Approaching someone is sometimes not as easy as imagined, let alone approaching a girl for romantic reasons. Therefore, you have to be careful, move slowly, be reasonable, and respect it. Don't force a relationship or rush into action just because you can't wait to be with him. Take it slow, and most importantly, be honest.
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Part 1 of 3: Meeting and Making a Good Impression
Step 1. Choose the right moment
Make sure you choose the right time to approach him the first time. If the moment is right, you can present yourself well. Remember, first impressions are everything. Consider the following:
- Avoid when he is busy or paying attention to other things.
- Avoid inappropriate moments, such as during lectures or exams.
- Try to take advantage of natural meeting moments, such as waiting in line at the cafeteria or looking for a book in the library.
Step 2. Start by introducing yourself, if you haven't already
Introduction is very important. So, don't underestimate it. Make sure the introduction goes smoothly and is memorable. Think carefully first. Consider:
- Say something interesting about yourself, briefly. So, he will remember you.
- Ask for simple information about him, if you don't already know.
- Don't hold it in for too long if you and he are headed to different places.
- Comment on the surroundings.
Step 3. Demonstrate positive body language
Body language is very important to create a first impression. Do whatever it takes to make you seem attractive, relaxed, and likable.
- Be sure to smile, when the time is right.
- Avoid restless movements.
- Do not cross your arms or display a nervous or threatening posture.
- Maintain good posture by standing straight, not slouching, and holding your head up.
Step 4. Don't brag
Boasts are a disaster in chat. While it may be tempting to overestimate yourself when you meet a girl you like, it's dangerous. Don't be seen as arrogant, arrogant, or overconfident. However, you still have to present yourself in the best possible way.
Step 5. Be a challenge
Don't send a message saying that you would do anything to be with him. Try to let him know you want to be with him, but he also has to put in a little effort if he wants to be with you. There is no exact formula, but you can feel it for yourself once you get to know it enough.
- Don't play strategies like, "If he doesn't call, I won't call either."
- Don't loosen the schedule just for him. After all, you have friends and family, and they matter too.
- Give him time. Don't return the call right away (unless you have to) and don't expect a call back immediately. Just relax, and let things develop on their own.
Step 6. Don't sue
You certainly don't want to be seen as obsessed and willing to do anything to be a part of his life. Give him space. Remember, if he likes you and wants to be close to you, he will signal or reciprocate your interest and feelings.
- Don't call him every day.
- Don't ask her out every weekend, unless she's implying she wants to go out with you.
- Don't go to all the events he attends, and try to find a natural way to get involved in his social activities.
Step 7. Have a sense of humor
Humor can create a relaxed atmosphere. Most people also enjoy being around people who are funny and like to joke around. Humor will also make you relax, not seem awkward or nervous. However, remember that you are not a comedian. So, insert humor only when the moment is right.
Step 8. Carry yourself reasonably
The most important step is to be natural and be yourself. Don't be a completely different person just to get close to a girl. You certainly want people who like and probably love you for who you are. If he doesn't like the real you, that's fine. Stay friends, but find another girl who is more compatible. In the end, everything will be fine.
Part 2 of 3: Getting to Know Him
Step 1. Listen when he speaks
Listening is the most important part of a relationship because most people like to talk about themselves, their problems, and their interests. So, one of the best steps is to keep your mouth shut and listen.
- Be aware of how much you talk and whether it's all about you.
- Ask him something about him and what he thinks.
- Pay attention to what he says, don't be preoccupied with your own thoughts.
Step 2. Notice all the good qualities in him, both physically and intellectually
Everyone likes to be noticed and valued. So pay attention to all the little things about him or what you like about him. For example, the way he smiles, laughs, and so on. Know what he is good at (in sports, academics, work), and what he is proud of. This is important as a sign that you are attracted to him as more than just a friend.
- You can praise. Tell him that you like his eyes or that his laugh is contagious. Try not to focus on her body because it often makes women uncomfortable.
- Show that you notice when he does something or is proud of his accomplishments.
Step 3. Get to know him as an individual
Once you get to know him in general, you should try to find out what makes him unique. Invite him to discuss. Consider a few things below:
- Talk about his goals and interests.
- Discuss the people who influenced you both.
- Know what motivates him and what is most valuable to him.
Step 4. Pay attention to his mood and feelings
One of the most important things in approaching a girl is understanding when she feels something and why. Watch him. Know what makes him happy, what makes him sad, and why he cares about something.
- Is he grumpy in the morning? Maybe he's not the type to wake up early.
- What makes him the happiest? Is it when he's with friends or family?
- Does work or school make him happy or miserable?
Step 5. Understand his sense of humor and interest in pop culture
You've had a chance to show a sense of humor and be funny. So now you need to understand his interests and sense of humor.
- Talk about what he enjoys watching, what music he likes, and what he finds funny.
- Try watching TV together, and see what shows he likes.
- Take him to a comedy club or a movie, and ask him to choose a comedian or a movie.
Part 3 of 3: Bonding
Step 1. Find an activity you both enjoy
Fun activities will help forge deeper connections and relationships. It's important to find common ground. In addition, you can also pay attention to how he interacts with other people. Engaging in the same activity also allows you and him to work as a team. Consider:
- Take turns choosing a location or activity
- Both propose ideas and then choose the most suitable activity for the two of them to do.
- Try different activities each time you go on a date to test the many possibilities.
Step 2. Never lie
Be honest about yourself and show what you like. Don't build relationships on dishonesty and deceit. Such relationships are weak and will eventually crumble.
- Don't lie or overestimate your reputation and achievements.
- Tell me what your hobbies and interests are.
- Be honest, but don't be rude or insulting. If he asks, don't immediately speak without thinking. Answer the questions honestly, but tactically and carefully.
Step 3. Show that you are always there for him
Make him realize that you are more than just a friend. You are always by his side in hardships and joys. It shows that he is an important part of your life.
- Accompany him to talk and cheer him up when his performance at work or school declines.
- Provide support when there is a death or divorce in the family.
- Bring a small gift when she is sick or sad.
- Ask how they are when they meet. If he seems to be having a problem, ask him if he wants to talk. However, don't force it.
Step 4. Tell each other's dreams
Try to talk about something that involves dreams. This is important because it will help you get to know each other. And as a result, the two of you will get closer.
- When you're alone, like on a picnic, talk about your dreams for the next 5, 10, and 20 years.
- Talk about where you would ideally like to live.
- Talk about a coveted career and family.
Step 5. Show affection
Treat him with love when the time is right. Love and affection will bring you both closer, and show that you love him and want to take the relationship to the next level. If he replies, you succeeded. However, be careful and consider the following points:
- Affection can be shown with hugs, hugs, kisses, loving gazes, and comments that show concern.
- Show affection only when the time and place are right, and when he allows and welcomes with enthusiasm.
- If he refuses or asks you to stop, stop immediately. He may not be ready. So, give yourself some time and make sure to go at a pace that is comfortable for both of you.
Tips
- Remember, listening is a key approach because most women love to talk.
- Try talking to him and see how he reacts. If he's clearly ignoring you, then he's not interested.
- Check out other wikiHow articles to learn how to improve your conversational skills, appearance, and self-confidence.
