As humans, we are all born with a desire to receive love, kindness, and hope. But as we grow older, we become faced with various aspects of life's journey as humans that are more difficult and lower the level of expectations. We also find that some human actions are often cruel and calculating and hateful. Although such actions can make us cynical or even feel helpless, basically humans are also capable of giving love and kindness that are so amazing, amazing, and extraordinary. If you're feeling hopeless as you look to the future for humanity today, here are some ways you can restore your faith.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding Good in This World
Step 1. Hang out with children
If you don't do this often, you're missing out on a wonderful opportunity to see the world from a pair of new-worldly eyes filled with curiosity and creativity. Children have a better ability to pay attention to everything, because they are not like adults who can blind their eyes or fail to see injustice and problems. Putting yourself around children more often, listening to them well, and paying attention to what they're doing will inspire you to start trying to get out of the grip of cynicism, and make you feel more innocent, cheerful, and creative.
- Children can clearly see the various doubts that adults often use as excuses for wrong decisions, procrastination, and reluctance to act. Children also usually do not hesitate to show admiration for the world around them, always enjoy the process of discovering new things and always succeed in connecting various ideas, people and the larger context.
- In the midst of the time you spend with your children, realize that we are born as a white paper with no scribbles, without the ability to hurt or cause trouble to others. To persist in maintaining the view that humans are evil, cruel, and always only self-interested creatures is both useless and untrue.
Step 2. Ask other people to tell you about the happiest moments in their lives
How often do you ask other people about their happy memories and what makes them happy now? Humans like to talk about the things they think are important, the things that motivate them, and what make them happy. Unfortunately, these things are not topics that are often discussed in human speech in general.
It's very important that you give other people space so they can be more open about sharing their happiest moments. This will help them to convey to others what really means a lot to them (so that everyone can share their inspiration), while also allowing you to see a more positive, brighter, and happier side of human life
Step 3. Focus on stories of good news, kindness and noble behavior
There are so many positive, inspiring, and uplifting stories about the good people do every day. However, these kinds of positive stories are buried under the various negative and sensational stories that are more often reported by the media. However, you can choose to expose yourself more to positive news. For example, you can subscribe to online news that focuses on positive stories. You can also choose and "follow" social media accounts that choose to share good news instead of bad news, and who always share only inspiring things.
Visit websites such as "the Good News Network," "Happy News," "The Huffington Post Good News," or "Daily Good." Sites like these shed the light on positive news and also collect lots of heartwarming and touching stories about human care and kindness
Step 4. Visit the websites of charities you like
Read about what staff and volunteer workers do. Whether it's the "Red Cross", the organization "Doctors Without Borders", local zoos working to preserve certain animals, or faith-based charities, seek information about the activities of these organizations and you will find a large number of people actively involved. active in helping others, preserving the environment, improving land, taking care of animal welfare and lobbying the government to make changes that can improve the quality of life and livelihoods of many people.
Go to the nearest bookstore or library and read books that tell amazing stories of people who come from business circles, people who run their businesses and change the lives of the people around them. Such businesses change the way we “do business” and see our world, including in areas such as sharing information, making fun games that are also educational, selling fair-traded products (a form of trade that emphasizes dialogue, transparency, and mutual respect for achieve equity in international trade), create environmentally friendly goods and financial support projects that help others to borrow or invest in small-scale projects that benefit local communities. Social entrepreneurs focus on ensuring that their efforts make a positive impact in life
Part 2 of 3: Finding Gratitude
Step 1. Take the time to help the less fortunate
You can see reality only by meeting people who have experienced things that are 10 or 100 times worse than yours, but can still be positive and energetic because they believe that life is a gift. You can help them, but they can also help you.
- Don't just read about these people, but participate by volunteering so you can see first-hand the suffering of others. For example, you might consider volunteering in a hospice (a nursing home for people with near-death physical conditions), a hospital that cares for children suffering from a terminal illness, or a disaster shelter that accommodates people who have lost their homes and livelihoods.
- Even though everything looks bad in your eyes, you can realize that humans are actually tough, extraordinary, and so great living beings, just by looking at the passion and determination of those who experience the hardships of life. Recognizing this can also help you to always balance the difficulties you are experiencing and see the problem from a more holistic perspective.
Step 2. Think about things that other people have done, actions that you are most grateful for
If you start looking for reasons to feel grateful, you're likely to find it in every single action other people take on a daily basis. For example, a driver who is kind enough to stop for a moment and allow you to cross the road instead of speeding up his vehicle, a shopper who calls you to line up in front of him because you bought less goods, a fellow assistance program applicant who helps you fill out a form. which is quite complicated, or an unknown person who sees you crying in public and kindly asks you if you are okay. Humans are good creatures, it's just that we are so easy to forget.
There are also examples of extraordinary heroic events, such as when someone saves you from a car accident, someone dives and saves your drowning child or someone breaks into your house during a fire to save your pet. Whether it's a small act or a big one, pay attention to what others are doing and celebrate the good that is in humankind. “Silent” kindness happens every day and can appear as “people just doing their job”, although it can be seen as actually caring and bonding with other human beings
Step 3. Read the gratitude notes of many people, on the internet
Reading about how other people find gratitude in their daily lives can inspire you to have more hope and see how many people genuinely care about how amazing and beautiful the world and its contents are.
Here are some general examples. Type “gratitude journals” or “good news stories” into the Google search engine box, and you will see many amazing things happening every day around the world
Step 4. Make a list of people who inspire you
Make bookmarks in the browser you usually use, and tag accounts of people who inspire you through their actions. Visit their account from time to time to stay up-to-date on what they are doing and the progress they are making. Also bookmark pages about inspirational figures in the past, even though they have passed away, because the efforts they had made in the past were as meaningful and influential in advancing the quality of mankind and society as they are today.
Mahatma Gandhi summed it up well when he made a statement: “You must never lose faith in mankind. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of water in it are dirty, the ocean will not immediately become dirty.” While bad and cruel things happen every day, so do good and joy
Part 3 of 3: Making the World a Better Place
Step 1. Cultivate trust in your fellow human beings through action
Try to see the world confidently and in a less demanding way. Do as Gandhi said in his famous quote, “be the change you want to see in this world.” When you initiate a change that you want to spread to others, you will spark good moral movements that will benefit the world. other people, thereby continually improving the quality of society. In the end, belief in humanity is not based on what you receive in return, but rather on knowing that you make human life better, easier, and more liveable by all that you know.
- Develop trust in fellow human beings. For example, you can trust someone else's word that he will pay for the used goods he buys from you. You can lend equipment or DVD series to your neighbors or friends without specifying when the item should be returned, and trust that your item will be returned on time. Maybe you were worried about whether your charitable donations were getting to the right hands or not, or you were worried about a homeless person running away and using the money to buy beer without finding a place to sleep for the night, so you decided not to donate. at all. Instead of thinking that way, try to make a donation and trust that the money you give will be worth it.
- Sometimes people will do you wrong. But overall, you will be more surprised by how people will return your trust in themselves in a positive way, that trust is repaid by trust and gratitude. Applying this trust to others can be daunting at first, especially if you have a sense of attachment to the things or money you have. But when you have reached this stage, you will be able to trust more in humanity.
Step 2. Practice the habit of doing the unexpected good
For example, buying extra coffee for someone you don't know while standing in line, or cleaning the showerhead at the pool after you use it, instead of letting it get muddy. You can also think of ways to do this unexpected kindness yourself, get creative!
Doing "pay it forward", which is repaying the good done to you by doing good to others again. Instead of demanding others to repay your kindness, ask them to repay the kindness by doing good deeds for those who need it. For example, maybe you can afford to pay a student to take a course, which he or she can't afford on his own. In return, ask the student to do the same in the future if he encounters another student who also cannot afford the course, later
Step 3. Show a more sympathetic attitude
The goodness you find in every human being may not always be visible, but your conscience will allow you to see what lies behind the misery, hurt, and hardship of others. By looking much deeper, you will discover what prompted them to do something unkind and wise or cruel. Trying to better understand the reasons behind someone's behavior in this way will allow you to recognize tolerance and even empathy for that person. By forgiving others for their behavior, you will learn to stop hurting them and give them the freedom to heal themselves of fear and pain, so that they can be better than they were before.
- Find as many ways as possible to cooperate with others. Reduce conflict and competition by encouraging collaboration and by facilitating ways in which we can work together to get things done; whether at work, at home, at school or college, in your neighborhood park, wherever you are.
- Make room for other people, even if you don't know them. When there is heavy traffic or long lines, let someone else in. They are human too, they have feelings just like you do, and it would be a nice surprise to know that someone cares about them. The attention you give will influence others to do the same in the future.
Step 4. Tell people you know about human goodness to inspire them to see the good in people
Once you understand how to find positive human stories, share your experiences with others to inspire their positive thoughts and actions. If you have a blog or social media account that you use to share your stories, write other positive stories that inspire others. What can you do now, today, to share someone's story of kindness, heroic acts of others, and the good side of humans?
Celebrate inspiring moments when someone does something extraordinary, such as abandoning victory in a race in favor of an injured fellow athlete, rescuing a pet trapped in a fire, shaking hands with an enemy during a ceasefire, and so on.. By celebrating and sharing the stories, images and creative works that have sprung up around heroic and humanitarian acts, acts of human care and compassion, you become a part of spreading the true power and value of kindness and humanity
Step 5. Restore your confidence in yourself
Remember that you are also a part of society. The world you choose will not be created if you distance yourself from your fellow human beings, or constantly deny their existence. If you feel that most people in this world can't change for the better, maybe the problem is rooted within you. Henry Miller once said, "A person who is forever troubled by the human condition may feel that way because he or she doesn't have a problem to solve, or has a problem but is avoiding it." If you're having a tough life, stop being so hard on yourself. Learn to forgive and trust yourself more. Get out of your comfort zone to learn new things, and push yourself to do something you were really afraid of failing. Be brave, because this world needs your talent.
- If you choose to sink into despair instead of hope or you choose to complain rather than do something, you will find only negativity, wherever you look. Instead, you can choose to believe in humanity, as explained earlier. In addition, you can choose to be a good person as a way to fight bad things such as injustice, violence, waste, and hunger that occur in this world.
- You may often feel helpless in the face of what seems terrible, but you are not weak. Kindness is something shady, a power that exists within every individual human being. With kindness, you're actually stating exactly what the world is like you want it to be.
Tips
- You must realize that a social system that does not work well is completely different from the essence that exists in humans or human values. Systems or institutions can be difficult to benchmark against or too old-fashioned. While some people are selfish, there are still others who try to “do the right thing”, even if they don't look like it. Often, it is an outsider who can pinpoint what cannot be passed on. Over time, the growing pressure to make a change usually succeeds in breaking down that perspective so new ways can take over. This in turn frees everyone from having to “do something” in favor of something that is no longer as useful to society as it was before.
- If you are interested in knowing the impact of each act of kindness and appreciation taken, you might want to find out about "The Newton Project", a non-profit project that takes the form of giving a bracelet to people who have made a big impact in their lives. You and so on, with the ability to track every good deed you do.
Warning
- "Being more trusting" doesn't mean you have to over-trust everyone. Betrayal of the trust given can cause a person to become MORE and more distrustful of humanity.
- Maintaining a narrow-minded and prejudiced perspective may feel like a refuge or a safe position during difficult times in life, but in the end it can cause you to become weaker as the world around you changes, and actually make you weaker. Your own "world" is less secure than if you were trying to reach out to the outside world and connect with fellow human beings, even those who disagree with you.
- Selfishness, rudeness, and prejudice will dim our vision to be able to see our fellow human beings from the good side.
