All parents are different, some are soft some are not. You can't always get what you want, and you also have to be prepared to be rejected. If you ask with good planning, they will probably give in and buy you what you want. Always respect your parents and never be rude or mean if you don't get what you want.
Method 1 of 3: Discussing Requests with Parents
Step 1. Meditate on what you are asking for
You should know what your parents usually approve or disapprove of. Compare with your request they have granted. Does this request of yours seem bigger than usual? Consider your finances now and determine how long it will take to buy the item yourself.
- Decide if this item you want is worth fighting for? Most material goods in childhood and adolescence are just a fleeting trend.
- Do you want it to show off at school? Do you want it because it will be a lot of fun and help you both personally and mentally?
- The answers to these questions will help you when you talk to your parents.
Step 2. Plan what you will talk about
Choose a time when your parents are in a good mood, such as payday or when they are proud of something they did. If you pick a bad time, they will be frustrated with you and it is less likely that your request will be granted. You can also consider talking to just one of them, like mom or dad. Small talk every day will help open the conversation.
Step 3. Arrange words of persuasion
Start with a small chat about how they are. Try to convey your wishes naturally. For example, if you want to buy new clothes, start by saying that your clothes are now old. Then, go on to say that a new outfit might suit you better.
- If you want a toy like a video game, you can start by explaining the premise of the game and how fun it is.
- If possible, explain that the item will benefit them as well as benefit you.
Step 4. Continue the discussion in a mature manner
Show that you are grown up and well behaved. Don't yell, demand, or argue if they seem hesitant at first. Explain what you want and the steps you are willing to take to get it. The more polite and reasonable you are, the more likely your parents will listen to you.
- One way to make sure you stay on good terms is to take a deep breath before bringing up the subject.
- You should also be prepared that your parents might refuse. That way, you won't lose your cool if they do answer "no".
Step 5. Pay attention to your body language
Do not fold your arms, or bend over. Stand up straight or sit up straight in a chair, and try to smile appropriately. Even if your parents aren't fully aware of it, this posture is very reassuring and helps increase their chances of being persuaded.
Step 6. Discuss the positive outcome of your request
Explain that the request has a positive side or helps you learn things. Don't lie and say that the new Call of Duty has a history lesson.
If you ask for an iPhone, explain that you can Facetime with them or download an educational app. Explain that they can contact you easily
Step 7. Stand your ground
You have to be firm, but positive and don't go overboard with being obnoxious. Don't scream, cry, slam doors, frown, stomp, or protest their decision. Negotiation always produces a more positive outcome than arguing. Say that you are willing to do anything and make sure you are sincere. Usually, your parents can tell that you're not serious. So if you're not ready to fulfill your part, don't promise.
Speak in a cheerful manner. Don't talk as if your wish will harm your health. Your parents are not stupid and they deserve respect. Show a pleasant attitude
Method 2 of 3: Offering Yourself to Do Something for Parents
Step 1. Make an appointment
Consider what your parents like or want to fix at home. Maybe your dad has to clean the house every weekend or your mom has to clean the cat litter box every two days. Offer to do their homework for a month or two. If they are satisfied with your work after the first month, they should buy you what you want.
Most parents want their children to do well in school. If you do poorly in certain subjects, say that you will try to get higher grades. One way to show dedication is after-school tutoring
Step 2. Consider paying part of the price for the item
Most likely, your parents will appreciate your offer. It also shows that you really want the item.
If your parents ask you to pay half of it, don't withdraw the offer. Keep your word and pay the amount you promised
Step 3. Ask for a gift in the form of the item you want
Tell your parents that you want the item as an early birthday, Christmas, or Eid gift. Parents usually want to give it for that reason. Choose what celebration is closest.
Think about what gifts your parents usually give, and don't ask for too much. Your parents might object to you asking for an Xbox as a Valentine's gift
Method 3 of 3: Increasing the Chances of Requests Being Granted
Step 1. Show your best behavior to prove that you deserve it
Do your homework consistently, do your homework, and study hard to get the best grades. Do whatever your parents ask you to without complaining, and maintain good manners. It may sound like a hassle, but remember that you will be rewarded.
Step 2. Focus on your goals
Imagine what you want. Don't forget this reward for your efforts, that will strengthen you. If you're doing something impressive, like getting good marks on a report card, take the opportunity to ask.
Do not ask for other things that are not so important. If you're determined to get a new Pokemon game, don't ask for another game until you get what you really want
Step 3. Ask creatively
For example, if you want a car, draw the car you want as a poster, or find a poster of that car and stick it on the wall of a room you use frequently. Whenever you pass by, comment so your parents hear. If they have a sense of humor, this method works. You can also create a PowerPoint presentation that they might like, or a short comic strip.
- Consider whether your parents are the creative type who would like this approach.
- Even if your request was rejected, at least you have created a pleasant atmosphere.
Step 4. Show a mature attitude during this process
Never beg. If you keep asking, arguing, or fighting, your parents won't be persuaded to help you. Whenever you talk about this desire of yours, pay close attention to what they have to say. Take their doubts seriously.
A great way to persuade parents is to adapt their language. If your dad tends to explain things with his hands, try persuading him with his hands too
Step 5. Do something nice for your parents
Give them something they have wanted for a long time. For example, if your mother wants a special perfume, buy it for her. Say that you bought it with your own money. Parents are happy when their children work hard. They will know that you have your own money and can be responsible. If they're in a good mood, tell them you want something.
- Don't ask for something at the same time you're giving a gift because it will sound manipulative.
- You don't need to buy anything. Just do the work at home without being asked. For example, mowing the grass or washing clothes without being asked by anyone.
- Don't suddenly be cute. Parents will know there is a shrimp behind the rock. Even if it takes longer, you should slowly become a sweeter, more helpful, or more caring child.
- Continue to do positive things after you get what you want. If you stay mature, it's easier for you to make further requests because your parents don't think you're just being nice because you want something.
- You can also write a persuasive letter to your parents and put the letter where they will see it.
- Give a good reason why they need to buy the item and what it's used for.
- Show that you will take responsibility and don't expect your request to be granted immediately.
- Try to talk in a quiet and quiet place. Parents will be more relaxed and you will also have a greater chance.
- Make sure it's something you really want, not something you just like for a short time.
- Don't steal money. Stealing is a despicable act, your parents will punish you and the things you buy with that money will be taken.
- Don't promise to pay if you can't because they won't trust you anymore.
- Don't act sad so they feel sorry. If you lie, they will get angry and won't believe you anymore. Show a positive attitude even if rejected.
- Make sure you study the item beforehand so you won't be disappointed after getting it.