Expressing your love for someone can be scary. However, if you want to take your relationship to another level, sooner or later you will have to. Learning to get used to being around your crush and thinking of creative ways to confess your feelings can help you overcome your fears and calm yourself down so you can start chatting with them!
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Method 1 of 3: Acknowledging Feelings Creatively
Step 1. Write a love letter and send it to your crush
A love letter is one of the most effective ways to confess your feelings. This method is generally not as stressful as a face-to-face confession. In addition, a love letter also gives you flexibility and comfort if the other person doesn't feel the same way. Write a short message about how you feel and give it to him in person, or tuck it in his locker.
- Make sure the message is handwritten, legible, short enough and to the point. You don't have to write witty or overly romantic messages. Don't beat around the bush, just write: “I've been watching you for a long time. I think you are sweet, kind, and adorable. I really like you and want to get to know you better."
- When you want to express your love for someone, it's better if you say it in person rather than through SMS or the internet. A love letter is a great way to go because it can be personal, but it also lets you relax if you're feeling nervous. However, if other methods don't work, expressing love over the phone or Skype is better than texting.
Step 2. Express your feelings without saying anything
In some cases, your actions can express your feelings more clearly than the statement, "You know what, I like you." If your crush slowly begins to realize that you like him, the process will feel more natural and real than putting it into words.
- Think of an unconventional way to talk to your crush and meet him "by chance" in the school corridors. Change your travel route so that you can see him regularly and try to always greet him.
- Don't forget to make eye contact. Don't avoid it like you're embarrassed. Make eye contact and give him a seductive smile every time you meet him.
- Show interest in what he does and enjoys. Try to get to know your crush as a friend first before you admit anything. Feelings of love can grow naturally.
Step 3. Try asking for help with something
One of the best ways to start a conversation or elicit a response from him is to ask him for help on something simple. This can pave the way for an interesting conversation, depending on who your crush is and what their personality is like.
- Ask for help with homework. Start by giving compliments like, “You seem to be good at English. Would you like to help me with this assignment? I don't understand what to do."
- Pretend you're missing something. “Hey, you see books around here, don't you? I just put it here and…” If your crush is willing to help, say, “You're so kind…”
Step 4. Try to “leak” the information to other people
In some cases, spreading rumors can work in your favour. If you tell a friend that you are in love with someone and the news spreads and is heard by his close friend, and eventually reaches his ears, you have managed to express your feelings without any effort. Once he finds out, it will be easier for you to talk to him.
- Tell some friends and don't be shy. If the news spreads, you can always deny it later. There's no evidence that you did anything embarrassing, or got rejected if you never actually said anything.
- If you are truly attracted to someone, never deny it. What's wrong with someone knowing that you like someone? There's no reason to be embarrassed.
Step 5. Find an excuse to ask her out with you
The scariest part in this situation is that you don't know if he has the same feelings for you. It's easier to admit your feelings openly if you're pretty sure he feels the same way about you. One way to satisfy your curiosity is to invite your crush to attend a certain event, such as a party or extracurricular activity, because this doesn't always mean a date.
- Pay attention to the things your crush might like: “Hey, I see the newest Iron Man movie has started showing, you really like Marvel movies. My dad happened to have an extra ticket. How about we watch together. Do you want to ?"
- If your crush looks very happy or is flattered and accepts your offer, take it as a good sign and don't waste the next opportunity.
Step 6. Seduce him
You can be friendly and flirty whenever you get the chance because this can be a stronger signal about how you feel than expressing it outright. Talk to your crush like you would joke with friends or people you feel comfortable with. Be yourself.
- Flirt with your crush in a friendly way. When talking to him, find excuses to show your sense of humor. Instead of saying, "Hi, how are you?" say something like, “I'm thinking about skipping school and need a partner. How? Do you want to come or not?"
- The phrase "I have a crush on you" no longer has a romantic feel. Instead of saying that line, try to show that you're interested in him so you don't have to say it out loud.
Method 2 of 3: Talking To Him
Step 1. Don't wait to do it
The best time to confess your feelings is right now. There's no point in waiting because it means you give him a chance to date someone else or like someone else and forget about you. If you like someone, the best time to express your feelings is now.
The only situation that requires you to wait is when your crush is dating someone else. You can complicate things by confessing your feelings to someone who is in a romantic relationship with someone else. It's a good idea to focus your feelings on the other person for a while and only move on if he or she is no longer committed to the other person
Step 2. Try to stay calm and relaxed
Confessing your feelings to someone shouldn't be a big deal. Even if he doesn't feel the same way, your efforts still deserve a thumbs up! Especially if you approach it in a calm and relaxed way, plus politeness and a little humor. Try to make things easier and don't burden yourself.
- Prepare yourself before doing it. Stand in front of a mirror and say, “I can do that. I'm a great person and he must like me." Then, go and come to him with full confidence.
- Make sure to look your best the day you decide to do it. Wear clean and fashionable clothes that match and can support your appearance. Make sure your hair is clean and your breath doesn't stink.
Step 3. Introduce yourself if necessary
If you don't know your crush very well, it can be difficult to admit how you feel. Don't take the risk by expressing your feelings, but instead he says, "Wait, who are you?" If you're not sure if he knows you or not, it's a good idea to introduce yourself to him.
No need to do complicated introductions. Just say, “Hi, I don't know if you remember me. We are in the same school and have participated in a debate competition last year. All this time I wanted to say something. In fact…."
Step 4. Speak privately and directly
It's best to have a private talk with him because you both need to be as comfortable and calm as possible. That way, the situation isn't too stressful. In addition, a little privacy can also reduce embarrassment.
- You can take advantage of the break to talk to someone quickly. After class or when you head to another class can also be a good opportunity. Or, you can try sitting next to him on the bus. You can simply say, "Hi, can we talk for a minute?" casually.
- Never come to her when she's surrounded by a lot of people or trying to express her feelings in the cafeteria so everyone can hear her. You will feel awkward if he refuses. This conversation should be private. So, try to have a one-on-one meeting.
Step 5. Think about a specific date or event to say after your confession
What happens after you say “I like you” and he says “Me too”? Are you just going to say "Thank you." No! It is important to think of a special occasion to continue the conversation.
- If there's a dance in the near future, say, “Okay, I hope we can go to the dance next week together. What do you think?" If there's a school-related event or you want to go somewhere else, say “How about we go eat together. You want pizza this Friday? Around 7 o'clock?"
- In some cases, it's better if you don't rush. Don't expect an immediate response if you confess your feelings to someone. He might need some time to think. That's not a bad thing. So, don't worry if you have to wait.
Step 6. Don't beat around the bush
This moment should not be exaggerated. There's no need to say "I like you" in overly complicated or creative ways. Just introduce yourself, smile, and say, “You know what? I've been meaning to say it for a long time. I like watching you and I think you are cute and sweet. I also think about you often. I really like you."
Don't be like the person who reads the "script" while speaking. Many people who feel awkward in these situations think it would be best if they memorized the script. However, it will make you sound like a robot. Speak naturally, as if you were talking to an old friend
Step 7. Don't be afraid of rejection
It's a common thing. Everyone has experienced it. Getting rejected may be painful at first, but it's much better than constantly wondering what would have happened if you said something and didn't do it. You will get older, move on with your life, and your crush will do the same. So don't hesitate, just do it.
If you get rejected, smile and say, “Well, at least I'm not curious anymore. Thank you." Don't complain, grumble, or do anything dramatic. You may feel upset, but at least now you know and can move on with your life
Method 3 of 3: Getting to Know Herself Better
Step 1. Try befriending him on social media if you haven't already
One of the best ways to do a little research on your crush and get to know him better before confessing your feelings is to befriend him on Facebook or follow him on Twitter. Don't wait and try to make contact via social media first. Having an online chat a few times can lighten the mood when it comes time for you to have a face-to-face conversation.
To start a private conversation, you can bring up something that was discussed in an online chat or bring up a topic that is currently viral on Facebook. It can lighten the mood well
Step 2. Make sure your crush doesn't have a boyfriend
One of the most important things you should know before expressing your love for someone is to find out if he or she already has a boyfriend. If so, maybe you should put it off so as not to cause trouble for your crush.
An easy way to find information is through social media or you can watch his activity to see if he seems committed to other people. You can talk to mutual friends or ask other friends
Step 3. Get information about your crush from your friends
If you want to know more about him, try talking to a friend or acquaintance of his. Find reasons to spend time with the people he is friends with and start asking them questions. Here are some questions you can ask: “What kind of person is he? Does he have a girlfriend? Do you think he will be attracted to me?”
Remember, if the news spreads, don't worry. It might actually make it easier for you to express love and reduce stress
Step 4. Go in groups
Find reasons to spend time with your crush, but not alone. You can take him out with a group of friends to get to know him better.
- Make it a simple group get-together, like watching a movie at someone's house, or having dinner together and taking your crush. If you're worried about approaching it that way, ask someone else to help you out.
- If it turns out you don't really like it, that's fine. At least you didn't make the mistake of expressing your feelings to someone you don't have much in common with.
Step 5. Open your eyes wide
If you want to get to know someone and find out if the two of you are compatible with each other, you can start by paying attention to them. Who does he like to spend his time with? How's his sense of humor? What does he do in his spare time? Take the time to pay attention and observe it (not in a scary way) to get as much information as possible.
Pay attention to his body language when you are around him. If he starts using "closed" body language, arms crossed over his chest and avoiding eye contact, it could be a sign that he's not interested. That way, you can avoid heartache
Tips
- Try to be frank and honest. If he shows a reaction you didn't expect, move on with your life and pretend like there's nothing wrong with the situation.
- If you want to observe what he's doing, try not to let him know. Otherwise, he could see you as a stalker and your chances of dating him could drop drastically!
