Inviting someone to do a one night stand is not easy, and has many risks, especially if the person you are inviting is a co-worker yourself. You and your coworker are in touch every day so getting to know them in a more intimate context seems natural. However, you should be aware that it has the potential to be inconvenient and ruin your work life.
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Method 1 of 4: Understanding the Risks before Doing It
Step 1. Find out the rules of relationships at work
Most companies do not tolerate romance in the office. Make sure you understand the written rules regarding this. The human resources department has this rule in their records.
Step 2. Consider the pros and cons
Consider your long-term goals and make sure you know what the job means to you. If you're uncomfortable with the possibility that this could leave a negative mark on your career, perhaps the idea of asking a coworker to do a one night stand should be abandoned.
- Some of the pros are: doing a one night stand with people you know at work provides at least one thing in common between you and your partner (namely work), as well as a feeling of excitement from these "forbidden" activities.
- Some of the cons are: one of you could be fired, your relationship at work could become awkward, gossip would spread, and your reputation could be damaged.
Step 3. Don't confuse fellow worker solidarity with passion or love
Don't pursue a special relationship as an escape from the stress of the workload. Today, there are many people who are dissatisfied with their jobs. but this doesn't mean you have to have sex with coworkers who sympathize with you. Don't mistake sympathy for love or lust.
- Sympathy is a common sense of understanding or feeling among people, usually in a negative context. For example, you can sympathize with people you don't know because you have had the same negative experience.
- Love is an intense or passionate attraction, and it makes you want to get to know someone on a more intimate level.
Step 4. Prepare a strategy for escape
If you decide to continue the relationship, you must have a plan to think about the worst that could happen, as well as prepare a strategy to run away when pressed. Think about whether you need to quit your job and find another job if your relationship ends badly. Before doing a one night stand, you can prepare an escape strategy by doing the following things:
- Make sure that your resume, website, or work portfolio is up to date.
- Contact colleagues and people you know from your previous job for references and recommendations.
- Look for job vacancies in other departments or search the online job vacancies column to see what jobs you can get based on your competence
Method 2 of 4: Getting to Know Your Coworkers
Step 1. Make sure your coworkers are interested
Don't ask for a one night stand from just any co-worker. Make sure the person you invite is interested in how to read their body language. Pay attention to whether he gives a signal that shows interest in you, then move on.
- The signal can be direct, such as intense eye contact, a smile, or a touch when you talk to him. Signals can also be given indirectly, for example by touching his hair, neck, or face when he is talking to you.
- If he exhibits closed body language, for example by averting his eyes, avoiding eye contact, or any other type of contact, he likely isn't interested.
- If you're really not sure if your coworker is interested, don't give up. You can try a more aggressive contact like asking for a phone number to see how he reacts. Or, you could try telling a joke to see if the coworker laughs. From there, you can start the conversation.
Step 2. Keep this a secret
Make sure you do this discreetly. This will help you gain the trust of your co-workers and increase your chances of success.
Don't make rash moves at work, such as looking too chubby or signaling that you and he are doing something during work hours. This will scare your coworkers
Step 3. Move slowly
Before you try to ask you must know him first. Try to find what you have in common other than work.
- Ask her hobbies or things she enjoys doing on the weekends.
- Ask him what his favorite food is, or find out what places he's been or would like to go on a trip.
Method 3 of 4: Meeting Your Coworkers
Step 1. Bring up the topic
Once you've gauged a coworker's interest and developed a basic relationship with him or her, you can try talking about a one night stand.
- An opening sentence could be something like, “Hey, I really enjoyed talking to you. Do you want to continue this conversation at my house?”
- You can be more direct and ask, "Would you like to have sex with me?"
Step 2. Be honest with your coworkers
Explain what you want from the relationship. If you just want love for one night or if you want something more serious, you should say that up front. Let the person know how you feel and how you view your future relationship.
- An example of taking this approach is to say, “before we do, I want to explain my feelings and expectations.”
- This is also the time when you should discuss privacy issues with the coworker, such as forbidding him to post anything on Facebook about your relationship.
Step 3. Set a time and place to meet
Once you get to know a coworker and are sure that he or she is interested, arrange your meeting somewhere after hours or on the weekends. To ensure privacy and increase your chances of success, meet at a coworker's favorite bar or restaurant.
Method 4 of 4: Overcoming the After Effects
Step 1. Stay professional
Go about your normal routine and keep your attitude around other coworkers.
- While in the office, don't pay too much attention to your "special" co-workers. Don't tease her openly as this can make other coworkers suspicious.
- Don't email or text other coworkers about personal matters. Keep your conversations professional and only work related.
Step 2. Don't flaunt your relationship in public
You should keep the relationship a secret by not sharing it with other coworkers. If you want to share the relationship with other people, make sure that person is a friend who has no connection to the office.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is sharing your relationship on Facebook. Remember, once something has been posted to Facebook, it is very difficult to delete it
Step 3. Manage the situation
If you are caught keeping a secret, be prepared to take the risk. Prepare an escape strategy by thinking about the most appropriate way to manage, avoid, and minimize the risk of the situation you face.
- Increase your working hours in the office.
- Take on new responsibilities and projects.
- Be proactive to show off your achievements.
Step 4. Be honest and professional if your boss finds out about this
If your boss asks about the situation, don't lie. Admit your actions and provide valid solutions. If you only do it once, reassure your boss that it's over. If your relationship has developed into something more serious, don't end the relationship. However, you need to apologize to your boss for keeping it a secret.
Tips
- Understand the rules for having a romantic relationship in the office.
- Trust your co-workers by getting to know them better.
- Be honest with yourself and your co-workers.
- Whatever happens, keep your professionalism at work.
- To avoid some of the consequences listed above, approach people from different departments.
Warning
- Think twice before having a one night stand with a married coworker.
- Be aware of the relationship between superiors and subordinates.
