Whether you're in a relationship or admire someone from afar, sorting out your feelings can be a real challenge. While there is no clear, definitive proof to describe how you feel about someone, there are ways to make the difference clearer to yourself. Follow these tips to help you know the difference between love, obsession and lust.
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Part 1 of 3: How to Recognize True Love
Step 1. Check if you treat the object you are interested in as a person or thing
You care about this person even knowing his faults. You have committed to stay by his side even though you have to go through the most difficult times. You can tell this person anything about yourself, even if it doesn't compliment you, and you know that your partner will accept you. Know that it is impossible to make someone love you but actions speak louder than words. If you are always giving and receiving very little in return. You might consider asking a trusted family member or friend to tell them what they see in your love. Most outsiders are better able to judge the things you don't see because love is blind.
Step 2. Evaluate how secure you feel
You know that your partner will stay by your side no matter what, and you are ready to commit to your partner for the rest of your life.
Step 3. Think about how long you have been in a relationship
You've known that person for a long time, and you can't imagine your life without them. You want to know everything about that person and want to spend some time getting to know them better.
Step 4. Observe how sex affects how you feel
After you have sex with your partner, you feel closer to them. To you, affection and cuddling after doing it is just as important as sex, even if you want to keep your relationship going. Sex is not the most important thing in your relationship and you still want to be with him even if it doesn't involve sex or you have to wait for the moment.
Step 5. Analyze the way you think about that person
Something funny has happened to you at work, and you can't wait to tell your partner. Alternatively, you've had a bad experience, and you want to talk to someone who will understand. If your partner is the first person you think of when you want to share your deepest thoughts, you may be in love. You have mutual respect for one another.
Step 6. See how you handle conflict
When you fight with your partner, you keep trying until you can find a mutual agreement. No fight will ever erase your commitment to each other, and you value your partner telling the truth even if it hurts. Even if you disagree with your partner, you will always take your side and protect them in front of your family and friends.
Step 7. Consider how you feel about moving forward in a relationship
You feel comfortable with your partner, and you feel a strong bond of trust. Living together or getting married feels natural and logical. You want to introduce him to your family and friends.
Part 2 of 3: How to Know If You're Obsessed
Step 1. Check if you treat the object you are interested in as a person or thing
When you are obsessed, your mind is swallowed up by thoughts about this person. You think not only about that person but also about how you want to express yourself to this person. You have an idealized view of this person, and your views may or may not be accurate.
Step 2. Evaluate how secure you feel
Instead of feeling safe, you think more about how to impress him. Your focus is on getting this person to like you, and you get nervous because you don't know how this person feels.
Step 3. Think about how long you have been in a relationship
Your relationship is fairly new, and you think about this person a lot, you're not sure if he or she will want to take this relationship any further.
Step 4. Observe how sex affects how you feel
Sex is fun, but you feel unsure after that. You worry about whether your partner finds you attractive, and you worry about the next steps after sex.
Step 5. Analyze the way you think about that person
You often think about the way the person smiles, the way he says your name or the way your partner looks at you. You overthink these details, and you try to gauge how that person feels about you based on trivial qualities like these.
Step 6. See how you handle conflict
Your crush disagrees with you, and you ponder whether your relationship is over. You ponder whether you have known him or whether your impression has been wrong all along.
Step 7. Consider how you feel about moving forward in a relationship
You want to ask her out on a special date, but you're nervous about what she's going to say. You're afraid to ask for a commitment that could frighten him. Your feelings are not deep enough for love, you may be in the realm of obsession.
Part 3 of 3: When You Feel Hot, Annoyed, and Passionate
Step 1. Check if you treat the object you are interested in as a person or thing
If you are looking for someone to give as a gift or to sleep with, you treat that person like an object, and you may experience lust.
Step 2. Evaluate how secure you feel
Security is not important to you; you are more interested in scoring and feeling the pleasure of being in physical contact. Once you get what you want, you can accept or leave the person.
Step 3. Think about how long you have been in a relationship
You might just meet people you're interested in, or maybe you've known them for a long time. In both situations, the relationship is more about fulfilling your sexual needs than being in a relationship.
Step 4. Observe how sex affects how you feel
You've had sex with this person, and although it feels good, your mind has shifted to something else. You're contemplating how long you should hold on to him after this, and you're already thinking about scoring in your next sexual encounter. Or you just want to keep having sex with him-- at least until you find someone else. You find them annoying or trying to manipulate you or making you feel guilty when they want more from this relationship. You can have sex with him and then not talk to him for days, weeks, or months or until the next time you want to have sex with him.
Step 5. Analyze the way you think about that person
You're trying to figure out what you have to do to get this person to invite you to stay. Your focus continues to be on keeping him off guard so that he is open to sexual intercourse.
Step 6. See how you handle conflict
Who cares even if you fight? You can find someone new without the fuss, fight, and drama. The sex is delicious, but it's not worth holding on to unless you can get some make-up sex after that passionate fight.
Step 7. Consider how you feel about moving forward in a relationship
In reality, you don't care about having a special relationship with your partner. You're content to be dating someone else, and you don't care even if that person has several other partners. While you might feel jealous if your boyfriend finds another partner, your lack of commitment has shown that it's just lust, not love.
Tips
- Be aware that there will be bumps along the way. And if you're really in love, then that's fine.
- Don't look for someone who is perfect, because no one is really perfect. The only perfect person is the perfect person FOR YOU.
- If there's an argument between you and your partner, give each other some space and time to think, because if you ask a few questions right now, you're more likely to get an answer you don't like (meaning your partner will say something you don't really like). he meant it on purpose).
- Don't let that person try to change you.
- Don't rush or you will get hurt.
- Friendship should also weigh on your decision to commit. In 50 years, if you don't really like your partner, you will feel miserable.
- Don't expect that person to change for you.
- Sex can complicate your feelings. Make sure to have a firm understanding of how you felt beforehand.
- Don't marry because of pressure, threats, responsibility, guilt, financial security, fear, or even sex. You want to do it for the right reasons.
