Sometimes, negative emotions overwhelm a person. In order to free yourself from the negative feelings that make your life miserable, try to forge yourself so that you are able to open your perspective and see positive things. To improve yourself, you must learn to find the good side (wisdom) in everything, always think positive, try to avoid negative things, and go through the process.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding the Good Side (Wisdom) in Everything
Step 1. Be a smiley person
When we smile, our brain sends messages through nerve signals that make us feel more positive. If you're upset, rely on your face as a cheerleader that can brighten your day. Believe me!
- Want an extra bonus? When you smile, you spread positive energy to other people so they feel comfortable too. So you bring good to everyone.
- If you're not in a good mood, complaining isn't the way to fix things. Start forcing yourself to smile so that it becomes a habit.
Step 2. Change the words you usually use
People tend to say things more easily that unwittingly make them moody. Saying positive words, which are antonyms of negative words, has been shown to affect your mood and attitude.
Don't identify with how you feel. Instead of saying, “I'm sad” or “I'm frustrated”, get rid of negative thoughts by saying, “That movie made me sad” or “This assignment is very difficult and it's frustrating for me.”
Step 3. Do good for others, even if you don't like it
Even though today isn't fun, it doesn't mean you have to get carried away by the situation so that you act like someone who isn't happy. Make a decision to share positive things with those around you. The smile they give in return will allow you to think more positively. There are some easy ways you can do to please others:
- Give the pregnant woman who is standing in line behind you a chance to pay for her groceries first
- Bring mangoes from your own garden to share at the office after lunch
- Share homemade flour fried mendoan tempe with neighbors
- Greet the janitor and give credit for his hard work cleaning the restrooms at the mall
Step 4. Get in the habit of hanging out with people you like
If you want to think positively, approach people who think positively and are able to see the best in you. Make friends with people who are supportive, friendly, and like you for who you are.
Don't go out with someone you don't like because of their annoying behavior
Step 5. Find and save positive words or mantras
One of the best ways that can provide enlightenment is to keep wise words or proverbs that you like in your pocket, on your cellphone, or memorize them for you to use in your daily life.
Sign up for websites that post positive affirmations like Pinterest, Twitter, or Facebook so you can engage in social networks that have a positive impact on your life
Step 6. Keep a journal and write it down every day
If you're having a bad day, learn to see it from a different perspective. Take time to write a journal while enjoying a cup of tea or another drink of your choice. Sit down and start writing about your experiences today. What happened? What went well? What is wrong? Write everything down.
- List three things that went well and explain why. Also write down three things that are not good and explain why. Try to write down each incident specifically.
- Read again what you wrote. Sometimes, an experience that you thought was very dramatic suddenly feels like a small thing after you read it again in earnest. Is it really that negative?
Part 2 of 3: Avoiding the Negative
Step 1. Try to identify the triggers for your negative thoughts
Try to figure out what's upsetting your mood and screwing up your feelings so that you get carried away by negative emotions. This can help you determine how to deal with these triggers and free yourself from negative emotions.
- In a day, do you like to be angry or feel annoyed at certain times? If certain events occur? If you're with a certain person? Why are you angry?
- Maybe you have a hard time feeling positive about things. If you still can't stay positive even when you're on vacation, you need to check for symptoms of depression and talk to your doctor.
Step 2. Be friends only with supportive people
People who can't support your mental well-being don't deserve a place in your life. People who just like to criticize, stress, or bring you down are just wasting your time and energy. Avoid these people or keep your distance from them.
If you have to go out with someone who is annoying or you always want to see someone, try to limit yourself. Tell them honestly that you need some freedom and want to be alone
Step 3. Don't take what other people say seriously
If something makes you happy, enjoy this pleasure. If you don't care about something, don't let yourself be swayed by what other people think. Listen to your own heart and don't be easily influenced by what other people say about you and your business.
Don't ask other people's opinion, if you don't need it. What difference does it make if a coworker doesn't like the name you chose for your new pet cat? As long as you are happy, this is all that matters
Step 4. Don't compare yourself to others
Competition can make people think negatively. Avoid situations that force you to compare yourself or compare your skills with those of others. This situation can lead to feelings of disappointment, anger, and anxiety. In order to think positively, avoid situations that force you to compare or compete with others.
Step 5. Get busy
Work hard and have fun. Fill your schedule with activities that keep you busy so that you don't have time to sink into negative feelings. If you're always focused and productive, it's hard for you to feel negative about things. Focus on what you are doing and your success, nothing else.
For some people, being busy is a way to get rid of negative feelings. For others, this approach creates negative feelings. There are people who need more time to rest than others. If you are one of them, make sure what you need can be met
Step 6. Don't dwell on unimportant things
Enjoy the happiness and satisfaction of life by hanging out with family and friends if this is most important to you. Put everything else in the “not important” category and ignore it.
- Block annoying social networking accounts. If you have an addicted friend lowering himself to get compliments and pissing you off, don't access what they upload. Ignore it!
- If you are in a bad situation and want to improve your life, there is something you should do to turn yourself into a positive one by reading this article further.
Part 3 of 3: Improving Your Life
Step 1. Do the activity
Exercising has been shown to drastically and positively affect your mood by making your body release stress-reducing hormones that make you feel good. One of the best ways to improve your perspective is to find a way of practicing that you enjoy the most. Thus, this physical activity can become an important part of your daily life.
- Start with the easy things. Try a brisk 30-40 minute walk in a residential neighborhood. Use headphones to listen to your favorite music or songs while relaxing your mind.
- Find a sports team that you enjoy, such as football, basketball, volleyball, and join if you can enjoy the positive effects of exercise.
- If you don't like working out as a team, try doing individual activities, such as running, swimming, or cycling.
Step 2. Set goals and work towards achieving them
Sometimes, if you feel like someone is confused aimlessly, negative thoughts usually start to appear. In order to calm your feelings again, start setting goals and work towards achieving them. While this goal is relatively small, it's great to have a goal you want to achieve each day.
- Make a five-year plan for an important goal and do something every week to get closer to this goal. What do you want to achieve in the next five years? What would you do? What can you do now to achieve it?
- If you feel like you're living a successful life, but you're still not at your best, find a new hobby. Learn a musical instrument or create art so you can be creative in a different way.
Step 3. Make a celebration
Set aside time for yourself to have fun. Even if you're busy, even if it doesn't feel like much fun, making time to celebrate with friends and family can be a good way to instill a positive mindset.
Celebrate big and small successes. Graduation is a reason to have a celebration. But also celebrate Friday with dinner together because you've had a great week
Step 4. Eat healthy foods
What you eat can have a huge impact on how you feel physically and mentally. Eating more green vegetables, consuming omega 3 fatty acids and folic acid has been shown to be able to cope with emotional changes well.
- Get used to breakfast. Research shows that breakfast immediately activates metabolic processes. People who eat breakfast have more energy and are better able to think positively throughout the day.
- Eat complex carbohydrates found in oatmeal, whole grains, and sweet potatoes to give you more energy without experiencing a drastic drop in blood sugar levels. This can happen if you eat simple carbohydrates in cereals that contain sugar and processed foods.
Step 5. Relax if needed
Relaxation is needed so that you can stay positive. If you experience stress often, make it a habit to rest and relax when you need it. Relaxation is not a sign of weakness. This way shows that you are capable of doing what you need to stay healthy.
- Set aside time to rest a few times a day. Sitting quietly for 10-15 minutes while listening to meditative music or reading a magazine on the sidelines of your busy life allows you to live your daily life with a much more positive mind.
- You also need to rest long enough. Don't let the holidays pass you by. Take a week off to recuperate.
