Received a party invitation from someone but couldn't attend? In some cases, the invitation intersects with other plans or activities so you have to decline. However, sometimes you just feel reluctant to attend the invitation because you don't want to socialize with too many people. All of them are valid reasons to decline a party invitation, which you can sometimes be honest about or not. Read this article to find out the complete method, yes!
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Method 1 of 2: Presenting the Reason for Rejection Honestly
Step 1. Immediately fill out the RSVP page
Don't procrastinate your rejection! Instead, immediately address your inability to attend the event so that his expectations don't rise and end up even more disappointed when he hears your last-minute refusal.
Step 2. Express the objection directly
If the party is important to the event owner, such as a birthday party, wedding celebration, or pre-wedding/birth party, it would be very rude to send your refusal via text message or email. Therefore, it is advisable to convey your refusal and the reasons behind it directly.
If you can't see him for various reasons, such as if you both live in different cities or have conflicting schedules, try calling him
Step 3. Express your refusal in the right way
Since everyone reacts differently to the same bad news, there really isn't a single correct way to express your disapproval. To make things easier for you, try adapting the way to decline to the personality of the event owner!
- If the event owner might be offended or upset, show your remorse when you say no.
- If the event owner might force you to stay at the party or make you feel guilty, express your refusal!
Step 4. Complete the refusal with clear reasons
If you simply admit that you don't want to attend the party, chances are that the event owner will be hurt. Therefore, provide specific reasons, unless those reasons have the potential to offend the event owner! Some examples of reasons that can be given:
- You already made another appointment that day
- Someone you avoided also attended the party
- You have academic and/or work responsibilities that need to be completed
Step 5. Don't give too long an explanation
If your explanation is too long, the event owner will have a better chance of asking you to attend his party. Therefore, make sure the conversation about the party is short but warm, and quickly divert it to another topic.
- If you want, you can change the topic completely or show interest in the party by asking about the planning process.
- Showing interest represents your desire to attend the party, even if the circumstances don't allow it.
Step 6. Offer to help the event owner set up the party
Even if you can't attend the party, you can still help make it a success by offering to help with the planning and preparation stages. By doing so, the event owner will realize that you value the friendship, and that you will attend the party if the circumstances allow.
Step 7. Promise to make amends for the mistake
If you can't attend an event, try asking the event owner to meet again when all parties are free. If possible, make sure there's not too much space between the party and the gathering so your regrets can be clearly seen. By doing so, you will appear to appreciate the efforts of the event owner to throw the party, as well as appreciate the friendship that exists between the two of you.
Step 8. Attend a short party
The most honest way to escape a party is to spend as little time there as possible. Most importantly, greet the event owner so that he or she is aware of your presence. While you're there, try to have fun but tell everyone present that you need to leave early. Even if you can't attend the event until it's finished, at least your efforts to show your face will be appreciated by the guests who attend.
If you don't feel comfortable saying goodbye, just leave the location of the party without saying goodbye. After all, everyone at the party was so busy having fun that they most likely wouldn't even notice you were gone
Method 2 of 2: Telling Lies
Step 1. Don't try too hard to lie
Research shows that lying is a natural routine for everyone, even for people whose morality is very bright! When a person has to lie to relieve social tension, rather than to achieve his goals, he is more likely to tell a "white" lie.
Step 2. Keep your lies simple
Lie as little as possible without trying to elaborate. Be careful, explanations that are too long will actually make you look suspicious. After all, lies that are too complex will also be difficult for you to remember later on.
Step 3. Blame your family
In many cases, family is the biggest risk factor preventing someone from attending a party! Therefore, try to explain that you have to take care of your younger sibling at home or ask your parents to have dinner at a relative's house that night. Another effective excuse is admitting to being punished so there is no way to attend the party.
Step 4. Pretend you have other plans
Most people won't have the heart to ask you to cancel a pre-arranged appointment to get you to the party. However, make sure you don't use other friends who are also invited to the party as an alibi, okay! In other words, convey that you already have plans with friends from different schools, or even with imaginary friends!
Step 5. Pretend you're not feeling well
On the day of the party, contact the event owner via text message, and explain that you are not feeling well, most likely due to food poisoning from eating wrong. Anyone would mind if their guest ended up throwing up on the show! After all, food poisoning clears up on its own in no time so no one will suspect if your condition improves the next day.
Step 6. Pretend to be busy
Whatever your current status, whether it's as a student or an employee, others will understand if you have a busy schedule or responsibilities that cannot be left behind.
If the event owner insists you attend, explain that your parents or boss at the office will be upset and object to you doing so
Step 7. Plan a lie ahead of time
If the party is in two weeks, and if you're sure you won't attend, don't wait until the last minute to decline the invitation! Instead, convey the rejection ahead of time to minimize suspicion. Some options you can consider:
- Tell the party owner that you have made another appointment that day.
- A day or two before the party, tell the event owner that you are sick.
Step 8. Monitor the trail of your lies
In fact, this is the hardest part of lying! Even though the lie was told with a good purpose, you still don't want to hurt the other party's feelings because the lie is caught, right? Therefore, always remember all the sentences you said, and to whom they were said.
- If your lie is posted on social media to make it look more convincing, make sure no one catches you doing anything different at that time.
- If you claim to be sick, don't let anyone tag your name in photos taken at other events of the day.
