Do you want to disguise yourself as a woman in the middle of the night wearing your wife's clothes, or do you secretly desire to go all out and sing Cher's song “If I Could Turn Back Time” on stage, or do you want to completely change the appearance of being a woman? fully in your daily activities, you definitely need to transform your masculine figure into a feminine and beautiful diva figure. Once you've successfully changed your appearance, you can begin to develop a new personality, join the local waria community, and maybe even find a job that generates income by performing on stage as a transgender.
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Part 1 of 3: Changing Appearance
Step 1. Decide whether or not to shave, and which parts of your body you want to shave
In dressing up as a drag queen, there is no right or wrong. Some men shaved all the hair all over their bodies, some only shaved the face and chest, and some didn't even shave. The latter group is often referred to as the “bear” waria (“skag”). What is your transvestite personality like?
- If your body is very hairy and you really want to shave, trim it first with safe scissors. After that, then shave your hair (shaving immediately after bathing is the best option).
- You can also do a treatment with a special wax (waxing) to remove hair all over your body. You will experience a new experience when you move with a hairless body while simultaneously experiencing what women have been feeling all this time.
Step 2. Decide, you want to show a big or small figure
You can wear hip pads to add curves, but actually a skinny body look is trendy right now. In the end, this is your own decision. Special corsets to tighten the waist called "waist cincher" are also very useful, especially if your body tends to be a bit thick in the middle. Again, this depends on your personality. Is the figure of the woman you are going to show big and authoritative? Or is it small and shy?
Observe your body shape. How wide is your chest? How narrow are your hips? Are these two parts roughly the same size or are they very different? If you can't answer these questions quickly, you may want to try wearing a variety of dresses, both cushioned and non-padded. Then, you can identify which part you like more
Step 3. Pay attention to the parts of your body that show your manliness
In an attempt to appear as a woman, men are usually underweight at the top and too full at the bottom. Here are some basic hints for looking more feminine:
- Hide the bottom. Always hide the part that is between your thighs. Women's panties are tight and soft, so they can hold your genitals securely. You can also wear “gaff” type of panties, which are very similar to women's panties. Or, special types of underwear that hold certain parts like the Spanx brand or long stockings (pantyhose) are also good choices. If you choose to wear the gaff, lie down while pulling the gaff up to your thighs. Insert both testicles, then continue to pull the gaff up towards the stomach. Insert the penis between the thighs, and keep pulling the gaff until it is neatly in the right position.
- Buy a good quality bra. To determine the right size, measure around your chest a few cm below your nipples. When it comes to bra cup sizes, don't assume that bigger is better, as a B or C cup size will look more natural. You can use any object to seal the inside of the bra cup, but chicken pieces or silicone breast pads will look and feel like real breasts. To create a cleavage line, you can create the illusion by using padding and masking tape. Use a medical tape, then attach it around the chest at the point under the armpit to the midpoint of the chest under the breast.
Step 4. Invest in buying some “bold” makeup tools and apply them to your face
No waria queen goes without makeup, and most beautiful waria faces are created with the help of bold makeup and false eyelashes, which are very striking and can be seen clearly from a distance. Indeed, this is not easy. Some drag queens don't like it and feel they don't have the skills to apply their own makeup every day of the year. Start learning to apply your own makeup right now, because you alone will enjoy the benefits.
- You may be tempted to ask a makeup artist for help. But of course you don't want to depend on other people every time you want to appear. After all, if you can do it yourself, you can change your makeup style as your personality develops later.
- What if you're not sure how to start applying makeup? There are tons of makeup guides for drag queens that you can get online. You can also seek advice from friends and trusted people who do have expertise in this area. They can help you put on your makeup once so you get an idea of what to do, and you can develop your own later.
Step 5. Start creating a dress style according to your transgender personality
Is this drag queen a fun-loving diva? Is she like the cute neighbor girl? Or is he a fierce and cruel figure? Would she like to wear an elegant long dress, or just a miniskirt and top of the bag? With the appropriate makeup, this is the starting point for the drag queen's appearance to increase in value. Start by collecting one or two types of clothing. As you develop your appearance, you can collect even more clothes.
- Wear skirts and dresses to disguise the parts of your body that you need to hide. After all, these types of clothes feel comfortable and look feminine.
- Choose a top with broad shoulders, longer sleeves, and a lower waist line to disguise your chest and stomach that tend to be elongated.
- Wear high heels. Nothing makes your legs look sexier than a pair of high heels. Unfortunately, these shoes are hard to find in large sizes in general stores. Online cross-dressing sites can be very useful in this regard (you can also find a wide variety of transgender clothing on these sites).
Step 6. Buy a good quality wig
Maybe your own hair will not be able to grow long, healthy, thick and wavy in just a few weeks, so the best option is to wear wigs. And when choosing a wig, unlike some other types of items, you have to keep in mind that the price reflects the quality. Is this transvestite figure you will show blonde, brown, black or red hair? Curly or straight hair?
Take good care of your wig. Wigs turn out to be very easy to tangle. When buying wigs (ideally, you buy them in person at the store, so you can try them on before you buy), ask about how to care for them. How can this wig last for a long time? An expert salesperson will give you instructions on how to comb and store your wig
Part 2 of 3: Looking for a Job as a Transgender
Step 1. Prepare the personality traits, traits and behaviors, as well as the name you want to display
Once you have everything you need to appear as a drag queen, you need to create a personality and develop the right style of behavior to match your desired personality. Be careful in choosing a name, make sure it suits you. For example, can you use a name that sounds elegant like “Latrice Royale”, or something that sounds modern like “Detox”? Is this figure a diva, a dancer, or a rebel? How will he interact with other people, whether he is a fan or not? Is he sweet and shy or is he sharp in speech and bossy?
- Once you've determined his personality type, choose songs that are suitable for him to sing and dance to. You can just move your mouth to the lyrics of the song while rocking and dancing on the stage. Memorize the lyrics of this song thoroughly, because you don't want your performance to be stuck when you suddenly forget the lyrics while holding the microphone under the spotlights on stage.
- For the initial stage, just memorize 2-3 songs. You can repeat these 2-3 songs while performing in different places. As you become more recognized, you will need to increase the number of songs in your repertoire.
Step 2. Audition at nearby clubs and events
Look for transgender venues near where you live. After finding it, visit those places. Learn how for you to join. Chat with the people who work there and the owner or “hostess”. The more deeply you engage with these kinds of communities, even if you're not dressing up as a transvestite, the easier it will be for you to gain a place on their stage.
This is not a theater audition. At the audition, put on your best look, wear full makeup, wigs and the best costume you have. Hope that you find a place to regularly appear every week at the shows they host
Step 3. Be prepared to start working for very little, or even no pay
When starting a career, money will not immediately flow. Some places offer you the opportunity to build your show experience for free, others offer you a free drink, and usually the highest possible pay rate for this kind of work is IDR 650,000, 00-1,300,000, 00. So don't quit. your main job first until you become a star who can determine the price of your own appearance.
Charity events are a huge part of the career experience of a drag queen. These events are a great way to start introducing yourself and show your support for the charity's topic. However, charities usually do not provide a fee. After all, here you are not performing for the money, you are appearing because of your moral responsibility as part of the community
Step 4. Spend money as capital for you to earn money
Being a drag queen is not cheap. Apart from being a lifestyle, even this is very expensive even if you only do it occasionally as a hobby. You will spend millions, or maybe even hundreds of millions, of rupiah to buy makeup tools, wigs, clothes, and other things. Don't you have to look beautiful? In this industry, you need to spend money to look beautiful and you have to look beautiful to earn money.
Very few people make her appearance as a drag queen a permanent job. Most do it as a distraction after normal business hours
Step 5. Develop your performance material repertoire as your experience grows
Just like a comedian who can only perform his jokes until the time comes for him to perform new jokes, a waria queen can only sing and dance to the song "Hit Me Baby One More Time" until the time comes for her to perform another song.. When you feel ready for a new challenge, just do it. What other songs would suit your transvestite personality? Will he perform the song according to the meaning in the lyrics or will he present his own hilarious personal interpretation of the song? What will be the uniqueness of the song he performs?
With all these developments, you will need new costumes and new makeup tools. If you're on a tight budget, make modifications to the things and clothes you already have to create a new look, for example by adding certain accessories or different shoes
Part 3 of 3: Sharpen Your Personality
Step 1. Choose what kind of queen personality you want
Many people have the wrong understanding that a drag queen has to be a diva who looks grand and has big breasts and behaves fiercely and speaks sharp words. The reality is not always the case. In fact, if you have a personality that is different from the typical image of a transvestite, this will actually attract you. Below is some inspiration for you:
- Beauty queen types, like “Shangela”, who you wouldn't expect to have been a man before.
- The dancer's “Dena Cass” type. When you see his performance on stage, you will recognize the type of personality he has.
- Type "Detox" the fashionista. Just look at her fashion style, you will recognize her personality clearly.
- Unique type like “Nina West”. There are drag queens who define their own style, and they do it.
Step 2. Let your drag queen look develop
As you develop your character, you'll notice that your transvestite appearance also develops over time. Things you used to do may not seem right anymore, including the way your hair, makeup and clothes look. If things don't feel right anymore, it's because this waria is a part of you and it has grown and developed. This is a completely normal and good feeling. This means that you are sharpening his personality in a better and more perfect direction.
Step 3. Whatever happens, support the other waria queens and the waria community
For many people, being a waria queen is not just a matter of appearance, it's like coming home. You may feel like you have found a comfortable home in your transgender personality and in your association with fellow transgender friends and fans. Even when you're not on stage, your work doesn't stop. They've cheered and cheered on you, now it's your turn to cheer and encourage them. This close friendship is what makes the waria able to survive. Don't feel too competitive, because most waria social circles exude an aura of great love and acceptance.
The people who want to be a drag queen and be a part of this environment are people who also want to make you a member of the family, not find fault with you. Many people, though not all, go through periods of inner transition and conflict, and it is this environment that makes them feel good. Be a part of them, and experience falling deeper in love with the world of transvestites
Step 4. Ignore the suffering
Frankly, being a drag queen is not an easy task. If you are also a homosexual, life will be even harder. But if you are heterosexual, you may also have to face questions about your personal life forever. There will always be people who never understand you and think that you want to be a woman and judge you. Don't give them a place in your life. Get rid of all that, because you are a charming person.
Make positive thoughts your sword and shield. The community you belong to will help you develop a positive mindset. If you're constantly surrounded by people who help you feel positive and do your best, it's hard not to think positive. When suffering comes, you just need to unite and support each other, so that each person will become stronger
Step 5. Know that having a shining life is the only right choice
Whoever you are, no matter how you look, whatever your skills, career or home life, you are always welcome in the transgender community. The only condition is that you have to allow yourself to shine as brightly as you can. Are you ready to take this life leap?
