Every woman dreams of finding the perfect man, but finding the right man to spend time with is quite difficult! Maybe you'll stare at each other all day, interested, but too shy to start a conversation. Maybe he doesn't even know you're real. The following are steps you can take to get the man of your dreams.
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Part 1 of 3: Dressing to Get the Right Attention
Step 1. Decide what kind of aura you want to extinguish
Since there is no one type of female appearance that all men are attracted to, then you have to think about what kind of woman you want to be and what kind of man you want to attract. For example, if you're a nerd looking to lure fellow nerds, don't dress up in high heels, short skirts, and heavy make-up just because what you saw worked in the movies!
You shouldn't dress based on what you think a guy would like. Dress according to the personality you want to highlight. This will attract the kind of guy who will like you for who you are
Step 2. Consider the social situation before you dress
Even though you want to make a guy turn around, you don't want to do it for the wrong reasons. For example, you might look inappropriate if you dress extravagantly at school, even if your clothes are really nice. Don't wear casual "casual" attire at an extravagant party.
Step 3. Wear clothes that suit your body shape
No two women have the same body, so you shouldn't choose clothes based on someone else's body. Do a little research on how to style according to your body shape, whether you have a pear shape, an hourglass shape, or a more curvy body shape.
- If you have skinny legs and a small waist, wear tight jeans or trousers.
- If you have a curvy waist, wear straight jeans or trousers that draw more attention to your hourglass figure.
- If you have a petite body, a loose fit will look too big on you.
- Women with a curved waist should try wearing an A-line dress or an A-shaped dress that expands at the bottom, because it will make your curves look more beautiful.
Step 4. Use the right type of makeup
Even if you don't want to be seen as "heavy make up," a little foundation and lip color can bring out the most beautiful details of your face.
- Make sure the foundation you use matches your skin tone. If it's too light, you'll look like a vampire, and if it's too dark, you'll look like you're covering your face with fake dark skin!
- Use a blemish cam one or two shades lighter than your under-eye skin tone to lighten dark bags and make your face look fresh.
- Use a blemish mask that is the exact same color as your skin tone to cover up any pimples and acne scars you may have.
- Use lip gloss to make your lips shinier.
- Use a lip stain for a color that lasts longer and doesn't rub off easily throughout the day.
- Check your makeup several times in the mirror, correcting as needed.
Step 5. Stylize your hair in a way that makes you feel beautiful
When you feel beautiful, you will be more confident, and confidence can attract men. Play with your hair at home, trying different styles until you find a way to feel the most confident. Consider how long it will take to change your hairstyle like that, because you don't want to wake up an hour early every morning just to fix your hair.
- Sleeping with your hair still in braids will form slightly wavy hair.
- If you use a hair straightener, be sure to use the right styling products, or you may end up with burns.
- If you don't have a curling iron, you can use a straightener to curl straight hair.
- If you have long hair, try to pull it away from your face in a top bun, or a messy bun, or a ponytail.
Part 2 of 3: Captivating a Guy You Don't Know Well
Step 1. Be open and approachable with a smile
The first thing that influences a guy to approach you is whether you're in the mood to talk. If you want a guy to talk to you, you need to appear open to having a conversation!
Many men find the most attractive thing when a woman smiles at them. Remember not to smile too wide or you'll look like an idiot! A little flirty smile is perfect, and showing your teeth is a testament to confidence
Step 2. Make eye contact with the guy you like
This is another way to show that you have confidence. You're not afraid of being caught looking at them, and you're not afraid of how you feel.
While it's good to make eye contact, make sure you don't stare at him lovingly from a distance. You want to appear interested and open, but not obsessed
Step 3. Have fun with your friends when they are around you
If you're always alone when the guy you like sees you, he'll probably think you don't have any friends because you're not a nice person. If he sees you laughing and making other people laugh, he could mean that you are a fun woman he should probably try to approach.
- Many women do "fake laughs" when trying to get a guy's attention, but don't do that! Because it will be obvious if the laughter is forced, and sometimes it will sound stupid and obvious.
- It's better to pay attention to what your friend has to say and actually respond to the conversation. This way, your laugh will sound genuine and beautiful, and you can still have fun laughing and connecting with your friends!
Part 3 of 3: Talking to a Guy You Like
Step 1. Take the first approach and start a conversation if he doesn't start talking to you either
He probably feels the same nervousness you do when it comes to starting a conversation! Although in the past, women who started a conversation or relationship first were seen as aggressive, but we have passed that time. Be a brave woman!
- You can start a conversation by asking him for help. For example, if you're in her class, ask if you can borrow her notes for the night. It can start a conversation about the material you are studying in class, or about the teacher, etc. You can also resume the conversation when you return the note the next time you see him.
- Make a friendly observation or statement like “Homework last night was so hard” or “I can't wait for the weekend to come.” Give him some space so he can enter a conversation with you.
Step 2. Be yourself
Don't worry about his first impression of you, because studies show that first impressions don't matter when it comes to dating. It's much more important that he gets to know the real you. If you use an act to get a guy to like you, he might want to date you, but then you have to pretend to be the woman of your dreams every time you two are together. You want him to get to know you according to who you are and what you were like when you first spoke.
- If he says something you disagree with, don't be afraid to have a good argument. This doesn't mean starting a fight -- but don't be afraid to speak your mind during casual conversation.
- If he says something funny, laugh! But don't laugh at every word he says -- you'll sound forced and fake.
Step 3. Pay attention to body language -- either body language or yours
Body language can be interpreted as either "positive" or "negative," and if one of you is giving off a negative aura, this may not work. Read his body language to see how he responds to conversations. Adjust your body language to let him know you're enjoying yourself.
- Positive body language is characterized by leaning over or moving closer, having a relaxed attitude with your legs crossed, maintaining eye contact, and pointing your feet in the direction of the person you are interacting directly with.
- Negative body language is characterized by leaning back or moving away, maintaining a tense stance with legs and/or arms rigidly crossed, keeping feet apart, and avoiding eye contact.
- Keep in mind that some of these negative signs can be linked to shyness. Just because a guy can't make eye contact with you doesn't mean he won't.
Step 4. Show interest in what he has to say
Nobody likes it when they're trying to talk about something they care about, but their listeners just aren't focused. Listen to what he has to say -- both to make him feel that you care, and to learn more about himself. In the end, you have to decide if he's the right guy or not for you!
While listening is important, don't pretend to be overly interested in something you don't care about just because he's talking about it. If you make him think that you really care about the subject, he'll be very bored of you
Step 5. Talk about conversational subjects that are important to you
Just as you want to learn more about him by listening to him talk about the things that interest him, you also want him to get to know you better, so talk about the things that interest you. Be aware that there are some subjects that are more appropriate to discuss with close friends or female friends -- for example, don't share your deepest, darkest secrets or favorite makeup techniques with a guy you just met.
- Point out the traits you want him to know about you by directing the conversation on the topic. If you're a great athlete, tell me about how training went this week. If you're an artist, talk about rehearsals. If you love to read, talk about the book you are reading right now.
- But don't overwhelm the conversation by just talking about yourself and the things you're interested in all the time. It's closely related to give and take -- you both have to talk and listen an equal amount.
Tips
- Be yourself -- someone out there will like you for who you are.
- Follow your heart, not your mind. You need to ask yourself if he is the right person for you.
