit so that you too are seen as empathetic and approachable.
If you have trouble picking up social cues, learn to observe other people. Hone your social skills to interact with others more effectively and train yourself to empathize with other people's opinions and thoughts
Step 2. Train yourself to be able to give compliments
If you do, other people will also get a pleasant surprise. Try to compliment a person's appearance, recent actions, or personality. You can make his mood better and make yourself labeled as a fun person. Plus, you may be able to pass this habit of praise on to others.
Step 3. Think of different topics of conversation
If you're trying to make friends, being approachable is just the first step. You have to convince your acquaintances to feel comfortable around you. Before attending an event, think of a few topics to talk about. Don't pick a lot of topics that don't interest you, but try to choose topics that are "popular," such as a new movie or the latest sports news, as you're more likely to run into someone who also wants to talk about the same thing.
Modify your conversation according to the type of event you attend or the place you are in. If most of the people present are students, you can talk about the latest news on campus or other academic topics. At concerts and other events, you can talk about the bands performing, people or art that you are all watching or observing
Step 4. Prepare answers to common questions
If someone asks, "How are you?" and you answer, "Fine," the conversation isn't going anywhere. Be prepared for common questions like these and tell the person asking something interesting that's happened in your life. This can lead to conversations that flow well, not awkward silences.
Step 5. Know how to respond to differences in culture
Stereotypes, workplace politics, and opinions about fashion can all make someone less attracted to you. Try asking about etiquette in a new city, workplace, or community. Many differences such as differences based on gender, age, and ethnicity are unavoidable. However, you should understand that many spontaneous reactions based on these differences are automatic and unconscious reactions. Therefore, this reaction may not reflect the person's personal opinion. If you are trying to start a conversation or make friends, you may notice the different reactions that are given.
Step 6. Avoid rude comments and gossip
Even if they're made as a joke, sadistic comments can irritate the other person and make you look impolite. Try not to get involved in gossip either, as that can earn you a reputation as a person who likes to spread secrets or talk behind their backs.
Step 7. Try to involve the other person in the conversation
Give the newcomer space to enter the conversation by introducing him or her or asking what his name is. If he's confused by a joke that only certain people understand, explain it to him. Don't assume someone wants to be left alone just because he or she isn't joining in on the conversation or being invited to social events. Try to approach other people and maybe you will get more and deeper friendships.
Step 8. When you hear a secret, try to keep it well
Show others that they can trust you. If you keep your word and don't betray someone's trust, even if that person really doesn't like you, those around you will see it and see you as someone they can trust. Even if you think the secret is unimportant, don't share it.
