Kissing your boyfriend is a big step, especially if you or one of you is kissing for the first time. However, this doesn't mean you have to make a big deal out of it! If you know how to be prepared to take the plunge and respect your boyfriend's boundaries, you'll soon be able to kiss in an unforgettable way. If you want to know how to kiss your boyfriend in middle school like a pro, check out Step 1 to do it right away.
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Part 1 of 2: Preparing to Take the Step
Step 1. Look for privacy
Just face it. Getting complete privacy in middle school can be difficult, but you should do the best you can to make sure you and your boyfriend can get away from your friends to spend time together. You might leave the school dance, find some alone time at the party, or even go on a date. Do the best you can to make sure your friends can't interrupt and make fun of the two of you, ruining the mood.
- Avoid trying to do this at school the first time. You have to find a more romantic location.
- This doesn't mean you should try to kiss your boyfriend once you're alone. The moment has to feel right, and privacy isn't the only thing you need.
Step 2. Freshen your breath
If you're ready to kiss your boyfriend, make sure your breath is ready too. You don't have to make dramatic gestures and eat ten breath mints, but you should brush your teeth if you know you're going to see your boyfriend soon. And if you've just eaten, chew gum. Don't make a big deal about the kiss or he'll know you're thinking about it all the time.
You can also apply a little lip balm a few hours in advance to soften your teeth, but don't apply it right before you try to kiss it, or your lips won't feel too comfortable
Step 3. Make her feel special
Once you find he's alone, don't try to kiss him right away or he'll feel forced. Instead of doing this, show your boyfriend that you care about him, by making him feel special. Compliment her, for example, “You look really pretty tonight,” or say something like, “I had a lot of fun spending time with you today.” You don't have to try too hard to show him that you really care about him. Turn off the phone, look him in the eye, and show him that he has your full attention.
If you want to kiss your boyfriend, he has to feel that you really like him for who he is, and that you think of him as more than the person you want to kiss
Step 4. Make sure he is ready to kiss
Before kissing your boyfriend, make sure that you both agree to do so. This may be your first kiss, so make sure he's really ready to do it with you. While you don't have to make a big kiss out of him, it's something he'll always remember, so make sure he really wants to do it. See if he approaches you, looks happy to be with you, looks at your lips, and touches his face consciously or plays with his hair. This is a sign that he wants to kiss you and may be a little nervous.
If he's always trying to stay away from you when you're alone, and keeps drifting away from you again and again, this means he may not be ready to take the next level with you. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you, it just means he's not ready
Step 5. Make physical contact
You really shouldn't suddenly move from about 6 meters away to kiss him suddenly, or he'll be startled. Instead of acting like this, approach him and make some physical contact. If you're sitting, you can sit closer to him, put your hands on your knees, or play with his hair. If you're standing, you can also touch his hair or face, rub your hands around his waist, or give him physical intimacy, which will show you're ready to take a step.
This would also be a good time to see if he is ready. Does he respond well to your touch, approach you, or even initiate a slight touch?
Step 6. Avoid common kissing mistakes
If you kissed your boyfriend in middle school for the first time, there are a few things you should avoid:
- French kisses. French kissing isn't for everyone, and most people don't do it until they reach high school. For your first kiss, don't use your tongue or your boyfriend will be surprised uncomfortably. If you left high school with a history of French kissing, it would be considered redundant.
- Rampant hands. Just because your boyfriend is ready to kiss doesn't mean he's ready for you to explore his body. You can gently touch her in certain areas to show that you care, but don't scare her off by touching her suddenly where she doesn't want to be touched.
- Sudden kiss. Avoid approaching her and kissing her without giving any clue as to what is going to happen. While a little surprise can be good, don't let your boyfriend know what happened when you took this big step.
Part 2 of 2: Starting a Kiss
Step 1. Approach him until your faces are almost touching
After you make physical contact, you stay close to him until your faces are very close. If you're sitting down, you have to orient yourself a bit. If you're standing, you can put your arms around her waist and approach her. This should happen slowly and naturally, and you can make eye contact as you approach him.
You can slightly lick your lips to soften them. Do this if you are not very visible while doing it
Step 2. Tilt your head slightly
Don't kiss your boyfriend from the front, or your noses will bump into each other. You should tilt his head slightly in one direction and he should also tilt his head slightly in the other. Don't worry if you don't do it perfectly the first time, or if you both don't tilt your head too much. This isn't crucial for a casual kiss, so don't overthink and tilt your head too much.
Step 3. Kiss her
This is your important moment! Lean your head slightly forward and develop a connection with him by touching your lips to his. Your lips won't fit perfectly, and you don't have to worry about that. Relax your lips instead of tense them, and kiss your boyfriend's lips gently. You can hold the kiss for a few seconds or as long as you want.
Step 4. Caress her cheeks and hair
This is something you can do when you're kissing your boyfriend, if you don't think it requires too much coordination. Gently caress your hand on her cheek or hair as you kiss her. This is something you can do in Round Two, which is if you kiss again after the first kiss is over.
Step 5. Use your hands a little
When you kiss her, you can place your hands on her waist, upper back, or knees/shoulders if you're sitting down. As long as you don't touch her in inappropriate places, a little touch can help your boyfriend enjoy the moment more. However, don't let it feel too much. If he doesn't touch you except with his lips, a slight touch will suffice.
Step 6. Don't forget to breathe
This sounds ridiculous, but it's important. You may be so nervous or excited that you finally kissed your boyfriend, that you forget to perform one of the most basic functions of the human body. This means you have to inhale and exhale, just as you normally would when you kiss him. If you only kiss for a few seconds, you can also breathe before and after.
Step 7. Move away slowly
After a few seconds, you can slowly walk away from him, keeping your eyes on your boyfriend. Don't walk away immediately as if you were on fire. Instead of doing it, look your boyfriend in the eye, smile, and slowly walk away from him. You can stroke her face or hair for a little extra touch.
Step 8. End the kiss nicely
Just admit it. Middle school can be a time of nervousness. Kissing for the first time can be considered a strange thing. However, you should do your best to make your boyfriend feel comfortable, and say something like, "That was fun," to let him know that the moment is special. Men can have a hard time expressing their feelings, but just do the best you can to make your boyfriend feel special and let him know you had a great time.
