Sometimes, you may feel like you can't find a good guy. Don't worry – you're not alone! This is something that everyone goes through at least once in their life. If you feel insecure about your body shape, finding a partner may be difficult. The most important thing to remember is to find ways to appear more confident. When you like yourself, other people will start to see the positive side of you. You can also use different ways to get to know new people, and then develop the meeting into a serious relationship. Regardless of your age, these methods can be very helpful. Remember – positive behavior is key!
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Method 1 of 3: Boost Your Confidence
Step 1. Think positively
Trying to find someone suitable is quite tiring. This can make you anxious, or even sad. These feelings are normal, but these thoughts won't help you get a boyfriend. Change the way you think so you can focus on the positive.
- Let go of negative thoughts. If you've ever thought, "I'll never find the right person," stay away from that thought. Replace it with something like, "I'm proud that I put in the effort."
- Keep a journal containing expressions of gratitude. Spend 5-10 minutes each day writing down the things you are grateful for. This will help you find the positive aspects in your life.
- You could write something like, "I'm grateful that my best friend and I got a role in a school play" or "I'm glad my parents trust and respect me."
Step 2. Focus on your strengths
Try to spend time each day finding what you like most about yourself. You can choose any attribute you like! You can praise yourself out loud, or write about it.
- For example, you could look in the mirror and say, "My smile is sweet!"
- You can make a note on your laptop that says, “You are a great writer!”
- Try sticking a note on your locker that says, “You are a talented singer!”
Step 3. Reach your goal
Achieving goals is a great way to boost your self-confidence. First of all, set clear goals. Remember to set short and long term goals. Then, make a plan to achieve all of these goals.
- A short-term goal could be, "Don't eat out for a week." You can achieve this goal by making meal plans and bringing lunch to work.
- A long-term goal could be, “Get a promotion in a year”. Write down specific ways to achieve this goal, for example by taking on more responsibilities at work.
- You could try, “Not absent for a semester” or “Join a school extracurricular club”.
- Achieving your goals one at a time can be a huge confidence boost!
Step 4. Build the idea of a positive body shape
These days, it's very easy to feel fat. It's very hard to like your own body shape if you always see the slim bodies of celebrities. Remember, they are often not genuine. The truly ideal body shape is unrealistic for most people.
- Remember that everyone's body is different. Everyone has a different height, body shape, and metabolism.
- Think about what you like about your own body. For example, “I like that my legs are strong to support my hobby of walking long distances.”
- Avoid negative thoughts. Don't listen to negative comments or any kind of bodily bullying.
- Look for a role model who looks healthy and has a natural build. This can be anyone, from the mother herself to Chelsea Islan.
Step 5. Take care of your appearance
Sometimes, you can boost your self-confidence by focusing on feeling good about looking good. Take time each day to take care of yourself. You will immediately feel happy!
- Wear clothes that make you feel confident. Do you look beautiful with glamorous colors? Look for a gem red sweater to wear to the office.
- Try a new hairstyle. Have you ever wanted to cut your hair shorter? Just try it! Experimenting with new looks is fun and helps you feel confident.
- Beautify your smile. A smile is the best jewelry. Try to use a teeth whitener to make your smile brighter.
- Don't be afraid to look trendy. The latest trend in school is probably belly pants. This model may not be suitable for some people. It does not matter. Dress according to your body shape.
- Ask friends for advice. You might say, "Do you think this tight sweater looks good on me?" Accept your friend's opinion with grace.
Step 6. Exercise to improve your mood
You may be lazy to go to the gym if you are not confident in your own body. However, exercising in fact can lighten the mood. Sweating is a great way to please yourself, as well as increase your energy.
- Meet a coach. There are many gyms that offer trial training sessions with professionals. Ask for practice tips that work for you.
- Try practicing in a group. Invite a friend to join a yoga class or barre training class.
- Exercise outdoors. Exercising outdoors can help you get some fresh air and sunshine that can improve your mood.
- Join a team. Try joining a soccer or field hockey team.
Method 2 of 3: Meeting Nice Guys
Step 1. Define your priority list
One of the most important aspects of getting a boyfriend is finding someone you want to date. Before looking for a guy, take some time to think about what you want. Make a priority list of what you look for in a potential boyfriend.
- Maybe a common hobby is something you prioritize. For example, do you enjoy cycling? Prioritize people who also enjoy the activity.
- You can also make a list of personalities: honest, compassionate, and a good sense of humor are some examples.
Step 2. Expand your social circle
Friends and family can be good sources for finding potential girlfriends. In fact, most people find their lover through friends and family. Let your friends know that you are interested in meeting new people.
- You can say, “Hey, Empress. I'm interested in meeting new people. Do you know any single men who might suit me?”
- You could say, “Cia, the person sitting next to you in English class looks interesting. Give him my regards and see if he's interested, okay?"
- Accept invitations to meetings. You don't know who you'll meet at a family gathering!
- If you are trying to build confidence in your own body shape. Getting to know new people through close friends may feel more comfortable. A good friend will certainly not set you up with a jerk who insults your appearance
Step 3. Use technology
Today, most romantic relationships start from cyberspace. Forget the old stigma! Put technology to your advantage and find the guy of your dreams or fun people to hang out with!
- Online dating may be a good choice if you are feeling insecure about your appearance. You usually need to send a photo. This is very useful, because anyone who approaches already knows (and has accepted) what you really look like.
- Fill out your profile honestly. For example, don't upload your photo from 10 years ago.
- Be careful when meeting new people online. Don't give out personal information, such as your home or work address.
- Big dating sites won't let teens use their services. It does not matter. You can still use technology in other ways.
- Make a catchy Instagram post, then tag your crush. You can also make funny Snapchat posts and send them to groups of friends – including people you like. You're sure to get his attention!
Step 4. Be friendly
When meeting new people, focus on the conversation. This will help you get rid of any worries about your weight. Hone your communication skills and make an effort to approach the sweet guy you saw at a party.
- Talk about light things. Don't bring up sad or controversial topics when talking to someone for the first time.
- Don't be afraid to get started. Walk casually up to someone in the middle of a party, then say “I don't think we've met. Are you Tasya's friend?"
Step 5. Get ready to meet someone
It's great to make plans and develop relationships, but you can actually meet a guy anywhere. Observing your surroundings every day allows you to see new possibilities. Don't be afraid to start a conversation in the following places:
- At the supermarket. “I love hummus. Is this kind delicious?”
- In the airport lobby. “Are you traveling for work or vacation?”
- At the nearest coffee shop. "I've never seen you before. You definitely haven't gotten as addicted to coffee as I am."
- School is a good place to meet new people. Join some school activities, such as making a wall magazine, so you can meet lots of new guys.
Method 3 of 3: Starting a Healthy Relationship
Step 1. Limit your expectations
When you meet someone, don't expect the relationship to take a serious turn. Be patient. Give yourself time to get to know each other.
- If you're not comfortable with your own weight, just say so. For example, you could say “no thanks. I don't want to share cake. I'm trying a healthier diet."
- Remember to stay true to yourself. Also remember that the man is here because he is interested in you.
Step 2. Establish a connection
As you get to know each other better, take the time to learn about the things you both enjoy. Don't be afraid to share the things you love and hate. For example, you might say, “I really like horror movies. Want to accompany me to the horror movie marathon next Friday?”
Do things together. Working together is a great way to build connections. Try new things together, like taking dance or cooking classes. Studying is also a great way to increase self-confidence
Step 3. Focus on having fun
When you're just starting out, don't take things seriously. Having fun is a key component to a healthy relationship. If you're not happy with your date, or if the guy makes you feel insecure, you may need to reconsider the relationship.
- Laugh together. Go to a comedy club or watch funny videos on YouTube.
- Be silly. If you pass by the playground, don't be afraid to take her on the swing.
Step 4. Communicate effectively
Communication is the key to a relationship. To build a relationship, make sure you can express yourself effectively. Don't be afraid to speak your mind.
- For example, you might say, “I'm not in the mood to swim today. I've been feeling less confident for the past few days. But I'm fine. Can we find other activities to fill the time this afternoon?”
- Be honest, open, and respectful.
Tips
- Be yourself.
- Be patient. Finding a serious relationship takes time.
- Have fun. Enjoy your meeting new people and try things never done before.
- If your crush doesn't like you, make a list of all the bad things about that person as you can.
