The definition of Enigma is difficult to know. If you want to cultivate a bit of mystery in your life, but still maintain your charm and charm, you can learn which areas of your personality to reduce and which areas to emphasize in order to cultivate more mysteriousness in your speech, behavior, and personality.
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Part 1 of 3: Speak Enigma
Step 1. Speak only when you have something to say
Don't say the whole thing if you want to create an enigma and mysterious presence. Refrain from sharing your thoughts, not because you are shy or weak, but because you believe in yourself. Don't feel like you have to always talk when you get the chance but speak when it matters to you.
Culturally, we often mistake fast talkers for smart speakers, but pauses in a conversation have a power of their own. Provide reflection and silence in the conversation and let what is said sink in. This will give weight to your words and gravity to your presence. Sometimes not everything you say will be remembered by people
Step 2. Role play smartly
Enigma people are often unpredictable and suddenly come up with opinions that you might think conflict with theirs or the general presence. Don't follow the majority. Instead, you have to find a new way of looking at it and try to think creatively. Better to ask than to agree to avoid conflict.
- If there are 3 people in a meeting and they have agreed on a way to solve a problem, play the role of the bad lawyer even if you feel they are right or silent. Having a different voice in a crowd and saying the same thing makes little sense.
- Ask as many questions as you can to make sure that the decision is the best possible one. Explain, define, and interrogate all ideas to find the core of the problem.
Step 3. Take the conversations in a serious direction
We generally talk about general things like weather, work disruptions, childcare, causes of traffic jams, cost of living. Enigma people prefer a more in-depth, direct conversation. Learn to be more creative in speaking skills and lead difficult discussions.
If at a party you are faced with a parade of boring get-to-know-you conversations, try to find someone who is willing to talk about something else. Start with an unusual question then investigate further. Better to ask "Why?" when someone casually mentions their favorite movie rather than immediately agreeing to it
Step 4. Use unusual everyday language
Instead of having a conversation that will fade away, it's best to think creatively and talk about something that will make the other person sit up and take notice. If someone asks you how you're doing, you can say "normal" and you'll soon be forgotten. Or you could reply with "I feel like a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs." If people ask you about the game of soccer, you can say "so bad" or you can say "like breathing hot lead." People will notice it.
Step 5. Master the vocabulary vocabulary
Take time each day to learn a new word and use it in your conversations. Using precise and accurate diction in daily conversations can make you stand out from the crowd.
Part 2 of 3: Keeping a Little Distance
Step 1. Don't share too much about yourself
Social networks have changed the way we relate to others, removing many mysteries from ourselves. It's hard to change people's perceptions of you because they've heard a lot about you from yourself. Don't enter yourself into online or in-person conversations. Instead, be tactful with what you tell new acquaintances and strangers about yourself, and be more generous with those close to you.
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Apart from the people you are close to, you don't always have to share your whereabouts or your interests and sense of things. If someone asks where you're going, simply avoid them with "I'll be there in a minute."
Delete your location information from social network accounts like Twitter and Facebook. Online, stop calling yourself a citizen of a certain nation. Delete as much personal information on your account as possible
Step 2. Choose friends wisely
There are some people who are open, trustworthy and quickly liked by others. However, the enigma is very wise in choosing a trustworthy place. Trust and honor take time and experience, not assumptions. The person must be close to you first.
- Spend your time with people individually, rather than in large groups. Mysterious traits are harder to bring out when you're in a group. Getting to know others to find out who they really are is not pretending they are in public.
- If you want to be an enigma, you must also learn when it's a good time to let other people approach you. Enigma is not a recluse. Even enigmatic people have people they can trust and rely on in their lives. Maybe just a little more than what we think is the cultural ideal.
Step 3. Stay calm under pressure
Enigma people can control their emotions and desires so that they can attend planned, patient, and calm. This doesn't mean you're lacking passion or emotion, but it does mean that you're in control. You are not easily distracted in both good and bad conditions.
Enigma people don't have to be martyrs. See a doctor if you experience constant physical or emotional pain. Take care of your health and you won't have to worry about covering it up. Take care of your body so that you can be strong all the time
Step 4. Live in the present
Where did the enigma come from? Unknown place. Where will the enigmas go? Where have you been. Do not dwell in the past, or in dreams about the future. Instead, focus on your life now and be fully present in the moment. Being spontaneous and willing to adapt to situations, you will become as enigmatic as the world around you.
Tell your trusted friend in secret if you're feeling sad about the loss of a family member, breaking up from a relationship or failing at something. This is not something to be told at work
Part 3 of 3: Having a Strong Personality
Step 1. Train your brain
Challenging yourself intellectually will keep you engaged in life and thus more attractive and enigmatic to others. It's better to spend your time reading books than playing video games. Better to spend time writing poetry than chatting online. Devote yourself to intellectual endeavors and surprise the world with your wits.
Step 2. Be nice and nice
Enigma people may look mysterious but that doesn't mean they are evil and heartless. Granted, your strong presence should be reassuring when people know that you don't gossip and leave friends when they're having a hard time.
- Listen when the other person is talking. Improve your listening skills, focus when others speak. We often prefer to wait our turn to be fully engaged in a conversation.
- Remembering people's names and trying to have a good memory of what other people said. Enigma people tend to appear aloof, so it's surprising to remember your acquaintance's birthday, or a particular story they've been told.
Step 3. Take up great hobbies and interests
Bring out your deepest quirks by pursuing hobbies and interests that are amazing and definitely something that piques the curiosity of others. Look for something that gives you a lot of fun because of its unique qualities, not because it's a popular thing to do.br>
Start collecting rare coins or crystals, or start an adventure in the jungle every week, researching mushrooms. Photograph. Studying Latin. Look for an obsession and follow that obsession
Step 4. Have the ability
wikiHow is a great place to inspire enigma people. Do you know how to sew? How to change your engine oil? Play the mandolin? How to install vinyl flooring? How to remove the entrails of a deer? The more esoteric knowledge you master, the more abilities you will have and surprise people when you get those skills out of your head. Surprise others with your abilities.
- Learn card tricks and never show them to anyone, just in case you're at a party and someone brings up the topic. You will surprise them when they reveal a very impressive card trick all of a sudden.
- Look for a side job if you are young. Learning manners in the world of work can help you develop more mature skills and real-world experiences that can make you stand out from your peers.
Step 5. Rosa Parks and Batman is an example of the Enigma people. Enigma don't ask permission to do what they want to do, they rely on their ability to move away from the world and find their own way. Think of characters like Sherlock Holmes, Clint Eastwood, and Julia Child.
Look for enigma people around you. Bob Dylan and Miles Davis may be enigmas on wikipedia, and your city librarian, gravedigger, barista and street musician may also be enigma. Look for quiet leadership around you, not just what is shown on television or in the newspapers. Try to find other role models
Tips
- If one of your reasons for becoming an enigma is to get a soul mate, then you need to be a little more than an enigma. Use your charm, care for others and keep your appearance in good shape.
- One exception being Russell Brand, he somehow manages to behave with gusto and passion while also being both wit and enigmatic.
- Don't be confused when you behave enigma in front of others and yourself. Self-knowledge is essential for a good life and is something you should use to discover your whole life. Don't neglect this part of your self-care---read more, write your thoughts in a journal, open yourself up to new experiences, challenge your fears and misconceptions and always be willing to learn.
Warning
- Never be someone else and forget who you really are.
- Always communicate and act without violent intent. Violence is a sign of losing control, something the enigma never does.
- Don't break the rules. You know the consequences. This is not recommended.
