Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves, whoever they are. Feeling beautiful is something that is foreign to some men, especially gay or homosexual men who grew up in a society that considers it taboo. However, basically beauty comes from presentation, belief, and personality. Learn to improve your dress-up, dressing, and lifestyle skills that help you be your best self while developing the personality, passion, and self-worth to exude your true beauty.
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Method 1 of 6: Embrace the Beauty within You
Step 1. Develop self-confidence
Homosexual men usually feel doubtful and confused for years as a result of living with all forms of homophobia. This feeling can't just be thrown away in a short time.
- Take the time to identify the meaning of self-beauty, and cultivate the beauty within yourself, instead of doubting it.
- You should also trust other people's compliments about your beauty. They told the reality they saw.
Step 2. Fight internalized homophobia
Perhaps, you find it difficult to find beauty in the clichéd homosexual aspect of your temperament and personality. This is because heterosexual society has long disliked these stereotypes. Instead of succumbing to these ideals, cherish the “homosexual voice” and stereotypical temperament that is often associated with the homosexual man in you.
Step 3. Focus on developing your skills and passion
Physical appearance has only a limited impact on a person's attractiveness, in contrast to positive personalities, such as a good sense of humor or high intellect. Be very proficient at a certain thing. Do a project or hobby that you enjoy. Develop a self-fulfilling career. Have the skills, passion, and goals that make you more attractive.
Step 4. Don't compare yourself to others
It's so easy to look at other people and think, "I wish I could be that pretty." This is especially difficult in the homosexual community because traditional looks and attractiveness tend to be the center of attention. However, this will do nothing. Instead of comparing yourself to others, love how you look.
Learn to recognize your own beauty, and let the positive aspects of your appearance and style make you feel more confident
Step 5. Find a homosexual community that loves your beauty
There is no absolute way to be a homosexual man. Some homosexual men like skinny and hairless men. However, others like big men and full of hair. In other words, to be beautiful, you don't have to change yourself. Instead, hang out with people who like who you are.
It is undeniable, someone will feel happy if said beautiful by others. If you're surrounded by people who only create self-doubt and self-hatred, it's best to stay away from them immediately. Look for good people who see beauty in you
Method 2 of 6: Keeping Your Body Clean
Step 1. Clean your face
Your face is the first thing people see when they meet you. Caring for the skin is very important to prevent acne, dry skin, or oily skin in order to get your best appearance.
- Wash your face with cold or plain water. Do not use warm or hot water when cleaning your face.
- Use a gentle exfoliator every 1-2 times a week. Do not exfoliate too often so as not to irritate the skin.
- Pat your face with a clean, dry cloth. Do not rub the towel on the face so as not to damage the skin.
Step 2. Keep your teeth healthy
Make brushing your teeth and using dental floss as your daily routine, at least 2 times a day. This will prevent bad breath and keep your teeth bright and healthy.
- Use a 45 cm long dental floss to remove food debris between the teeth. Start with the teeth in the top row, and work your way down to the bottom row. Make a C shape around the teeth to ensure all food debris (including the back of the teeth) is thoroughly cleaned.
- Use an antiseptic mouthwash to help kill bacteria in the mouth. Use this remedy to gargle for 30-60 seconds, then spit it out.
- Apply a pea-sized amount of toothpaste to the bristles of a toothbrush and brush your teeth in a circular motion. Brush the front, back, and chewing surfaces of each tooth, then gently run along the gums to remove plaque and food debris.
Step 3. Shower every day
Most Indonesians bathe every day, although sometimes not regularly depending on activities and availability of water. When you shower, you have to take care of yourself to get a clean and more confident body.
- Try to take a shower with normal temperature water (room temperature). Extreme temperatures will dry out your skin.
- Apply the shampoo of your choice to your hair and massage it until it reaches your scalp. You should also wash your beard (if you have one) to keep it clean and odor-free.
- Rinse all the shampoo in the hair.
- If you use conditioner, use it like shampoo.
- Use soap or body wash to clean the body from the neck down. After that, lather and rinse thoroughly.
- Wash your genital and posterior areas, starting from front to back.
- Make sure to rinse off all the soap residue so it doesn't leave on the body.
Step 4. Scent your body
Deodorant should be applied at least once a day. However, the scent of a man's body is a matter of individual taste. If deodorant alone is enough, choose a deodorant that you like and wear it regularly. If you're interested in using a fragrance (like cologne or body spray), find one that smells good to you and try a little bit first.
- Deodorant should be worn every day, regardless of where you are or what you're doing that day.
- If you use cologne or body spray, make sure not to overdo it.
Method 3 of 6: Dress Up
Step 1. Keep your nails neat
Neatness of fingernails and toenails must be maintained. Fingernails are very easy to scratch, causing cuts and nicks. In addition, toenails look very ugly if they are too long.
- Keep your nails clean. Use a nail pick to pick up dirt from under the fingernails and toenails.
- Use a nail clipper or manicure clipper to trim your nails. It's a good idea to trim your nails straight along the edges first, then blunt the edges so they're neatly curved.
- Use an emery board to help smooth out any sharp or pointed edges of the nail.
Step 2. Treat your facial hair
This part of the face is also very dependent on personal taste. You are free to have a beard or mustache that is finely trimmed, or allowed to grow thick. Therefore, choose the one that makes you feel most comfortable or confident.
- If you shave, use shaving gel and a sharp (ideally single-bladed) razor. Shave in the direction of hair growth and don't pull the surrounding skin too tight to avoid damaging it.
- If you grow a beard, be sure to keep it looking neat. Use a beard trimmer to trim it so that the length matches your hairstyle.
Step 3. Shorten the hair of the ears, nose and neck
No matter what style of beard and mustache you choose, there are some facial hairs that need to be trimmed. Trim your hair inside and outside the ears, nostrils, and back of the neck (below the hairline).
- You should also occasionally shorten your eyebrows so they don't grow too long and look thick.
- Use small scissors to trim nose and ear hair, and a low guard trimmer or straight razor for hair at the back of the neck.
Step 4. Decide if you want to grow chest hair
Some men like hairy chests. However, there are also those who prefer a plain chest, or at least the fur is short and neat. It's all up to you (or maybe with the help of your partner's opinion), but be sure to shave the right way if you want to do it.
- If you decide to thin or trim your chest hair, it's best to use an electric clipper and move it in the direction your hair is growing.
- If you want a clean chest, try using a clipper that snaps open, or a razor blade with the help of a moisturizing shaving lotion.
Step 5. Find a hairstyle you like
If you're feeling bored, try finding a new hairstyle to freshen up your look. A new hairstyle can make you feel beautiful and confident in any situation.
Method 4 of 6: Skin Care
Step 1. Moisturize skin every day
Besides cleansing your face and body, moisturizing your skin should also be part of your daily routine. Use toner on your face to get rid of excess oil and dirt, and follow up with a gentle moisturizer. You should also use a moisturizing lotion on your hands and other body parts that tend to dry out and itch easily.
- Choose a moisturizer that suits your skin type, i.e. dry, normal, or oily.
- Make this activity a daily routine at least 1-2 times a day.
Step 2. Overcome the circles under the eyes
You will look tired, old, and shabby if you have circles under your eyes. Eliminate this circle to look healthier and younger.
- Compress the eyelids with a cold tea bag to help reduce the dark color and puffiness of your skin.
- Use a special cream for dark colors under the eye circles. Look for creams that contain caffeine that can reduce swelling, along with retinol and vitamins C and E.
- If all means have not worked, you can use a little concealer under the eyes to cover the dark circles in the eyes.
Step 3. Protect yourself from the sun
The sun can cause severe damage to the skin, leaving it burning and sensitive to pain. As a result of too much sun exposure, wrinkles, age spots, and an increased risk of early skin cancer can appear on the skin. One of the best ways to take care of your skin in the long term is to reduce your skin's UV exposure.
- Use a broad spectrum sunscreen. Make sure the sunscreen has an SPF of 15 or higher, and reapply every two hours.
- Try to avoid direct sunlight between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m., when UV rays are at their strongest.
- Wear clothes that can block out the sun. Wear long-sleeved shirts and long pants, and try wearing a wide-tongued hat when you go outdoors.
Step 4. Quit smoking
Smoking is the main cause of premature aging. In addition to causing various health risks, exposure to cigarette smoke every day can reduce blood flow so that the skin looks wrinkled and loose. Smoking can also cause wrinkles around the mouth and eyes.
- The best way to prevent skin damage from smoking is to not smoke at all.
- If you are a smoker, consult your doctor to stop smoking.
Method 5 of 6: Matching Outfits
Step 1. Try not to follow the flow of fashion trends
Fashion trends come and go, and what is popular today may not be popular 1-2 months later. Following current trends can cost you a lot and only add to the clothes you don't use. Instead, choose classic clothes that are timeless.
- If you like it, wear a button-up shirt or a Polo because it never goes out of style.
- Skip the trendy classics, like ripped jeans or fringe jackets. Both will get stale quickly and tend to cost a lot of money.
Step 2. Choose the right size pants
Trousers that look right on your feet look more presentable, attractive, and confident than oversized pants. Choose khakis for work or jeans for walking, and make sure they are the right size to make them look more attractive.
Step 3. Fill the wardrobe with basic clothes
Whatever the occasion, a basic outfit will make you look stylish and confident. You don't have to waste money either. Look for discounted items, or simply add one item at a time to your wardrobe. Your closet must contain::
- One solid suit, either black or charcoal. Choose a single breasted suit with 2-3 buttons for a classic look.
- Cloth pants. Choose khakis or charcoal pants to make them easy to match with other outfits.
- Tie. Choose a tie with a medium width in a plain color.
- Official shoes. Try to match the color of your shoes with your belt and suit. (black and brown are popular choices)
Method 6 of 6: Finding Other Ways to Feel More Attractive
Step 1. Exercise regularly
Daily exercise will help you to have and look your best. A good workout consists of regular cardio sets and regular weight training for best results.
- Aim for cardio exercise 4 days a week for at least 30 minutes.
- Include a 20-minute weight training session preferably twice a week.
Step 2. Develop good posture
You may have ignored it all this time, but the way you stand and sit can show your level of confidence and self-worth. Over time, poor posture can also cause back and neck problems.
- Take regular stretching breaks at work or home. Stand up, stretch, and open your chest a few minutes every half hour. You can also try walking or moving around a bit as often as possible.
- Sit up straight to improve back health and posture. Keep your back and neck straight with your shoulders slightly down when sitting on a bench or chair.
Step 3. Change your style
Some men go through life without ever changing their appearance. This is fine if you like the existing look, but if you feel bored, changing your style can help you feel more attractive and confident.
- If you've never tried it, grow your beard. Many men grow beards to increase their confidence and look more attractive.
- Try the opposite. If you've had a beard for years, try shaving it all off to see how your face has looked over the years. Maybe, you will feel more youthful and attractive just by shaving your beard.
- Choose a fashion article or two that goes against your current style of dress. Try this style when you need a boost of confidence.
Tips
- There is no absolute guide to a person's beauty and attractiveness. The tips in this article can help, but they won't all work for you. Find out what makes you feel beautiful and confident, and follow the beauty routine that works best for you.
- Try not to change your style just to suit someone else's taste. Be yourself, and you will feel more beautiful.
Warning
- Never criticize other people's appearance. This is rude, hurtful, and can lead to arguments and confrontations.
- Don't let beauty make you arrogant. It's important to feel comfortable and look good, but beauty isn't everything.
