Do you want to always be able to make a deep impression on a woman just by chatting? Did you know that once you can attract a woman's attention, your attractive personality will attract her even more? This article explains how to attract a woman just from chatting with her.
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Part 1 of 2: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Talk a lot in the beginning
This of course depends on the situation and the type of woman you are chatting with. But don't make him feel overwhelmed with superfluous questions and seem like he's looking for a match. Talk about 75 percent or less when you're in a conversation, because your goal is to show her your personality and values to keep her interested. Keep the conversation light, cheerful, and fun. How do you start the conversation? There are several ways.
- For the cute confident guy:
- “You may have heard this many times, but you are the most beautiful woman ever in college… in the last three minutes.”
- “I came here because friends forced me to, but because I met you, I will thank him.”
- For the shy guy:
- "Sorry if it's awkward, I'm embarrassed when in front of beautiful women."
- "Sorry, I need some time to muster up the courage to chat."
- For the frank man:
- "Hi, I'm [your name]"
- “I don't really have any reason to ask for a chat. But can I tell you something interesting?"
Step 2. Avoid boring topics like politics, work, or anything negative
Sure, you're in control of the conversation, but that doesn't mean you have full control over it. Don't get the impression that you're interviewing and asking questions like "where are you from" or "what are you doing here." Try asking more interesting questions that can spark the mood for a chat.
- If he's discussing a topic that you think is going to take the conversation in the wrong direction, try to slowly turn it in the right direction. Say something lighter and funnier that still has something to do with the topic, then start changing directions from there.
- If he keeps coming back to topics that you think will make the conversation boring, you have two choices:
- Just stick to the topic (because he really wants to talk about it), but try to keep it interesting.
- Leave the conversation in a polite manner. Simply saying that you have to go followed by "nice to meet you," should suffice.
Step 3. Deal with dead ends well
When not interested, women usually lie that she already has a partner. However, there are also many women who actually do have partners, which means a dead end for you. But don't worry, because this wall you can deal with well.
- If he says he already has a partner and advises you not to chat, then respect it. Leave him smiling and find someone else.
- If he says he already has a partner, ask if it's okay if you continue to chat with him. If he says yes, then keep on chatting. At least he can be your friend.
- If he already has a partner, don't just ask for personal contact unless you have business or other needs that require his contact.
Step 4. Don't think too much about the results
Chat with the mindset that you don't care how it turns out. If he's interested, great, but if not, find someone else.
If you have the mindset that you can't accept rejection, then you will have a hard time accepting rejection and feel hurt, because you will definitely accept rejection, even if only once. Rejection is normal, and if you've been disappointed and humbled by one rejection, then you're missing out on an opportunity to try and get someone else
Part 2 of 2: Establishing a Relationship With Him
Step 1. Don't chase too much
If at first glance a woman thinks that you're complimenting her too much, then she'll shy away because you seem too eager to get her attention.
- There are many techniques you can use to show that you're not being too passionate. The best thing you can do is ignore the outcome of your conversation later. Remember, no matter how beautiful the woman in front of you is, she is just one of many other beautiful and attractive women out there. If this one doesn't interest you, maybe others are.
- Don't over-praise. One proper compliment is more than enough to let him know you're attracted to him. Even women actually know that you are attracted to them without you saying anything. So use compliments sparingly and lure him in with your wit, humor, and mindset.
Step 2. Trigger by telling what kind of woman you like or don't like
Try talking about the type of woman you like as opposed to the type of woman you are chatting with. He will probably explain to you that he is not that type. This could lead him to subconsciously be attracted to you, because you have something in common with him, or at least share the same mindset.
Step 3. Relax in the face of it all
Your first priority is to enjoy the conversation you are having, because when you let go of your ego, chatting with a woman can be a lot of fun. Flirt, make light jokes, or make light sarcasm if you are that type of person. Chat casually as if you were chatting with an old friend.
- If you don't agree with his opinion, say so. Don't lie to yourself, but don't be arrogant and insult people who have a different opinion either. Rationalize each other's opinion and explain your opinion to him. If conveyed well, differences of opinion can actually spark interesting and fun conversations. If you're confident, you can joke around a bit about this difference of opinion.
- Calm down. Like a commander, you know exactly what your goals are and all your actions and words have a clear purpose. Nothing can shake you, not even rejection. You do hope for the best, but are always ready for the worst. Because that way you can be calmer.
Step 4. Remember, trying to approach women is closely related to time management
Don't waste your time continuing conversations that won't get you any closer to your goal. In addition, over time there will be distractions that disturb his attention. So, take advantage of the time you have. With enough practice, you will be able to approach someone easily.
You might think it's best to just chat for a few minutes before finally asking for a contact, or asking you out for a walk, or something. Why? Because no matter how skilled you are, staying passionate and intelligent in one conversation for a long time is hard. Don't chat without having an end goal
Step 5. Finally, continue to assess and monitor the level of attention
Pay attention to body movements, eyes, lips, and expressions. Women usually have clear signs when they are interested or not interested in something. With a little practice you'll know each sign they emit and what they mean. Or if not, go with your feelings, because they are usually true.
Tips
- Don't force a woman to do something she doesn't want. He will immediately dodge.
- Be confident, but don't be arrogant.
- Keep practicing. Try chatting with women you meet every day. Remember, body language and a good tone of voice can be a weapon to attract his attention.
