Liking someone can make you feel excited, as well as tense. However, getting a woman to confess her feelings for you is no easy task. Especially if you are also not ready to convey how you feel about him. Treating a girl well, flirting with her, and being honest about your feelings can give her the confidence to admit that she likes you. Once you make him feel comfortable, he'll probably be honest about his feelings.
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Part 1 of 3: Spending Time with her
Step 1. Spend some time together
If you like a girl and feel confident that she likes you too, it's important to spend time with her. Hanging out with a group of friends is fun, but it's hard to get a chance to have a private conversation with them. Every now and then, leave your group of friends so you can have deeper conversations with them and get to know each other better.
Ask him about his goals and dreams, about his family, and interests. If you show genuine concern for him, it will be easier for him to open up about his feelings for you
Step 2. Have fun with him
If you do fun things together, he'll remember. Ask him what activities he enjoys doing together. If he really enjoys spending time with you, he may be more comfortable admitting that he likes you.
Carving good memories together will remind him of how much fun he had with you
Step 3. Pay attention to his body language
If you're not sure if the girl has special feelings for you, her body language will usually reveal it. Pay attention to his behavior when he is around you. She may be shy about admitting her feelings in person, but her body language can reflect what's in her heart.
- If he listens attentively when you talk, this can sometimes be a cue. When you talk to a group of people, it's easy for them to get distracted and don't listen to what you have to say. However, if the girl is trying to listen attentively to your words, it could be a sign that she likes you.
- Does he play with his hair when he's with you? Girls use body language to seduce. They usually play with their hair when they are around someone they like. If he's constantly twirling his hair in a seductive fashion, it could be a sign that he likes you. Don't confuse it with a girl who is getting her hair done, which you find annoying, or a girl who wants to tie her hair into a ponytail.
- Is he always trying to be around you or making excuses to touch you? If a girl likes you, she will try to be physically close to you. He'll grip your arm when he laughs at one of your jokes. He will always sit next to you, and so on.
- Is he being flirty with you? This can be a clear sign to you because a girl who is always flirting with you is more likely to like you.
Step 4. Find out if he tells his friends about you
Girls love to share with their friends. If he has special feelings for you, he's almost certain he's always telling his friends about it. Maybe what they know about you is as much as they know. If he doesn't openly say he's been telling his friends about you, you can find this out in a number of ways.
- Tell him that you told your friends about him. For example, say "I told my roommate that you've never seen The Lion King, and he can't believe it!" Sharing stories like this might encourage him to do the same.
- Ask him if he tells his friends about the conversations the two of you had. If the two of you are discussing books or movies and have a funny difference of opinion, ask if he asks his friends what they think. If he talks about it with his friends, he's more likely to tell them about you too.
Part 2 of 3: Signaling That You Like Him
Step 1. Seduce him
If you're feeling shy about expressing your crush on him, flirting can be a powerful way to show it. Give him compliments, make jokes with him, tease him, and make casual comments or jokes about the two of you in a romantic way.
- For example, if he's commenting on a failed date he's had in the past, say something like, “Our date must have been MUCH better than that” with a smile.
- If you notice she's wearing a new perfume, say something like, "I think you're wearing a new perfume for me." Say these comments in a light, casual style.
Step 2. Record what he says
Pay attention when the girl you like is talking, and use that information to help you plan your next course of action. Listen to what he likes and doesn't like, and keep those things in mind. If you show a girl that you like her, she will probably be honest about her feelings for you. If he's afraid that you won't reciprocate his feelings, he may be hesitant to tell you.
- For example, if he says he likes donuts, bring him one the next time you see him.
- If he complains about a difficult subject at school, offer to help him.
Step 3. Do nice things for her
Girls will know when you do something nice for them. So, do something fun for the girl you like. However, don't overdo it. He could feel suffocated. Give him compliments and gifts occasionally (maybe 2-3 times per week), not every day.
Kind things can mean giving him compliments, buying him flowers, offering to massage his back or legs if he complains of pain, giving him gifts, buying him lunch, and so on
Step 4. Ask questions about dating
Steer the conversation toward romantic topics, such as what qualities he thinks are most important in a lover. Also ask what makes him feel sick. If you have this kind of conversation with a girl who likes you, she will probably mention good qualities in you. Pay close attention to whether he's giving any hints about you.
If you start a conversation like this, a girl may go so far as to say that she likes you
Part 3 of 3: Have an Honest Conversation with Him
Step 1. Tell him how you feel
If subtle cues don't get the girl to admit that she likes you, try having an outspoken conversation. Girls value honesty, and will resist being toyed with. So taking the first step will make him feel more comfortable. Telling him that you have special feelings for him may encourage him to admit that he feels the same way.
Step 2. Ask him if he likes you
If you don't get a clear answer, maybe you should ask him directly if he likes you. Don't startle her or feel uncomfortable. Be honest about how you like him and ask him if he feels the same way. Tell him that his actions have led you to believe that he likes you, and want to confirm that.
- For example, say, “I've been secretly liking you for a long time, and I hope you feel the same way about me. Is that true?"
- Or you could say, “When we talk and spend time together, I feel like we have a good connection. I've been meaning to ask if you have any special feelings for me because that's how I feel for you."
Step 3. Ask him out on a date
The final way to get a girl to admit that she likes you is to ask her out. If he accepts the invitation, it shows that he is actually interested in you too. It can take courage to ask someone out on a date, but if you really like him and wonder if he likes you too, this step is worth trying.
Step 4. Don't pressure him to say something he doesn't want
Just because you like him doesn't mean he has to feel the same way. If you admit that you like him, but he says that he has no special feelings for you, respect his choice. If a girl says she doesn't like you, don't get mad or yell at her.
- If a girl doesn't reciprocate your feelings, but you still want to be friends with her, say “I understand. I think you're a wonderful person, and I want us to be able to remain friends."
- If a girl makes it clear that she doesn't have feelings for you and you're not sure if you can stay friends with her, give her a sweet and simple response. You can say something like, “I see. Thank you for being honest with me."
Tips
- Be yourself. Don't feel like you have to change your personality just to impress him. If he likes you, he'll admit it when he's ready.
- If a girl says that she only sees you as a friend, give her some leeway. He has the right to decide whether he likes you or not. So don't force it.
- Girls sometimes can't make a decision right away. If he says no when you first express your feelings, give him about 2-3 months and stay with him and don't be shy about asking a second time because if you're insecure and shaky, your chances of a romantic relationship are getting smaller.
