Sometimes, a relationship can feel very confusing because of the gender differences of the parties involved. As a man, make sure you keep in mind the fact that men and women are two different beings and so often have different wants and needs. Women tend to show an extraordinary interest in things that are emotional and likes to communicate their emotions to those closest to them. If you've always been confused about the best way to treat your girlfriend, try reading this article to find the answer!
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Method 1 of 3: Becoming a Better Friend
Step 1. Find common interests and invite him to do it together
This method is effective in strengthening your relationship with him; especially since friendships are generally initiated by two people who share similar interests. Believe me, the pleasant experience he had with you will be a positive memory that he will not forget for a lifetime.
- So that you don't send the wrong signal, at least state the amount he has to spend to participate in the activity. By doing so, you are confirming that he is a friend, not your date.
- You could also take her out to a restaurant, go to an amusement park, attend a friend's birthday party, take an art class, or do whatever else you both enjoy.
- If you run out of options, just chat with him at his house (or yours) and watch your favorite movie all day long.
Step 2. Have a genuine and open conversation
Humans build attachment through conversation, especially if the topic raised has a very close relationship with their emotional state. That's why, the more you both talk about each other's life issues, the stronger the relationship between you will be. Also, make sure you're willing to listen to his fears and emotions; don't be afraid to do the same even if it means you have to "weak" yourself in front of him.
- Don't criticize him after he's raised his problem. Trust me, the last thing he wants to hear from your mouth is that he made a mistake that he already knows.
- Always listen and understand his perspective before giving advice.
- By asking his advice, you have increased the openness between the two of you; chances are, he'll also look to you if he needs advice or opinions from others.
Step 3. Give her a reasonable compliment
You will definitely feel better and motivated after receiving a compliment, right? Praise him every time you admire his accomplishments. But try not to compliment her physical appearance; be careful, he can feel uncomfortable because the status of the two of you are just friends. Try to understand the signal he is giving by the way he compliments you. If he never compliments your physical appearance, then it's best not to do it to him.
Don't make compliments like, "You're beautiful" or similar compliments about how you look
Method 2 of 3: Keeping Friendship Strength
Step 1. Keep in touch with him
Over time, maintaining a relationship is not as easy as turning the palm of the hand. Therefore, make sure you try harder to maintain communication with him (eg by calling or texting him regularly). If the two of you still live close together, make sure you always take him out to various events you attend. Make sure you also remember his birthday and visit him on that day.
- If your friend has to move to another city, make sure you stay in touch via social media.
- If your friend is busy, approach him or her. Trust me, he'll really appreciate it if you take the time to see him.
Step 2. Accept the invitation
The more often you accept an invitation, the more likely it is to ask you to travel again. This is especially important if he's taking you on a trip to an event he doesn't really want to attend either; by inviting you, it's a sign that he needs a friend to make the event more enjoyable.
- If you're busy and can't accept his invitation, make sure you decline his invitation ahead of time so he can quickly find a replacement for you.
- If you don't want to accept the invitation, don't be afraid to turn it down. Don't let your negative energy worsen the interaction process between the two of you.
Step 3. Give him the emotional support he needs
The wheel of life is always turning and everyone needs a supporter who can provide emotional support when needed.
- A good friend always knows when it's time to "leave" his friend for a while. If he's feeling alone and grieving in his own way, make sure you give him the distance and time he needs. Don't be obsessive!
- Emotional support is also needed in a stressful but happy situation, such as before a sporting event or singing on stage.
Step 4. Don't try to turn a friendship into a romantic one unless he wants to
The easiest way to destroy friendships with the opposite sex is to insert romance into them. Don't make her feel uncomfortable or sad that she can't accept your feelings! Remember, friendship can turn into a romantic relationship only if both parties want it.
- If you like him more than just a friend, make sure he knows it. But be careful, your confession may be able to ruin your friendship with him.
- If your friend wants to turn a friendship into a romantic relationship and if you don't mind, feel free to do so. Remember, the best romantic relationships are built on friendship.
Method 3 of 3: Meeting New Girlfriends
Step 1. Attend activities or social events that are generally also attended by women
Bookmark popular events taking place in your city, then participate if you know they will be attended by potential female friends. If possible, try taking classes that are also common among women. Meeting new people is actually not as difficult as moving mountains; most importantly, you must be willing to assert your existence by constantly appearing around the woman you want to be friends with.
- If your opportunities for socializing are limited, try to be creative. Trust me, women you deserve to be friends with can be found anywhere, like in markets, places of worship, gyms, or even shopping centers.
- School is the perfect place to meet new friends. Approach the woman you want to befriend before or after class.
Step 2. Introduce yourself
Say your name, then ask for his name. Start the conversation by sharing what each other is doing, or discussing where you met at that time.
- If you have trouble approaching new people, the only way to reduce your nervousness is to do so without hesitation! The worst thing that can happen is that he won't talk to you, right?
- Good questions include, “This place is a lot of fun, isn't it. Do you like it too?” or “Lecture just now was boring, right?”.
- Try to appear confident but not demanding. Speak to him as if you were talking to your male friends (but a little more politely!).
Step 3. Find common interests and talk to him about the topic
Chances are, the woman must have the same interests as you (especially since the two of you met in the same social activities). For example, if the two of you met at a sports club, chances are that you both enjoy working out. If the two of you meet in painting class, it's a sign that you both love painting. Try to find an interest that can "tie" the two of you together and build a conversation around that topic.
- Try to be relaxed and pleasant when talking to women. If you can make him laugh, chances are he won't hesitate to get to know you better.
- Be a good listener and let him talk. The more often you ask questions, the more likely you are to open up and feel comfortable around you. Make sure you're giving your responses and opinions, but staying focused on being a good listener.
Step 4. Get the phone number
Once you get to know him better, make sure you ask for his cell number. Don't be afraid to ask for it, especially if the two of you are having a good conversation. Let him know that you really enjoyed talking to him, then ask him if he'd like to talk again next time. If he wants, ask for his cell phone number.
- If the conversation isn't smooth or pleasant, chances are he won't give you his cell number.
- If you're not sure when it's a good time to leave the conversation, ask him directly before the conversation ends.
Step 5. Take her on a trip via text message
Think of an activity the two of you can do, then ask him if he'd like to see you. You can take him out to lunch, rock climbing, or watch a concert by a band you both love. If you're having trouble deciding what activities you can do, try to remember things you've talked about, then find activities that both of you find interesting. Don't try to make things romantic or seduce her through text messages; be careful, you could send the wrong signal for it. You can even point out right away that for now, you're not looking for a date.
- Don't text too often if he rarely or never responds to your messages. Most likely, he is very busy or simply reluctant to talk to you. Don't look desperate! Don't make him angry or bothered by your presence.
- You can also share cute and interesting pictures via text messages.
- Always send a polite and friendly message. Remember, he won't be able to hear your intonation in a text message, so make sure you don't speak sarcastically as he's vulnerable to being taken literally.
- If he texts you often, make sure you always reply to his messages. Observe the intensity of texting, then try to adjust to the habit.
