Talking naughty with your partner in bed isn't always easy. Research has shown that sexual communication is associated with increased sexual satisfaction. The more comfortable you are talking naughty, the more comfortable you are doing sexual acts. Talking dirty can open up important conversations outside of the bedroom, such as making love using safety, things you like and don't like, or even about mutual consent. Maybe you are a person who likes to spice up the atmosphere of love making it hotter.
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Method 1 of 3: Naughty Talking in the Bedroom
Step 1. Start simple
There is no need to rush to pronounce the words you have previously practiced. Position yourself near your partner's ear. Once intimacy is established, whisper the following words into your partner's ear:
- "Mmmmm…"
- "Ohhhh…"
- "Ngg…"
- "Ahhhh…"
Step 2. Heat the atmosphere
You don't need to say a complete sentence at this stage. One or two words are enough to heat up a naughty chat with your partner. Try whispering these words into your partner's ear or with a sigh:
- "Keep on…"
- "Wow…"
- "Faster…"
- "Deeper…"
- "Do not stop…"
Step 3. Say it in full
Once you are comfortable saying simple words, this means you are ready to say them in full. Both long and short phrases are equally effective and vary depending on the couple and the situation. If you're confused about what to say, try the following examples:
- "Very delicious"
- "I want to feel you more deeply"
- "I want to be yours"
- "Keep going!"
Step 4. Say how you feel
You don't have to think too much about the technicalities of talking naughty during sex. Just say what you felt, what you did, or what you were thinking at the time. When you start talking naughty in the bedroom, avoid using words that are too harsh until you are sure about your partner's reaction.
Step 5. Discuss which conversations worked and which didn't
After the naughty talk, take some time to talk about which words did and didn't work in the heat of love. You can't become an expert overnight, so you should take the time to chat with your partner about what you're passionate about and what's not. The best time to talk about this is right after sex, when you and your partner are relaxing and want to enjoy each other's company more.
Step 6. Ask your partner to reply to you
If you feel the need, whisper to your partner, "Come on, you talk bad to me too." You will feel even words like these will heat up the atmosphere. Maybe your partner will also be excited by these words.
Step 7. Say naughty words as foreplay (warm up before sexual intercourse)
Many couples who start foreplay by talking naughty with each other. Call your partner and tell them that you really want to meet. Say simple sentences like “I want to kiss and bite your neck.” Making your partner "hot" with naughty remarks will make for a great night.
Step 8. Practice your voice
If the result does sound natural, change your voice when you are close to your partner. Changing the way you speak when expressing how you're feeling will improve both you and your partner's mood. Either way, shouting, whispering, or sighing, just express what you're feeling. However, still respect your partner's wishes and be careful not to make your partner uncomfortable.
Method 2 of 3: Communicating Without Words
Step 1. Sigh at the right time
You don't have to always say something to heat things up during sex. Research has shown that nonverbal communication is more related to sexual satisfaction than verbal communication. Sighing is an easy first step and won't make you feel awkward. This will actually make the atmosphere hotter.
Don't sigh too much
Step 2. Let your breath sound louder than usual
Increasing the volume of your voice when you inhale or exhale will make your intimacy more pronounced.
Step 3. Take advantage of body language
You can tell a lot to your partner just by biting your lip gently. Even when you don't mean to say something on purpose, body language actually says a lot. Be careful if you get angry easily, because this will be read through body language. Therefore, it is very important to understand your body language before having sex and use it during sexual intercourse.
The position you choose can explain a lot. For example, if you choose the position above, you have full power to set the rhythm of pleasure for you and your partner
Step 4. Use eye contact
At the right time, eye contact can say a lot in the bedroom. Eye contact is a good way to get things started. During sex, eye contact can help you read your partner's facial expressions and predict what makes him more excited.
Method 3 of 3: Relaxation and Preparation
Step 1. Practice relaxing
If you're not used to talking naughty in the bedroom, you're going to feel restless and worried. This will burden your mind and destroy the intimacy between you and your partner. Practice breathing exercises or try yoga.
Step 2. Forget your worries about sexiness
Focus on the moment. If you tend to feel insecure, prepare your bedroom or dress specifically to boost your confidence. Set up dim light by using candles or lamps wrapped in a blanket to create a cozy atmosphere.
Step 3. Watch a romantic movie
Don't look for inspiration for naughty talk from porn. Porn is a bad example of a couple's intimacy. Watch a good movie like Match Point, Unfaithful, or Y Tu Mama Tambien. These films are suitable to be watched with your partner as a boost to the hot atmosphere.
Step 4. Just enjoy
These steps need not be taken too seriously. It's more fun when you can play with words and come up with new ideas.
Step 5. Look for different adjectives
Say it aloud to yourself or use the words in your usual sentences. Also, the more comfortable you are with words like "sexy," "breasts," "vagina," or "penis," the more natural they will sound. All of these are just part of the anatomy of the human body.
Step 6. Add a verb to the adjective you choose
By doing this, you will have new phrases. Commonly used verbs are "prick", "squeeze," "suck" or touch.
Tips
- It's not about what you say, but how you say it. No problem, say anything!
- Practice on your personal time. This will give you a better understanding of what you expect and what your partner might expect.
- You don't need to use too many words. There are no hotter naughty words than classics like "so good" or "don't stop."
Warning
- You certainly don't want to embarrass yourself, so boost your confidence. Your partner will appreciate your efforts, no matter how small.
- Start slowly and build up your confidence as time goes on.
