Fall in love with your best friend? It's natural that the situation is difficult for you. On the one hand, you're thinking of confessing your feelings to him; but on the other hand, you are afraid to accept rejection. Do not worry; if he has always shown a positive reaction to you, he is likely to be attracted to you too. Instead of waiting for him to act first, why don't you try to take the initiative to confess your feelings to him? After all these days, many women have done it!
Step
Step 1. Before applying one or more of the methods in this article, make sure the two of you are good friends before
In other words, make sure you can both joke around, have fun, and have a serious conversation without judging each other. If that foundation hasn't been laid, implementing the steps below will have no effect on your relationship.
Method 1 of 4: Expressing Feelings Casually
Step 1. Choose this method if the two of you can chat intensely for a long time
Step 2. Take him to a fairly private location
If he's with friends, try taking him away from them for a while. Careful; most likely, he wouldn't be able to give the most honest reaction around his friends.
Step 3. Start talking about things related to love
Try to talk about love in general, not your love for him, in whatever way you see fit.
Step 4. Touch the topic gradually
No matter how shy you are, try not to show it. Instead, be as casual as possible by saying, "I like you more than just a friend."; you can even show a slight frustration and explain that these feelings have been weighing you down long enough to have to let them out at the time. can take your relationship one step further in a more serious direction.
Step 5. Remember, don't ask her out right then and there
No matter how much you want, try to hold it in if you don't want your relationship to deteriorate. Give him a few weeks or even a month to digest your confession and get comfortable with the new facts. After he is ready, then you can ask him out.
On the other hand, if you just want to express your feelings without expecting to date them, try to remain normal afterward. At least, be happy because the secret you have kept for too long is no longer a burden on you
Method 2 of 4: Expressing His Sympathy
Step 1. Choose this method if you're afraid he'll overreact when he hears your confession
Step 2. Make him realize that you look a little weird
For example, try looking at him with worried eyes and being quieter than usual.
Step 3. If he asks what's wrong, cover your face and start crying (if possible)
After that, say, "There's something I want to talk to you about."
Step 4. Try saying, “Actually I've been keeping something from you all along
Since I can't keep it any longer, I'll tell you the secret now.” Make him think that the secret is much worse than it should be!
Step 5. State your feelings
At this point, he's likely to think you're dying or have some other serious problem; To prevent his thoughts from running wild, express your feelings right away! He may laugh or sigh with relief that your confession isn't as terrible as he thought it would be.
Step 6. Be patient
If you want to be in a more serious relationship with him, share your feelings a few weeks later. Make sure you've been throwing implicit signals a few days in advance to make him feel more "prepared" when he hears your confession.
Method 3 of 4: Expressing Feelings Clearly
Step 1. Make it clear how you feel if you're getting too frustrated with second-guessing her reaction
Step 2. Flirt with him in a casual way
Don't tease or seduce her too much! Make sure you do it gradually over a short period of time (usually it can take several weeks or even months to do this); slowly, increase the intensity of your flirting and/or seduction!
Step 3. Perform the last step
At this stage, it's likely that the two of you have been signaling each other regularly for weeks. If you haven't been complimenting him all this time, do it! After that, look him in the eye until your eyes meet; when he looks at you, quickly avert your eyes (make your cheeks flush if possible).
Step 4. Make your feelings as clear as possible
Tell him plainly that you like him. At this stage, you don't have to wait any longer to express your feelings; just wait for a day or two to pass, and let him know that you want to be in a more serious relationship with him.
Method 4 of 4: Conveying Feelings through Secret Letters
Step 1. Make sure he doesn't like other women
One way to find out is to say, “I've been single for a long time. If he doesn't know your status yet, make sure you explain it casually when you talk to him. Chances are, he's still single or in an independent relationship with another woman. Remember, make sure he's not tied to anyone and don't want to be anyone's cheating partner!
Step 2. Send an anonymous letter expressing your love
If the two of you are good friends, he's more likely to share his feelings after receiving the letter; if he doesn't, try observing his behavior. For example, observe his reaction when he reads your letter; a common reaction he might show is to look around before opening the letter, and then read it for a longer time than it should (especially since his brain is trying to guess who sent the letter).
Step 3. Admit that you wrote it
If he tells you the letter and says he wants to know who wrote it, admit that you wrote and sent the letter.
If he thought the writer of the letter was a strangely aggressive woman, he was likely just reluctant to admit that deep down, he wished the writer of the letter was someone he also liked. After observing his reaction, decide if you want to admit that you wrote and sent the letter. If you dare to admit that the "aggressive and weird woman" is you, chances are she will be surprised, apologize, and confess her love for you. If that's not the case, at least the two of you can still be good friends; After all, neither of you know what the future holds, do you?
Step 4. Be generous
After confessing your feelings, make it clear to him that he doesn't need to reciprocate your feelings; also make it clear that you hope the statement does not damage your friendship.
- If your feelings are one-sided, at least say that you hope the situation won't ruin the friendship you already have.
- If he doesn't want to take the relationship further, don't worry too much. Remember, there are still many fish in the sea waiting for you to catch. After all, even if your feelings are rejected, the two of you can still be good friends, right?
Tips
- Don't assume the reaction. Be careful, holding onto assumptions will only make the situation feel a lot more awkward than it needs to be. Also, don't take things too dramatically.
- If he's a good friend, he shouldn't stop interacting with you or sharing your confessions with others (even if he rejects you!). A good friend would know that such a situation is not for public consumption.
- If he overreacts or even stops interacting with you, act like it's no big deal. Even if your feelings are completely crushed by it, at least don't show it!
- If he already admitted to liking you before you even asked him out, try asking out your date the next day or two. Trust me, the chances of accepting the invitation are much greater in those days!
- Don't let anyone force you to confess your feelings to them.
- If he decides to stop interacting with you and becomes very awkward afterward, try to move on without him. Remember, your time is much more valuable than that!
- If he's unable to act maturely, try to resist the urge to confess to him, no matter how much you want it.
- If your friendship was damaged because he felt awkward after hearing your confession, realize that he is not the right person for you.
- Try saying, "There's something I want to talk to you about. So I just realized that I like someone I've been friends with for a long time." After that, give him a meaningful look. If he looks confused, shrug his shoulders or do something else to regain his focus and attention.
- If he never looks serious in front of his friends but turns 180° in front of you, chances are he likes you too! Next, make sure you're not being too aggressive or possessive, but also not being too awkward as a stranger in front of him.
Warning
- Don't let the situation affect how you both treat each other. Remember, you two are still best friends!
- Don't express your feelings in front of your friends or their friends. Doing so will make him feel uncomfortable and potentially reject your feelings; Plus, he's likely to think you're just teasing him.
- If he recently broke up with someone, don't be in a rush to express your feelings. At least, wait a few months or until he really has moved on and is no longer heartbroken. After all, you'll end up looking desperate if you act immediately after he breaks up.
- Don't express your feelings through other people! The situation between the two of you will be very awkward afterwards; in fact, he probably won't want to interact with you anymore.
- Don't be childish; believe me, this attitude will actually make him reluctant to have a further relationship with you.
- State your feelings directly. Make sure you don't do it via text message so that your friendship doesn't feel awkward afterward.
- Don't express your feelings via email or similar technology; if he doesn't like you, it is feared that he will use the message to tease you or show it off to his friends.
- From time to time, you may seduce or tease him; however, make sure you don't overdo it so it doesn't look weird in his eyes. When you meet him, show your happiness. When traveling with him, make jokes with him and provide a casual physical touch; in other words, don't walk along the school hallways constantly stroking her cheeks! If he's flirting with you, try hitting his arm lightly; if he gets in your way, ask him to shift and push him slowly. If he doesn't budge, push him harder while laughing; chances are, he'll turn around to encourage you to respond to the joke.
- Don't express your feelings to someone who already has a boyfriend. Be careful, both of your friendship can be damaged by it (unless the relationship is not too serious and both parties are still open to other people).
