Always feel like a failure in love? Your lover seems to be moving away from physical contact with you lately? Maybe you don't know how to create a relationship yet, and don't know where to start. Whatever your situation may be, there are things you can do to increase the success of a relationship. By creating a romantic atmosphere and a bit of classic flirting, you can win your partner's heart and improve the quality of your physical relationship.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Make a good impression
You definitely don't want your partner to think this is just a normal day. You have to make him think that something is different. This will create a romantic atmosphere. To get started, simply change the way you present yourself in front of him. Warm the atmosphere and he will succumb to your seduction without him knowing it.
- Dress up. Forget casual pants, jeans, and t-shirts. Show him that tonight will be different. Wear neat trousers and a shirt. Make sure your clothes are color matched (try wearing a dark purple shirt with black slacks or a dark blue top with brown pants). If necessary, ask someone to help you make sure you look good enough. Make sure your hair looks neat too. If it's a special date, you can go to the salon to get your hair done. Your partner will think you are a model out of a magazine.
- Fragrant. Women are very sensitive to smells. While smelling alone can't guarantee success, even smelling bad will definitely reduce your score. Use a scented body spray or scented deodorant to freshen up your scent.
Step 2. Do something out of the ordinary
Do something to surprise him. This, as with any fashion change, would give him a hint that something was going to be different tonight. That way, his attention to you will not be distracted and a romantic atmosphere will be formed.
- If you are usually very rigid in talking and interacting with your partner, this time be more relaxed. Instead of being cold and formal, let the softer, warmer side of you shine through.
- Another example is, if you are usually shy in front of him, tonight you should be in control. He will be very tempted.
Step 3. Use touch
Touch plays a big role in building a romantic atmosphere for women (as well as men). If you immediately rush into sexual activity, your partner will lose interest and actually feel scared. Use touch as an opening and start giving him a romantic image.
Touch the back of his neck, stroke his shoulder, play with his hair, stroke his collarbone; all these things will make him think that this is a special moment
Step 4. Make sure the timing is right
What you have to understand from women is that their sexual desires work in a different way than men. Women are usually unmotivated when they are depressed, sad, tired, or feeling bad overall. If your partner is in one of these moods, chances are that your efforts will not succeed. Trying to excite him will only make his mood worse.
Choosing the right time is also important if this is his first sex, or the first time he has had sex with you. If he's not ready, don't force him. Discuss this with him, say what you want and see how he reacts. Make sure he knows that you will still love him even if he is not ready to have sex with you
Part 2 of 3: Make Her Excited
Step 1. Do something sweet for her
Women usually feel uncomfortable having physical contact with someone who can't win her heart. A good way to show your partner that your commitment is serious is to do something really sweet, like give him chocolates and flowers. However, if you have the opportunity to do something more useful for his life, don't hesitate to do it.
- For example, lately he's been having a hard time getting to work since his car broke down. Call your friend who understands about cars, ask him to fix your partner's car, and don't forget to repay the friend's services. Returning the car as usual will certainly eliminate the trouble.
- Of course, just because you've done something nice for him doesn't mean you have the right to have physical contact with him. Never manipulate him into doing intimate things by bringing up what you have done for him. Give genuine help and do something sweet just to show him that you are a good partner who always wants to make him happy.
Step 2. Make a romantic gesture
Romantic gestures are sweet things that express your love for him. It's important to show this gesture if you think he's more than just a friend. Women usually worry that their partner won't find them attractive if the guy doesn't show a romantic side, and that will make them refuse physical contact. So make a romantic gesture and it will melt.
For example, repay the sweet things he has done for you. You may have received a hand knitted scarf or other matching item from your partner. Now it's your turn. An easy and simple option is to make them origami. The results of such handicrafts will be very impressive, it is not difficult to make it as long as you are patient. Check out our pages on origami ideas and how to make them
Step 3. Give him the appropriate compliments
Another way to warm things up is to flatter them. However, flattery is not an easy thing for some people. Sometimes we say things that we think are good, but actually offend other people. Pay attention to how you flatter and try to compliment him in the right way.
- For example, you should avoid compliments like “You look beautiful today”, because that means on a typical day she isn't pretty. Another flattery to avoid is "That dress makes you look slim", because it indicates that he is fat.
- On the other hand, flattery that generally works is something like, “I can chat with you forever and never get bored”, or “I can be myself when I'm with you”.
Step 4. Prepare the mood
Who could be tempted to be surrounded by dirty clothes and dishwashing? It's also more difficult to create a romantic atmosphere if he's had a bad day, such as having trouble at work. Let your partner change his mood first before being seduced.
For example, you can brighten his mood by setting up a romantic place. Clean up, light some incense, and scatter flower petals and candles here and there. It doesn't take much effort, but it's sure to impress your partner
Part 3 of 3: Warm Up
Step 1. Warm up the atmosphere you are both in
Some studies say that women tend to find it difficult to feel physical pleasure if they are cold. If you want to be even more sure, try turning on the room heater at a higher temperature than usual.
Step 2. Give him a relaxing massage
Start your seduction of death with a good massage. If you don't know how, don't worry, there are tips to do it. Take it slow and don't stop after a few minutes. Make him feel calm and relaxed.
- Use a bottle of lavender or regular baby oil (or massage lotion) for a massage. This way, the skin won't be irritated and it's easier for your hands to move along the skin in a soft and sexy motion.
- Important advice: heat the oil first in a bowl of warm water a few minutes before applying the massage.
Step 3. Do more than just a casual kiss or a French kiss
You probably already know how to kiss. If not, try a regular kiss first before actually seducing him. However, once you're feeling pro, you might be able to take your game to the next level.
- Try kissing the belly and sides of the ribs. This is a sensitive area.
- Continue to play your game where you kiss the freckles one by one on his face, moving on to the more risky areas.
- Another great point for kissing is the corners of his mouth, which is very sensitive and will definitely drive him crazy. He will definitely want to kiss you, but make him curious. Kiss any area of his face until he begs you to kiss him on the lips.
Step 4. Talk about something sexy and a little vulgar
The average man thinks they shouldn't talk vulgar in front of a woman so she doesn't feel humiliated. However, for some women, at the right place and time, speaking vulgar can actually arouse their passion. When you're in the desired situation, tell him what you want and how you want him to be happy. Say it in a low, seductive voice. Whisper in his ear. He'll melt because he must be flattered to see you want him so much.
Say something like, “You are so hot. I'll keep teasing you until you beg me."
Step 5. Stimulate his erogenous zones
Once you've gotten her to this point, you can start touching her body so she's ready for the physical interactions you expect. Not too fast. If you hurry, he will lose his appetite. Do it slowly. Stimulate his erogenous zone or sensitive points on his body before actually making more intimate physical contact.
- Touch the back of his neck, chest and inner thighs, as well as ears and buttocks. All of that will increase his passion. Select a limb, then do one of the following: kiss, lick, suck, massage, caress …using hot/cold stimuli such as ice cubes. There are many options for you.
- Of course, when things are really going the way you hoped, you can stimulate the more sensitive areas. If she's up for it and you've got her approval too, rub your finger on her clitoral area.
Step 6. Do a little out of the ordinary
If your relationship has always been straight and normal, introduce him to things that are a little out of the ordinary to make him more interested in physical contact. If sex is always just like that, after a long time people will get bored. That's a natural thing. By varying it a bit, you can make sex feel new and exciting, so she'll be easier to seduce.
For example, try closing his eyes and stripping him of one shirt at a time, then kissing him down and down to his lower body, then up again. This mix of sensations will be amazing and he will be ready for anything
Step 7. Do it slowly
Women need to warm up longer than men. So don't rush into your opening game. The slower and more sensual you are, the more ready he is to rip your shirt off and go crazy. Soft kisses here, long licks on the neck there, and before you know it, he'll be asking for more.
- Don't let your hands automatically explore his pants and under his shirt. Give it at least 20 minutes before starting to undress.
- In fact the treatment will feel more enjoyable if you start slowly.
