Infidelity in a committed relationship is a serious breach of trust. Regardless of whether you feel like you can get away with it or not, you should think about whether or not you want to continue the relationship when you are tempted to cheat on your partner. You may no longer love your partner or have no thoughts of having a monogamous relationship at this time; the best thing you can do is to end the relationship before cheating on your partner. However, if you do decide to have an affair, here are steps you can learn to hide your activity and then get rid of all traces of it when they start to get suspicious.
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Part 1 of 2: Keeping Something from Them
Step 1. Rethink the affair
People will have many reasons for cheating: they may be angry with their partner, feel trapped in a relationship they are not ready for or a relationship that is bored and dead, or feel frustrated about something completely unrelated to the relationship. However, there are many negative consequences associated with infidelity in a relationship.
- You may think that you can dodge and not be caught; even if they did, studies have shown that people who cheat will have very high levels of shame and guilt for their actions.
- Although many couples are able to overcome the problems of infidelity that occur, there are also relationships that are damaged due to the lack of trust caused by your betrayal.
- Most importantly, you should consider your partner's suffering as a result of the affair. Don't go through with your infidelity plans if you don't want to play a part in his suffering.
- Your breach of trust will have an impact on your partner's relationship later in life, negatively affecting their ability to seek happiness after leaving you.
- If you do cheat, then you may lose the respect of your family and friends, and this is a painful consequence that you have to live with. Try to live up to your community's expectations of you.
- If you are truly unhappy in your relationship, you should have an honest conversation with your partner, either by making a relationship improvement plan, or deciding to end the relationship so you can move on to someone else.
- However, if you decide to keep cheating, you should consider the following.
Step 2. Create a different e-mail address
Leaving evidence in an easily accessible place is one of the easiest and most careless ways to get caught in an affair.
- Create a new e-mail address that is only used to communicate with your mistress. Don't tell other people or use it for anything other than your affair.
- This will become commonplace if you also use it as a burner account for the latest online updates or catching spam. You certainly want a certain level of vigilance in this account.
- This way, you must always remember to log out every time you finish accessing.
- Contact your mistress using only this account and never use your regular account.
- Keep your regular account logged in as usual so your partner can access when they start to get suspicious and start stalking. They won't find anything.
Step 3. Clear your browser history
Whenever you do something related to your infidelity online, take the time to clear your infidelity-related browser history. Remember - this doesn't just apply to your fake e-mail address; use this on all sites related to your affair, such as Yelp which provides reviews of restaurants where you will meet your mistress, directions to the park you meet, reservation sites for hotels, etc.
- Don't delete all of your browser history because it will look suspicious - no one will delete all of their browser history.
- It is better that you manually delete suspicious sites in your history. Do this immediately every time you finish using it.
Step 4. Use “Private Browser” mode on your web browser
The best way to ensure that you don't leave evidence of your activity in your browsing history is to use “Private Browsing” when doing something you don't want to know.
- If you use a public browser to access the internet, you will most likely have access to a private browser. Safari, Chrome, Firefox, Opera, and Explorer all of these allow you to use the internet without leaving evidence on your computer.
- Remember that this does not mean you are completely unknown at the time of browsing. Websites still know the I. P addresses that visit their site. As a result, you can see targeted ads from your “private” browser.
- To keep yourself from getting caught through your targeted ads, make sure you always close all private browsers after you're done using them. This will delete cookies that lead to suspicious targeted ads.
Step 5. Lock your phone
If your phone is already locked and your partner doesn't know the password, then you are safe. However, if your partner knows the password from your phone then you will have to create a new password.
- Give your partner a credible explanation about why you should suddenly lock your phone. You might be able to tell a coworker has unlocked your phone and seen private photos of the two of you together, or that they sent a series of messages to people on your contact list.
- If your partner usually knows the passwords from your phone, then you will look very suspicious if you suddenly demand too much privacy. Don't try to change passwords, but don't use your phone for suspicious activities.
- If you must communicate with your mistress over the phone, use the private browser option to log into the "fake" e-mail account. Remember to log out and close the browser window to delete cookies when you are done.
Step 6. Don't use your phone too much
Your partner will be suspicious if he sees an incoming call or sudden message from your mistress. Don't use the phone and only send messages when necessary. Most of your communication should go through a deliberately created e-mail account.
Step 7. Buy a pre-paid phone
Prepaid cell phones allow you to communicate with your partner freely without having to worry about the costs that appear on your monthly cell phone bill. However, this is a high risk because a strange and secret cell phone will make the most trusted partner feel suspicious at the same time.
- If you are using a prepaid cell phone, you have to be very careful not to get caught.
- Prepare your reasons first before being caught by your partner. You might be able to tell that your coworker left his phone at work and you forgot to return it on the way home.
Step 8. Don't use a credit card to buy anything suspicious
Any suspicious charges such as hotel rooms or out of town business will appear in your monthly transactions. Surely a large bill like a dinner for two at a fancy restaurant would make him suspicious. If you don't want to be caught, then it's better to use cash when shopping instead of cards so you don't leave any traces on the paper.
Step 9. Purchase contraceptives separately
There is no reason to explain sudden fluctuations in the number of condoms or other contraceptives in a committed monogamous relationship. Over or missing condoms will be a red light. Contraceptives that you use outside should be stored separately from those you use with your partner.
- Buy a different condom when sleeping with your lover.
- It's a good idea to buy individual condoms or small packs rather than boxes, so you won't get caught for having more condoms in your car.
- You should throw away condoms that are no longer usable than store them before returning home.
Part 2 of 2: Casting Their Suspect
Step 1. You should laugh at her suspicions rather than get angry
By being angry, you are giving your partner a signal that you have a negative reaction to their accusations and should feel confused. Anger can also turn into an argument in a short time, and the debate will be prolonged and always remembered. You certainly don't want bad memories to linger in this conversation, and the best thing you can do is to keep yourself from getting emotional.
- Don't laugh in a sarcastic way and don't make fun of your partner for their suspicions.
- You simply pretend to be surprised or confused by their suspicions, as if this would never have happened and you never did anything to be questioned.
Step 2. Discuss the suspicion together
After reacting casually, you shouldn't run away from the conversation as this will make them feel like you don't care about their feelings. You must deal with this immediately so that their anger does not linger.
- Tell them that you feel guilty for making them feel that way and that you don't even know that you made them feel insecure about your relationship.
- Allow them to talk about their concerns and be a good listener - don't interrupt or get defensive.
- Take note of any suspicions as this will tell you what wrong you have done.
Step 3. Promise to work on matters of trust
A good partner will feel guilty if they let their partner worry, so reassure them that even if there's nothing to worry about, you'll also be making more of an effort to care for them.
Step 4. Change some of your suspicious attitudes
If you let your partner speak the truth, they may give you a list of their particular concerns about your behavior. They may feel more suspicious if you change your attitude without special warning. However, if you talk to them and promise to change your bad attitude, then they will feel that your change in attitude is a dedication to your relationship.
- Blaming yourself excessively by changing your entire attitude will make you look overdone or have an exaggerated feeling. Don't make changes that are too dramatic.
- Change your attitude to show the effort you put into maintaining trust in this relationship.
Step 5. Stop or stop the affair
If your partner is still suspicious, maybe it's time to end the affair, or at least hold it in place until the time of danger passes. Even after the conversation about your partner's fears has passed, or after you have promised to make them feel more secure, your partner will still be suspicious. So, don't take unnecessary risks.
Tips
In the end, the best way not to be caught cheating is to not commit adultery. Remember that you are better off choosing a lifestyle of casual sex with no strings attached or perhaps an open relationship if you know how to be honest
Warning
- If you are caught cheating by your partner, then this might destroy them emotionally. Chances are you don't actually hate your partner. Out of consideration for them, you should end a relationship that doesn't make you happy rather than having an affair.
- Even if you're still with them after you've been caught cheating, you'll have a lot of work to do to rebuild trust. This relationship may never be the same again.
- Infidelity usually destroys a relationship. If you want to live with this person, then don't cheat on them.
- The impact of your cheating may affect your partner in future relationships. Don't destroy their ability to trust others. Breaking up a relationship is easier than betrayal.
