Do you have romantic feelings for one of your friends or girlfriends? Even if you don't know how he feels about you, you're actually in an advantaged position because you both know each other so well. Turning a friendship into a romantic relationship isn't easy, but that doesn't mean it's impossible. Want to know the full tips? Read on for this article!
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Part 1 of 3: Asking Her On a Date
Step 1. Find the right time to ask her out
Ideally, ask your date out while you're having a casual chat with her; Also make sure that no one else around you can be a distraction. Relax, try asking him to date you for one night and see how it feels.
- As much as possible, ask him out on a date in person. But if the situation doesn't allow it, you can also ask for a date over the phone. Never ask her out via email or Facebook chat, okay?
- Ask him out on a date when you are chatting with him alone. He will feel embarrassed and uncomfortable if you ask him out when his friends (or yours) are around. As a result, he's likely to turn down your invitation simply because he's too embarrassed.
Step 2. Look your best when asking her out
If you decide to ask her out in person, fix your appearance first before doing so. Of course you don't need to wear a suit and tie, but at least wear clean and tidy clothes. Trust me, the chances of him accepting your invitation will increase because of it.
- Dress neatly and cleanly. Make sure your body smells good but not too much.
- In addition, make sure you always brush your teeth so that your breath smells good when you talk to him.
Step 3. Confirm your wish
Whatever form your invitation takes, he may still misunderstand it as an invitation from a casual friend. Therefore, make sure you confirm that this is a date.
- Try saying something like, “Let's go to the movies. Eh, it's a date you know, huh!” or "I'd like to take you on a date to the book fair next Saturday."
- Sentences like that make it clear that you want to ask her out, not just a trip.
- If he's worried about your friendship, make it clear that you value your friendship and will stay with him no matter what.
Step 4. Invite her to study on a date
Trust me, she'll feel more comfortable agreeing to your invitation (especially if she's already signaling that her grades are deteriorating). After all, this kind of dating activity is minimally stressful and won't feel like a real date. Besides, the two of you could spend more time together, right?
Step 5. Make a special t-shirt for the two of you on a date
Given that the two of you are already good friends, chances are that he already understands your sense of humor. Therefore, don't hesitate to make a special T-shirt that says, “Want to date me? Yes or no . In addition to breaking the ice, doing so will also make you look funny and fun in front of him. As a result, he will be interested in spending more time with you.
Part 2 of 3: Having a Romantic Relationship With Him
Step 1. Understand his interests
Your chances of dating him will increase if you invite him to attend or do activities that he really enjoys. It's also a great way to make him realize your interest.
You know him quite well, don't you? Use that knowledge to win her heart
Step 2. Give him a personal gift
If you knew him well before getting into a romantic relationship with him, chances are that you already know the things he likes. Show that you have cared for and cared about him by giving him a gift that is meaningful and he likes it.
- For example, you could compile some of her favorite songs (or songs that show you love) onto a CD. If you're too lazy to do that, you can also send him a link with the songs. These gifts don't cost a fortune but are effective in showing your affection for them.
- Some of the songs to choose from include “Just the Way You Are” by Bruno Mars, “Your Love is My Drug” by Kesha, or “I'm Yours” by Jason Mraz.
Step 3. Don't comment on his physical condition
Be careful, he may think that you are only looking at him sexually; as a result, he's more likely to not want to be friends with you after that. Instead, talk about more in-depth things like what you know and like about him.
Herein lies your advantage when compared to other men. Given that the two of you are already good friends, you're more likely to make comments that don't relate to his physical condition. For example, say that you love his generosity when he offers to volunteer at an animal shelter. Also tell him that he looks funny because he always cries when watching sad movies
Part 3 of 3: Understanding the Risks
Step 1. Think about the consequences
Think of all the possibilities that could happen and consider all the positives and negatives. You can even write these considerations down on a piece of paper to better understand the situation. Remember, the woman is your best friend; make sure you are always careful in making decisions.
- You know that you like his personality and feel comfortable with him. You also know him well and know how to make him happy. In fact, you may even know his family (this situation is both advantageous and potentially intimidating when you date him).
- However, you also have the potential to sacrifice a lot if you ask him out. Apart from risking rejection, you also have the potential to lose one of the most important people in your life. Are you ready to accept all these risks?
- The whole decision lies in your hands. If you feel like you can't accept the rejection well, it's best to hold back on your urges and wait for your feelings to develop naturally. However, if you feel like you can't stand the feeling of love that weighs on you every day, don't hesitate to ask her out.
Step 2. Watch for signs of interest
Learn to read his body language. Does his body language indicate that he is romantically attracted to you? Or does it seem like he just thinks of you as a brother? Is he just showing interest in you or everyone else? Is he being attracted to someone else?
Think about the times you spent with him. If you both spend more time in the morning or afternoon, chances are he won't reciprocate your feelings. On the other hand, if the two of you spend more time together at night, chances are that he's been attracted to you all along
Step 3. Think about what will happen if he rejects you
Accepting rejection from the person you like is never easy. You may decide to remain good friends with him even if he is not romantically attracted to you. But it's best, before deciding anything, make sure you consider his personality. If she's a shy girl (or if you think being friends with her will make things awkward between the two of you), chances are that you should keep your distance from her.
Tips
- A lot of guys end up backing out because they're too concerned about the "right" way to ask a girl out. Don't think too hard; calm yourself down and ask her out on a date without hesitation.
- Do not rush. Don't immediately ask her out when you've only known her for three days. In many cases, love at first sight never goes both ways.
- Even if he rejects you, at least he knows that your relationship has the possibility to move in a romantic direction. Keep hope; you and he don't have the ability to read the future, do you?
- Be calm and don't dramatize things. If you're constantly flirting with him, professing your love for him, or explaining that you can't live without him, he's more likely to feel uncomfortable and walk away from you.
- Don't be nervous; after all you two have been good friends before.
Warning
- Don't change your character while on a date. Remember, you want him to like you, not the fake person you're pretending to be in front of him.
- If he already sends a signal of disinterest, don't ignore the signal and stop chasing him.
- Never give him false hope. If you are no longer interested in him, tell him personally direct. Women have very strong instincts towards men who are approaching them; trust me, he will know if you are giving him false hope.
- Be prepared to accept rejection. Remember, rejection is common; in fact, everyone must have experienced it! Treat the rejection you receive calmly rather than aggressively. Trust me, he will definitely feel bad for rejecting you.
