You've found a beautiful woman who is suitable as a boyfriend, but it turns out she is a stripper. This of course can complicate things. Before approaching it, there are a lot of stereotypes about strippers that you should know (and ignore). Otherwise, your chances of getting to know him better will fail. The key to approaching a stripper is to show sincerity in terms of appearance and material.
Step
Step 1. Trust and open
Before entering the club you're going to, try to keep an open mind. Don't assume that strippers can't work in other fields and that life is always a mess. Some of them may be educated women and are forced to do this work to pay for college or nursing school. Some may also have recently experienced a bad event and have to do this work to support their family or send their children to good schools. Don't judge a book by its cover if you want to date a stripper.
Step 2. Understand what to expect
Strippers get a lot of attention from people inside, or even outside the club. Dating a stripper may not be the right choice if you can't accept the fact that your partner is getting a lot of attention from other people. Don't date a stripper thinking you can "change" her or expect her to find another job. Accept the fact that she is a stripper, or find another woman.
Step 3. Find a club that you feel comfortable visiting
Usually, the type of club you visit will determine the type of women who work at the club. Some clubs are usually filled with young, inexperienced girls, seasoned dancers who have fallen into despair, mercenary dancers, or even a combination of these. Instead, avoid dancers who are attracted to gangster-type men who can provide protection and follow their lifestyle. This kind of woman may be suitable for one night love but not for a more serious relationship. Visit a club filled with more educated dancers. Usually, the dancers in the club are college students or alumni. This type of dancer is usually much more engaging and open to socializing with you as long as it is within the confines of their workplace.
Step 4. Visit the club early
Come to the club as soon as it opens, usually 1 or 1.5 hours after it opens. the club is usually still pretty quiet and the dancers are still relaxing, walking to and fro, practicing new tricks, and talking to each other. Since dancers are not yet in the "crazy" work mode, this is the perfect time for you to approach them without feeling pressured.
Step 5. Start a conversation
You have to be sweet and not judgmental. Many strippers are used to being mistreated by men who see them as mere piles of flesh. Listen to him, give him the opportunity to open up and tell stories (usually very interesting stories), and show that you are interested in activities he usually does outside of his job. Don't focus your attention on any part of his body. Everyone likes compliments, but strippers are used to getting this kind of compliments. Look into her eyes and don't look at her breasts or thighs. Instead of complimenting her body parts, you'd better say that the clothes she wears look great or that her dancing is getting better and better looking. Create topics of conversation about books, movies, education, family, and life. He will find you much more interesting to talk to than other customers.
Step 6. Give him a tip when he's on stage, but don't ask anyone for a lap dance
He'll think of you as a regular customer if you ask him for a lap dance. It's also a good idea to pay for the time he has set aside to talk to you. He will not want to date you once this business relationship is established. If you don't ask him for a lap dance, don't ask other dancers to do it. When on stage, tip him a little more than the other dancers, but don't tip him alone as this can create jealousy and strife among the dancers in the club. This will also make your relationship with him even more difficult.
Step 7. Leave the club when it gets too crowded and customers start asking for a lap dance
Show that you do not want to interfere with his work. Cheer him up and tell him that you will visit again another time. The more you visit him, the more likely he will smile and approach you when you come over. If not, maybe he really doesn't want to date the customers at the club, or he already has a girlfriend.
Step 8. Ask her out
If he doesn't want to meet you outside the club, he may be playing a prank on you. He may be reluctant and very cautious, but if he continues to refuse, you won't need to approach him again. If he wants to be asked out, do something sweet and romantic for him. She was a stripper, so she was used to dealing with men who showed her interest through money and gifts. Try doing something related to what he is interested in. Never assume that a stripper will instantly be willing to sleep with you. On the other hand, some of them take a long time to get to know you. Because they have to deal with the worst side of men every day, they generally don't trust men. So, be patient and show him that you are different.
Step 9. Accept the fact that she is a stripper
If you end up dating a stripper, he'll appreciate your understanding that what he's doing is a job and he's making more money than most practicing doctors. In fact, he may even plan to become a practicing doctor someday because many dancers are used to earning much more than most white-collar workers! Understand that many women choose this job to give them time to pursue other interests and priorities. So, fit the date into his schedule, and don't call him before 11am.
Tips
- When dating a stripper, don't visit the club where she works. You might get jealous when you see him doing what he usually 'does' for an income. He may also get jealous when he sees you with other dancers. Of course he doesn't want the problems in the relationship to carry over into the realm of work.
- Make friends with the dancer first. Most dancers don't like the manager of the club they work for, and usually have a few favorite customers. If you befriend the dancer first, you won't be seen as the "weird" friend of the club manager.
- Don't ask for your real name or phone number right away. When the time comes, he will give it to you. Provide your name and phone number instead.
- Don't get drunk where he works. Wear neat clothes and make sure you smell good.
- The best opportunity to date a stripper is when you meet her in a public place, such as at the gym, at a concert, in a shop, etc. As discussed earlier, some strippers don't want to date customers; some are willing to make a one-night stand with a very attractive customer, but not to date, and some will occasionally go out with a customer they find attractive.
Warning
- Don't immediately assume that the stripper is interested in dating when she asks for your phone number or business card. He may be interested in making you his regular customer, or keeping your information in case he ever needs business services from you.
- Some women (not just strippers) try to find a 'sugar daddy' or 'sugar mommy'--people who pay for living expenses, give gifts, and take outings, in exchange for sex, attractive companions, or friends. If possible, some strippers may have more than one sugar daddy.
