Harmonious relationships are often imagined as romantic fairy tales, but in truth, it requires effort and hard work. Even the happiest couples have to fight to keep them in harmony. So you're not alone if you want to show good will to restore the relationship in various ways. This wikiHow teaches you tips and strategies for creating a harmonious and happy relationship.
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Method 1 of 13: Appreciate the little things your partner does for you
Step 1. Tell him that you appreciate everything he does on a daily basis
Try to remember all the daily activities he does for both of you, such as taking out the trash, doing the laundry, cleaning the cat litter box, or tidying the house. Don't forget to thank him! This step can be a way of showing your partner that you appreciate every little thing he does for the common good.
- Don't get so caught up in a routine that you neglect the little things he does for you. Make a commitment to rely on his help and reward his hard work.
- For example, say to him, "I saw that you cleaned Empus' cage this morning. I'm really happy. Thank you, my diligent and kind wife."
Method 2 of 13: Express your love to your partner as often as possible
Step 1. Show him that you love him through your words and actions
This may seem trivial, but a relationship can improve simply by saying, "I love you". When the two of you are in the kitchen, take time to hug him, stroke his hair, or stroke his shoulder to make him feel loved. In addition, you can commit to expressing your love through physical intimacy so that the two of you stay close and harmonious (while joking around for fun).
- You don't need to find an excuse to express your love to your partner! When watering your lawn or driving a car, you can simply turn your head and say, "Hi, I love you !"
- Gentle light massage when you pass him can be a way to express love intimately without words.
Method 3 of 13: Give a gift as a surprise
Step 1. Show him how much he means to you by giving a gift
Don't wait for birthdays or holidays to give gifts to loved ones. Serve her a delicious snack or her favorite candy while the two of you are watching TV. Pick a rose in the yard, then give it to him while he sweeps the porch. Give something simple as a nice surprise to let him know that you love him.
Give him items he uses every day, such as a shower cap or new flip-flops if he needs them
Method 4 of 13: Get in the habit of enjoying quality time together
Step 1. Allocate time to be alone each day
The hectic schedule of daily routines often makes the two of you communicate more via phone or WhatsApp. It's important to interact with each other, but make sure the two of you meet to spend time together looking at each other and being good listeners. Make a commitment to do activities together every day while sharing stories about everyday experiences and enjoying being together.
Take this moment as an opportunity to relax and unwind with your partner
Method 5 of 13: Do new things together
Step 1. This step can be a fun way to strengthen the relationship
Eating at a certain restaurant or watching a movie at your favorite cinema every weekend can be boring. Interspersed by taking your partner to dance or cooking lessons, see an exhibition of paintings or antiques, watch a movie at the cinema or have dinner at a newly opened restaurant. Think of more fun and exciting ways to spend time together to make him love you more.
- Begin to open yourself up to do activities that he enjoys. If you feel reluctant to learn to dance salsa, he will be happy if you want to be a practice partner. Who knows you might also like this activity!
- There are other, simpler ways, such as walking in the park or enjoying the natural scenery while riding a car together.
Method 6 of 13: Develop a positive mindset
Step 1. Show your partner that you can control your emotions
Don't go back to being quick to anger or making negative assumptions when faced with problems and disagreements. Tell him that you will always be kind when interacting with him, then prove your words with concrete actions. He will see that you have good intentions towards a healthy and enjoyable relationship.
- For example, if he is reluctant to cook dinner because he is very tired, take this opportunity to cook his favorite dish or order a delicious meal to give him time to rest.
- Respond positively when interacting with him. If he asks you to help tidy up the house next weekend, don't be upset that your hiking plans with friends are falling apart. Instead, fulfill his request by saying that you are ready to provide support.
- Don't give false promises! Hold on to your word and be positive at all times.
Method 7 of 13: Ask him how he is doing
Step 1. Take time to chat to let him know that you want to communicate with him
Try to find out what he experiences during his daily activities. Ask him his activities since the morning, the difficulties he faced, his pleasant experiences, or other things when he was at the office or on campus. He'll appreciate your taking the time to chat with him.
- If he is experiencing stress, this step can be a means of expressing the burden of thoughts so that he loves you more.
- For example, ask him, "Hello honey, how are you today? Work is going well at the office, isn't it?"
Method 8 of 13: Discuss topics that involve emotions and personal life
Step 1. Take a few minutes to get closer to each other
Communicating with your partner about everyday life is fun, but don't just discuss activities at the office or the lunch menu. Ask more personal questions so he can express his feelings or thoughts. Discuss personal things that touch your feelings and don't hesitate to discuss topics that you don't like. Show him that he can trust and count on you.
- For example, ask him, "Do you still worry a lot? Has it decreased or is it getting worse?"
- Another example, "Have you called Mom? I know you're upset, but I'm sure I miss you."
Method 9 of 13: Try to listen when he talks
Step 1. Nod your head every now and then and look into his eyes when you are chatting with each other
Show him that you are actively listening to him by making eye contact. Do not look away or look at the phone screen. Nod your head every now and then and respond to what he's saying so he knows you're listening.
Avoid distractions, such as putting away your phone and turning off the TV so you can be a good listener
Method 10 of 13: Try to understand his feelings
Step 1. Take various ways to make your partner feel understood and appreciated
Let him know that you understand his feelings to make him feel better. If he's having a hard time, show empathy to let him know that you're there to help. If you're having a hard time finding the right words, simply thank him for sharing his thoughts and feelings with you.
- For example, say to him, "It looks like you're upset. I'm ready to hear if you want to talk."
- Another example, "You must be disappointed to be treated like this. It's natural for you to be angry."
- If you don't know what to say, tell him, "I'm glad you wanted to talk to me. I hope you feel relieved now."
Method 11 of 13: Tell me things you've been keeping secret for a long time
Step 1. Reveal secrets that you think are important or that seem trivial
Also talk about personal things about yourself and what's been weighing on your mind recently, such as conflicts with coworkers. Tell me something that you've been keeping a secret even though it seems trivial, for example, you say you've won a marathon, but you didn't. Tell him the secret honestly to show him that you trust him.
If he tells things about himself, show goodwill by doing the same
Method 12 of 13: Make a request if needed
Step 1. Don't let your partner wonder what you want
It can't read your mind! If there's something you want or feel up to, the only way to keep your partner from getting confused is to tell him or her about it. That way, he can give you what you need or help you make a wish come true.
- For example, if you feel neglected, tell him, "I want to talk to you about a problem at work. Please listen to me."
- If you want help, ask him, "Honey, can you prepare dinner? I'm still working on reports for the meeting tomorrow morning."
Method 13 of 13: Go to therapy with your partner
Step 1. The therapist is able to explain how to restore and strengthen the relationship
It's normal to have problems or conflicts in your relationship, but you should seek the help of a professional therapist if things don't improve. See a therapist, counselor, or psychologist who specializes in counseling couples. They can explain some of the methods of therapy so that you can determine how to effectively deal with conflicts and problems to restore the relationship with your partner.
- Counseling for couples benefits everyone. So, don't wait until the relationship is troubled!
- Talking to a therapist or counselor is a great way to show your partner that you really want to restore and strengthen your relationship.
