Relationships are an important aspect of everyone's life. From a friend to a partner, coworker or even someone you just met, you can feel a connection to that person and may want to get to know them better. However, it can be difficult to know the best way to deepen a relationship without making it seem rushed or forced. However, by building interest, being open, and deepening the relationship, you can get to know someone better.
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Part 1 of 3: Building Interest
Step 1. Start a conversation
Having a conversation is one of the best ways to get to know someone better. By getting the other person's attention through chat, you can send a 'signal' to the person that you want to get to know them better.
- Use different ways to start a chat. You can approach the other person or send them a text or email. Make sure the approach or chat is lighthearted and ask questions that the person can respond to. For example, you could walk up to her and say, “Hey Sarah! I enjoyed the presentation you gave today, especially the graphics. How do you make a graph like that?” If you want to text or email, try writing, “Hey Sarah! Great presentation today! I'm interested in the way you graphed the presentation earlier. Would you mind further explaining how to make such an interesting graphic?”
- Remember to keep the conversation light and not get personal. Personal things are considered more appropriate to talk about when you get to know him better. In addition, when you bring up things that are personal, there is a chance that the person in question may feel that you are approaching or flirting with them.
Step 2. Show your best appearance
People are more motivated to get to know you better if you are positive and well-groomed. It shows others that you value yourself and your friendship.
- Give an attractive appearance without being overly impressed. Wear clean clothes, comb your hair, and avoid using too much makeup or cologne. This shows the other person that you are approachable and open to getting to know them better.
- Stay positive and supportive. Although everyone has had a bad day, no one wants to be with or be with someone who is always thinking negative thoughts and putting others down. If you're having a bad day, let your friend know and try saying, "But now we're having fun and I'm glad I don't have to think about the bad things that happened to me before."
Step 3. Try to be friendly
Everyone likes to be around other people who are confident and comfortable with themselves. Being positive, kind, friendly and open to people you want to know can make them more attracted to you.
- Maintain eye contact when interacting with other people and use open body language to show your interest and friendliness to that person. For example, try to smile, lean forward slightly, and bring your head closer to the person in question.
- Avoid negative conversations about other people as doing so can make the other person you want to know more uncomfortable feel uncomfortable about. Negative comments can prompt others to ask, "What does he say about me when I'm not around?"
Step 4. Be patient
It might take a while to get to know someone. However, gradually increasing interactions with other people can show respect and interest in one another. In addition, it also allows you and the person to show your true and full personality so that in the end, a strong friendship will be formed.
Part 2 of 3: Interacting with Friends
Step 1. Talk about your respective interests
As part of the conversation, try to talk about what the person is interested in. By knowing what he likes and dislikes, you get a better picture of his personality.
- Make comments about what he's interested in and insert those comments into the conversation. This can encourage further conversations and help you learn more about the person. In addition, it can also encourage you to do activities that you share in common so that your relationship with that person deepens. For example, try saying, “Just a minute. You were talking about Vietnamese food, weren't you? I've never tried it. What Vietnamese food do you like?”
- Ask about his personal interests. For example, if you want to get to know someone or a coworker sitting at your desk, try saying, “I see a very beautiful photo on your desk. Where did you take the photo?”
- Share your interests as part of the chat. This can let the other person know you better and show your interest in chatting with them. Try using the person's interests as a way to introduce your interests. For example, if you're chatting about eating, you might say, “I love trying new foods, and I haven't tried Mexican food. Maybe you could tell me more about Mexican food and what kind of food you like.”
Step 2. Watch the person carefully
To know his interests and personality, you need to listen and pay close attention to what he says and does. This shows that you're interested in him and gives you an idea of a topic to start a chat or even do something together.
- Talk about serious topics and lighter topics to get a clearer picture of his personality. For example, try talking about pets or other light topics. You can say “What kind of dog do you have or want?” For more serious topics, don't bring up controversial topics early in the conversation so you don't bring them up. You could say, for example, "Are you aware that the current presidential candidacy is becoming increasingly unqualified?"
- Ask questions about the statements he makes to show that you are interested in getting to know him.
- Notice something in him and praise him for it. It can also be a great way to keep the conversation going, and show your interest in the person. For example, you might say, “Your ability to overcome obstacles in life is truly amazing! How do you do that?”
- Watch his habits. For example, does he often open the door for other people? These habits can show that the person is polite and cares about others.
Step 3. Stay independent
You may be tempted to continue spending time with them once you get to know and befriend someone. However, it is important that you remain independent. This shows respect for him-and yourself-and helps you get to know his personality better.
- Keep your point in mind to encourage more meaningful conversation. Show him that you are capable of expressing an opinion. Having meaningful conversations and exchanging information can keep friendships fun.
- Don't spend too much time on other people. This way, you show that you are less dependent on others, and are able to maintain other relationships.
Step 4. Spend time with him
One of the best ways to get to know someone better is to do various activities together. This will allow you to see new aspects of their life or personality, as well as show your interest in deeper relationships.
- For starters, try to do something good that you and he like. For example, try having dinner together at a restaurant that you and he both want to go to. You can also try cooking together.
- Make sure the amount of time you spend with him is equal or commensurate with how closely you know him. For example, it's a good idea to not immediately decide to go on vacation together if you've only known him for a few months. Instead, try taking a day trip to do an activity you both enjoy.
Step 5. Accept the good and the bad
No one has a one-dimensional personality. One of the stages in getting to know someone more closely is realizing that that person has both positive and negative sides. By accepting their strengths and weaknesses, you will be able to get to know someone better and build close relationships.
- As much as possible, keep the interaction as positive as possible. Start the conversation with good news or positive things that happened to you. This can help calm feelings and allow you or the person to open up to more negative topics (topics like these can be used as clues to his personality).
- Show your understanding if he seems to be having a bad day. No one can ward off bad things. By seeing how the person is dealing with and dealing with them, you can get to know them better. If you want, try to talk about the problem he's having and offer your help.
Part 3 of 3: Deepening Relationships
Step 1. Let him know your interest
There's nothing wrong with telling your friend that you want to get to know him better as a friend or that you have feelings for him. In casual conversation, try saying, "I enjoyed chatting with you and I hope we can have the opportunity to develop this friendship in the future." Make sure you emphasize the platonic aspect by mentioning “our friendship” so you don't confuse him. If you have feelings for him, you should explain those feelings to him too. You can say, “You know, we've spent a lot of time together and my feelings for you are now more than just friends. I hope you feel the same way, but I would understand if your feelings were different.” Statements like these show your interest in them without seeming to burden the person with your expectations.
Step 2. Try to share information and feelings
When you get a chance to get to know him better, you can start sharing personal things or how you feel. This shows that you want to get to know him better and build trust with him.
Don't share information or feelings that are too personal. Match what you want to say to how well you know him. For example, you don't need to tell him about his sex life or ask about his sex life. This kind of information is more appropriate to share with a very close friend, and not someone you would like to get to know more closely. Therefore, try to talk about things that are less personal, such as "I'm going to have knee surgery," or "My husband got a promotion, but the company he works for requires us to move house."
Step 3. Invite him to a small gathering or party
Sometimes, your friends can provide an interesting perspective on someone you'd like to get to know better. By taking him out with your other friends, you can see how he behaves in front of other people or even shows his different personality.
Remember to keep your invitations or invitations to activities close to you. For example, you don't need to invite her out for drinks in the evening if you're just getting to know her. Instead, try inviting him to dinner with your friends. This allows you to chat with them and get to know each other
Step 4. Spend more time together
As you get to know each other better, it's a good idea to spend more time with them. By meeting regularly or taking vacations together, you can get to know him much closer.
- Try going on a regular 'date' while enjoying dinner or drinks together. This allows you to continue the chat or talk about things that are happening in each other's lives.
- Plan to travel or vacation together. Being around him on a fun trip can let you know who he really is. However, remember that you can still make time for yourself during the holidays.
