Middle school is a time when boys and girls start hanging out and many feel their first love. However, this new feeling of attraction also comes with fears and worries about things like dating, looking for things to chat with, dating, and even kissing. The first kiss doesn't need to be rushed if it's not ready. However, if you're ready and curious, there are several ways you can kiss the person you like.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding that Special Person to Kiss
Step 1. Think of someone you want to be your girlfriend with
Most kissing in middle school happens between kids who are dating or playing kissing games. Here's how to find a girlfriend:
- Consider a friend you like. Signs you like someone are nervous or shy around them, excited when you think about them or meet them in the school hallways, and want to spend a lot of time with them.
- Sometimes we just can't like our friends, and if that's the case, be open to trying activities that allow you to meet new people, such as after-school activities, youth groups, and camps.
- If someone asks you out, don't be afraid to accept even if you're not sure you like them. Sometimes, a connection with someone can be formed after getting to know him better.
Step 2. Find out if he likes you too
You don't have to know, but your confidence will increase if you can suspect that he feels the same way. In addition, you can also ask him out more easily. People who like you may behave like this:
- Nervous when near you
- Show off in front of you
- Looking for common interests with you
- Love the things you do on Facebook and Twitter
- Frequently texting you
- Stealing glances at you in class, in the hallway, or when close together
Step 3. Ask her out on a date
Love can't always be waited on, and sometimes you have to act. If your crush doesn't ask you out, take the initiative. It may be scary, but sometimes it's the only way to get what you want.
- Chew gum or eat candy before approaching it so that your breath is fresh and smells good.
- Find the right time when the two of you are alone so that no one feels pressured by the presence of other friends.
- Speak casually, don't be nervous and take it too seriously. Say, "Hey, I'd like to see a movie with you sometime, would you?" or “If you have some free time, I'd like to invite you to hang out.”
- Make sure you ask directly, don't send messages and ask other friends for help.
Step 4. Start slowly
You may already have a boyfriend if someone asks you out and you accept, or the person you're dating accepts. However, in the early stages of dating, you have to move slowly. It means:
- Chat and get to know each other's personality
- Holding hands once in a while
- Doing something together several times a week, such as bowling, sitting together during school breaks, or eating together
Part 2 of 3: Kissing a Special Person
Step 1. Know if you are ready to kiss
Taking big steps in life is not easy, and the first kiss is one of them. If you want to know if you're ready to kiss someone, answer the following questions:
- Do you often imagine kissing him?
- Do you have strong feelings for him?
- Are you comfortable around him?
- Does the thought of kissing him make you happy and excited?
- If your answer is yes to all or most of the questions above, then you are ready to kiss him.
Step 2. Give a hint that you are ready to be kissed
There are two things you can do when you are ready to kiss, namely waiting to be kissed or kissing. If you prefer to wait, there are several ways to show that you are ready:
- Hug him tighter than usual, and rest your head on his shoulder
- Often look into his eyes.
- Smile a lot
- Looking for reasons to approach
- Touching your hair, which is a subtle form of seduction
Step 3. Pay attention to the signals he sends
You can also choose to initiate the kiss, and there's a sign that he's ready too. These signs include:
- Looking into your eyes
- Looking for reasons to be near or touch you
- Praise you a lot
- Blushing or laughing a lot near you
- Always chewing gum
Step 4. Find the right time and place
Kisses are usually private, so you have to find the right time and place. For example, the school hallway is not a possible place. There are many places for a first kiss, including:
- Sports hall
- Cinema
- School dance party
- School trip
- Campsite
- Bus
Step 5. Gather courage
You must be nervous, but you also need to be calm so you don't sweat, throw up, or get so scared you don't do it. Here are some ways to calm yourself down:
- Plan when and where you will do it.
- Do not rush. If you're not really ready, you'll be very nervous, and that may be your brain's way of telling you that the right time hasn't come yet.
- Do not be too serious. When you're scared, any mission seems much more difficult and serious, and that just makes you even more nervous. Make a plan and keep the thought of kissing out until it's in sight.
Step 6. Ask your boyfriend for permission first
Drawing conclusions from signals alone is difficult, and there is a possibility of misunderstanding if you only judge from body language. To avoid mistakes, ask first before kissing him.
- You can say, "Can I kiss you?" or "Shall we kiss?"
- Don't worry, asking won't spoil the mood. He will be happy that you respect and pay attention to his wishes, and that you also want this first kiss to be a special moment.
Step 7. Kiss him
When the time comes and you're ready, just do it. You can sit or stand close enough to reach it without difficulty. Look him in the eye and tilt your head to one side. If he's tilting his head to the other side, close your eyes and lean in to kiss him.
- Lift your lips slightly and close your mouth, pressing your lips to his gently, but firmly.
- Close your eyes before kissing because open eyes sometimes seem insincere.
Part 3 of 3: Playing Kiss Games
Step 1. Play the bottle spin game
Playing kissing games is the perfect way to get kissed. This method can also be used if you want to kiss the person you like, but aren't sure if they feel the same way. Here's how to play the bottle spin:
- Make groups of four to six people sitting in a circle
- Place the empty bottle in the center of the circle.
- Decide who starts with hompimpa or chooses the oldest. The first person to play will spin the bottle. When the bottle stops and the tip is pointed at someone, the spinner must kiss that person.
- The person being kissed must spin the next bottle, and so on.
Step 2. Play a seven-minute game in paradise
In this kissing game, two selected people are put in a closet for seven minutes. During that time, they were expected to kiss.
- Arrange for everyone playing to sit in a circle and place the bottle in the middle.
- Have one person spin the bottle. When the bottle stops, the tip and bottom of the bottle will point to two people.
- The two men were put in the cupboard for seven minutes. When they come out, the bottle will be spun again and the game will resume.
Step 3. Play the suction and blow game
In this game, a piece of paper is passed from player to player via mouth, and no one is allowed to use their hands. How to play the game is:
- Have all players sit in a circle. Usually, men and women sit alternately.
- Take a small piece of paper, such as a business card. The starting player will put the paper in his mouth, suck air through his mouth to keep the paper from falling, and lower his hand.
- Then, the player faces the player to their left, and sticks the paper in that person's mouth. When stuck together, the player who handed the paper exhaled to release the paper, and the player who received it had to suck on the paper to hold it in his mouth.
- The paper is continuously passed around in a circle in this way, and the idea is that when the paper is accidentally dropped, the two people who dropped it should kiss.
Tips
- Don't be forced to do something just because someone else is telling you to. If your friends are kissing and doing other things, there's no need to go along with it even if you already have a boyfriend.
- If there's a height difference between you and your boyfriend, whoever is shorter can stand on tiptoe or stand on the bench, or both sit down.
