This article explains how to be disciplined in every aspect of life. Discipline does not mean punishment, coercion, or obedience. The following instructions apply to adults as well, not just to disciplining young children. Everyone needs to learn discipline.
Part 1 of 2: Understanding Yourself
Step 1. Try to understand yourself
Find out what the obstacles are so that you feel you still need to be more disciplined. In addition to bad character, this can be caused by the inability to determine life goals or a tendency to ignore oneself due to external influences or addictions. Think about whether you always want to please others without thinking about your own interests so that you are disciplined according to other people's ideas, instead of determining disciplines that are useful and able to meet your needs. So, first determine the cause.
- Why do you feel you are still lacking discipline? What is holding you back from being disciplined?
- In addition to recognizing limitations, consider the influence of others in your daily life. Do you spend more time pleasing others than fulfilling your own desires? Do you always comply with the demands of others and ignore your own interests?
Step 2. Convince yourself that you want to be self-disciplined in order to have self-confidence
This is very much needed, especially if all this time your life has been more focused on pleasing other people. You'll have a hard time being disciplined if you always let other people decide things for you, for example: controlling how you act and think or deciding what you should do.
If you consider yourself to be worthless or a loser, realize that these inner chatter is fueled by unfounded negative thoughts and must be addressed immediately in order for you to be self-respectful and self-disciplined. In addition to attending counseling, get rid of negative thoughts by doing mindfulness meditation or using cognitive behavioral shaping techniques
Part 2 of 2: Improving Daily Discipline
Step 1. Determine the aspects of your life that require higher discipline
Ask yourself in what areas you would like to be more disciplined, for example at work, studying, keeping clean, eliminating bad habits, etc.
Step 2. Be positive
Make the decision to make the necessary changes and focus on those desires. Although difficult, see this as a challenge, rather than as a problem or obstacle. If you've decided on a particular course of action, run it consistently. Feelings of laziness sometimes arise and hinder your efforts, but this feeling is normal and experienced by high achievers too. They are different not because they are “better” than you, but because they are able to recognize the emergence of these obstacles and try to overcome them before they become bigger problems.
- Realize that only you can change your life, not anyone else. Take control of your life and make the necessary changes because you are no longer a child who still needs direction.
- Daily routines that feel comfortable because you're used to them tend to attract you to old behaviors. Use it to remind yourself and then stop as soon as you notice it.
Step 3. Demonstrate wise attitudes and actions
Human personality and behavior are influenced by culture, traits, emotions, values, beliefs, and social norms that apply in a group or community. Be polite and tactful in all situations.
Step 4. Learn to control yourself
Learn how to manage things yourself, such as setting up a financial budget or holding meetings. Instead of starting a big company, learn to live life on a regular schedule and start small. For example, make it a habit to have lunch between 12.00-13.00 and dinner between 19.00-20.00.
- Make a work plan and make a schedule and then implement it as best you can.
- Break the work plan down into small activities to make it easier to do.
- After sitting for 1 hour, stand up to stretch and take a walk. Let your body and mind rest for a while so you feel refreshed and relaxed when you return to work.
Step 5. Keep it neat and clean
In addition to benefiting yourself, you will also feel better. Keeping clean makes the environment better and more pleasant, thus bringing about a big emotional change. Read articles on wikiHow or on other websites that explain this.
Step 6. Use appropriate body language
Communicate clearly and assertively. Use appropriate body language if needed. Don't talk too loudly or shout. Discipline in the art of communication makes you more disciplined in many other aspects of life.
Step 7. Be prepared to face the people who stand in your way
People who benefit from your lack of discipline may feel threatened if you show a desire to change. Be wary of them trying to distract you from your new habit and be persistent. Listen politely to what they have to say, but don't be swayed by their procrastinating or distracting behavior. Do things that bring good in your daily life.
Step 8. Once you are able to do the right thing, move on to making it a good habit
Run your daily routine automatically as if you were breathing.
Reward yourself when your goal is achieved
- Disciplining yourself is a very difficult thing. Learn to live your daily life with discipline so that this becomes an aspect of your personality.
- Discipline is an existing ability in the each other, not from from the outside. Discipline shows nature a person and cannot be measured. Discipline is necessary showed in everyday life, isn't it? removed.
- To maintain motivation, keep in mind the goals you want to achieve.
- Do not push yourself. Do it one at a time, instead of all at once. It's the little things that exhaust you so much.
- Do not advise or criticize others because they seem undisciplined. If this affects you, have a good talk with him. If not, let him sort things out on his own. You can't change anyone but yourself.
- Do not exaggerate. People who carry out routines without common sense and neglect their well-being are more likely to develop Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). If your routine is distracting or upsetting other people, it's a good idea to adjust.