Change is hard for many to accept. However, you must remember that in order to grow personally, we must accept that life is constantly changing. We may lose a job, lose a loved one, have to move suddenly, or face other major changes, but those changes are part of life. We may not like the changes that are taking place in society or how big the changes are in our communities, but we must be able to deal with these changes in a positive way. Fortunately, there are many ways to see change, deal with it, and ultimately accept it.
Part 1 of 2: Dealing with Change Intellectually
Step 1. Get into your feelings for change
No matter what change is troubling you, absorb how you feel about the change. You won't be able to get rid of these feelings if you ignore them and don't try to work through them. If you absorb the feelings you have, it will be easier for you to grow and move on with life.
- Share your feelings with others, but do it politely.
- If you have lost a loved one, allow yourself to grieve.
- If you lose your job, allow yourself to feel upset or disappointed.
- If your community is going bad, tell your friends about it.
Step 2. Understand that change is inevitable in life
Before you can accept change, learn that old things must pass and new things must come. The entire history of the world and of mankind can be explained through words such as continuous change, evolution, and development. Change is a part of life and existence, and change often brings new and sometimes good opportunities!
Step 3. Try to see the big picture of change
Change can easily leave you feeling overwhelmed and overwhelmed, but you can change your mindset for a more positive one if you take the time to look at the big picture. For example, you can use the following techniques:
- Change your point of view when you see the situation. Ask yourself a few questions about the changes. For example, you might ask, "Why am I upset or worried about this change?" Then, “What do you think will happen with this change?” And, “Are these thoughts and beliefs accurate and realistic?” Asking these questions can help you determine if the change is really something to worry about.
- Make a list of things you are grateful for in life. Among its many benefits, being grateful can help you feel happier, sleep better, and even cope with trauma. Being grateful is a great technique when you're dealing with a very big change.
Every day, try to write down 10 things you are grateful for. Add things to this list every day. You can start with basic things like having a shelter to sleep in, food to eat, warm water to shower with, friends, family, and so on. Then, over time, try to notice small things like a beautiful sunset, a good cup of coffee, or a conversation on the phone with a friend
Step 4. Learn the lesson
While change can have a negative impact on your life, it usually has a positive side. Use this as an opportunity to turn a loss or negative change into an opportunity or a way to rediscover your zest for life.
- If someone in your family has died, think about the family members who are still with you. Let the experience bond you as one family.
- If you lose your job, see it as an opportunity to find a new job, a new career, or a new way to support yourself that is more fulfilling.
- If you're breaking up with your partner, consider that there's a reason it happened and you'll both probably be happier in the long run. You may also be able to find an even more satisfying relationship.
Step 5. Try to understand the reasons behind your anxiety about change
Accepting and understanding change is difficult if you're not sure why it's making you uncomfortable and restless. Thinking and exploring within yourself may help you to understand yourself better. As a result, your anxiety about the changes may be relieved. Consider the following:
- Does the departure of a loved one frighten you with your own death?
- Has social change left you indecisive and feeling like everything you knew about the world was falling apart?
- Did the end of your relationship with your partner leave you feeling vulnerable and lacking emotional support?
Step 6. Accept your dynamic nature and ability to adapt
Try to see change as a challenge and an opportunity for growth. Remind yourself that you are tough and dynamic, and you will become stronger as a result of the changes. Also keep in mind that change can be a powerful motivator to help you achieve your goals.
Try to use change as motivation if possible. For example, if you lose your job, you can use the change as motivation to return to your studies or pursue a career you've always dreamed of
Part 2 of 2: Taking Steps
Step 1. Manage stress and anxiety due to change by engaging in activities that reduce stress
There are several ways that can help you to manage stress and anxiety due to changes happening around you. Part of that is accepting change itself by trying to understand it and finding peace and fulfillment.
- Practice yoga.
Step 2. Get busy
If you are going through a time when change is taking a toll on your life, keep yourself busy. Keeping yourself busy, working, making things, and interacting socially with other people not only distracts you, but also helps change your life for the better in the future.
- Keeping yourself busy will help you move on and think about other aspects of your life.
- Keeping yourself busy may open up new opportunities for you.
- Find a new hobby. Try something you've never tried before! Find enjoyment in new activities that can help you to enjoy life after the change. You will definitely be happy to have taken the opportunity!
Step 3. Talk about it
Share the impact of the change on you with others. Your friends and loved ones may be able to sympathize with you or have a different opinion about the consequences of a change that makes you uncomfortable. If you tell them, they may provide a different point of view that can change your point of view and help you to accept the change.
Another result is that you may find that other people are just as annoyed as you are because of the changes. Knowing that other people are in the same situation as you may give you the strength and energy to accept the change and move on with your life
Step 4. Make a list of life goals for yourself
An important part of accepting change is finding a way to move on with your life and think about your future. By looking ahead and looking to the future, you can better face the past and accept it as something that had to happen in order for you to move forward. Think for:
- Get a better job.
- Exercise and be healthier.
- Travel and see new places.
Step 5. Try to make the world a better place
Accept the changes that make you uncomfortable and resolve to use your energy to make the world a better place. That way, you not only accept the change, but also use the change as energy for something positive. Consider the following techniques:
- Volunteer for a cause you think is important.
- Helping acquaintances in need.
- Adopt abandoned pets.