Are you lucky enough to have an established and serious relationship with someone you love? If so, congratulations! Most likely, a marriage proposal is waiting in front of your eyes and you will receive it in the near future. Maybe all this time you've had the concept of a dream proposal in your mind; it's also possible that you've already thought about how you'd react if that moment actually happened. Marriage proposals can be packaged in the form of surprises, or not; depending on the dynamics of the relationship and the situation surrounding the application process. Whatever the situation, if you really want to get married and accept a proposal from a loved one, all you have to do is smile and say "Yes!" gratefully.
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing to Accept Applications
Step 1. Don't spoil your partner's surprise
If you know you're going to be proposed, give your partner a chance to put his plans into action. Don't divulge that you know the plan or rush the process. Don't show that you expect the application.
If you believe your partner will propose, there are two approaches you can take. One, you can tell your partner that you're aware of his plans or two, you can wait for him to propose to you and pretend to be surprised afterward. Think about which scenario fits the dynamics of your relationship better
Step 2. Don't act prematurely
If you know you're going to be proposed, don't divulge the plan to anyone. Hide your happiness; don't divulge it to friends, parents, or even strangers you've just met. Remember, nothing is certain in this world. You may end up embarrassed or disappointed if things don't turn out the way you hoped.
Step 3. Confirm everything before answering “Yes”
Think about your life, your career, your relationship goals, your age, and your partner's financial situation. Ask yourself if getting married is the right decision at this point. If you answered “yes”, make sure that you have thought about the answer carefully and that you say it without hesitation. Before answering it, go through your doubts (if any) and determine whether they are valid or not.
- Contemplate. Think about the advantages and disadvantages that you will face later, write your thoughts in a diary, or discuss it with trusted people. Don't worry, it's natural to contemplate before making a decision of this magnitude.
- If it turns out that your doubts outweigh your beliefs, don't feel obligated to accept the proposal right away. You can always ask your partner for time to think; after all, your relationship with your partner can still work even though you both are not married at that time, right? Don't make decisions that are uncomfortable for you.
Part 2 of 3: Accepting Applications
Step 1. Re-evaluate how you felt at the time
Of course, you can choose to ignore your partner's words and just listen to the voices ringing in your head. However, it would be much wiser to really listen and think about the implications of what your partner is saying. After he's finished saying it, think back on how you feel about the topic (even though you may have thought about it before); ask again if you really want to marry her. Remember, your decisions can change in an instant when you are actually faced with the situation.
Don't think too long. It's important to build a connection with your feelings, but it's not wise to let your partner wait too long
Step 2. Smile and say, “Yes
Present your answer in a straightforward and sincere manner; reassure your partner that you do accept the proposal without hesitation. If you sound doubtful or respond with a joke, your partner is likely to feel confused and hurt. Show your partner that the moment is special for you! Remember, the most authentic reactions are those that were not planned in advance.
- Let your emotions do the talking; show how much happiness you feel about marrying her. Say "Yes! Of course I would!” or “Oh my God, of course I will marry you!”.
- If your partner is planning a special proposal draft that is meant to surprise you, give a response that goes along with that concept. No need to feel pressured and have fun!
- Giving an ambiguous opening response like "Oh, Sam…" can leave your partner confused and discouraged from continuing. You may even need to repeat your answer for him to really understand it; It's very easy for your partner to miss your words because he or she is too nervous. Repeating your answer will also emphasize and make your answer sound more serious.
Step 3. Show your emotions
Dealing with a commitment as serious as this can make you excited, calm, or even fearful and anxious. Whatever you feel, don't hesitate to express it to your partner. If you want to share your life with him, feel free to express your emotions to him! There are times when you need to suppress your emotions, but not when you are receiving a marriage proposal from him.
Step 4. Touch the pair
Hold her hand and show her your love. Even this simple gesture can bring the two of you closer together and show your support for him. Hug your partner, kiss your partner, or fall into their arms; make the moment as special as possible!
Step 5. Let your partner slip the engagement ring on the ring finger of your left hand
According to classical tradition, a suitor must kneel on one knee, open the ring box, and then ask classic questions such as “Will you marry me?”; after that, the proposed person will answer "Yes!" enthusiastically, and the applicant slipped a ring on the person's left hand ring finger as a symbol of acceptance of the application. Of course you don't have to follow the tradition; but it never hurts to prepare your left hand to make things easier.
- If your partner is having a hard time doing this, you can help them.
- If it turns out that the ring is too small or too big, there's no need to show your dissatisfaction right away. React as naturally as possible and don't embarrass your partner. Remember, you can always fix the ring size at a later date, but that magical moment will only happen once. Don't spoil it and focus on your happiness!
Part 3 of 3: Preparing for the Wedding
Step 1. Spread your wedding plans
Congratulations, you are actually getting married! Tell the happy plan to your closest friends and relatives; You can share it in person or through social media pages. In the digital era like today, social media can be used as a very powerful and effective message delivery medium!
Consider the current situation and the comfort of your partner. If your marriage is not sanctioned (eg due to religion, race, parental disapproval, etc.), it would be unwise to make it public before the matter is resolved. On the other hand, if things are going well, there's nothing wrong with showing your happiness on social media pages to appreciate your partner
Step 2. Invite the couple to discuss the “meaning of engagement”
Make sure you both understand the status. You have committed to marrying your partner and sharing your life forever with them; So, it is very important for you and your partner to have the same perspective. If you have doubts or differing considerations, be clear from the start. Make the engagement a collaborative process so that neither party gets hurt in the future.
Step 3. Plan your wedding
After getting engaged, the next step is to get married! Work with your partner to get things ready, and make sure you both have a common ground. You both have the option of having a big wedding with everyone you know, or a simple and private wedding with only the closest people. Determine the wedding date and plan the concept of your wedding party; or just come to the civil registry office to validate your marital status!
- Remember, there will always be the wishes of your parents, future in-laws, and extended family that you must fulfill. Of course you are not obliged to fulfill every wish; but if they are helping to finance your wedding, you likely have no other choice.
- If you want to host a large-scale wedding, it's best to start planning ahead of time. At the very least, start by specifying a general date or time estimate; are you getting married in six months? Or two years?
