Texting or texting is a great way of communicating that you can use to seduce a guy. Flirting with text messages can be done with someone you just met, someone you're currently dating, or with your old partner to add more excitement to your relationship. You can also exchange text messages to keep in touch, cultivate interest, and build a connection with a guy before taking any further action. There's no pressure for you to reply directly in a text message, so you have extra time and can share your feelings and thoughts more easily.
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Method 1 of 3: Basic Principles of Texting
Step 1. Make sure your message is short
Short messages have limitations due to the narrow screen size of the phone. Usually you can only send so many characters in a single message, and outside of that reading a long message on the phone screen is quite a hassle. Therefore, make sure every word you send counts by keeping it short and to the point. Avoid sending messages that have nothing to do with you or the person you are messaging.
Use abbreviations whenever possible. For example "SBB" ("sorry just replied"), "dr" (from), "for" (for), and so on
Step 2. Give your short message a personal touch
Short messages can feel impersonal because there is no touch, visual form, or tone of voice between people that occurs when face to face. Use a special name or nickname that the other person has to let him know that the message you are sending is really for him. Discuss the last thing you did when you two spent time together and use jokes that only the two of you know. This can make your text message feel more intimate.
- Do not send "jarkom" or text messages in bulk. This is a very impersonal way of communicating and shows that you are not trying to send a short message that has been tailored specifically to the recipient.
- Use terms like "we" and "me and you" in your text messages to imply that the two of you are one. For example, "The results of our cooperation are indeed good!"
Step 3. Don't bore the other person
Text messaging isn't fun anymore when you're no longer trying to make your message interesting. You have to make your message stand out from the messages from other girls. Say something that makes him want to retaliate, for example "We have to rematch for the game earlier!"
- Make him curious and use an implied "code," and make sure the message you send involves both you and him. You want this guy to feel curious enough that he will ask for more information. Say things like, "The sky is beautiful here, can you see," or "Oh, I'm hungry. Where do you eat in this area?", to lead him to ask what you are doing or where.
- Don't wait for him to greet you first. Gather your courage and start the conversation yourself. He may be just as nervous as you and he may react positively when you take the initiative. If you want to show your courage, greet the other person with something like "Hey handsome!".
Step 4. Ask
In general, people like to talk about themselves. Once you've started, keep the conversation going by asking your interlocutor's interests, things he's been through, and his goals. Good speakers know that the key to a pleasant conversation is keeping the other person interested.
- These questions can take many forms, such as "How was your day?" or "Do you still want to watch a movie?"
- Ask things related to the topic of your conversation at that time. For example, if you start a conversation by asking him about his English homework, try asking him about other homework he is doing or his favorite subject.
- Use open-ended questions. Questions that can only be answered with a yes or no usually won't elicit a long response and don't give the other person a chance to show their personality. Instead of asking "Did you like today's class?", try asking his opinion something like "What do you think about today's class?" or "Who is your History Teacher?"
Step 5. Find something in common between you and the other person and talk about it
This is where a Facebook profile can come in handy for you. You can find some interests that are similar to him and then try to bring up one of those similarities. Movies, television shows, music, and sports are all great choices because people tend to be very enthusiastic about their entertainment choices. Try using a quote from his favorite actor or athlete, he might recognize it right away.
- For example, if you both like the same band, ask him what he thinks about the band's latest album or the other person's favorite song.
- If you disagree about something, don't worry. Joking about which television show is better can be an intimate and enjoyable topic for both of you. You can also get a special joke between the two of you from this.
Step 6. Be humorous
People tend to like things that make them laugh. A sense of humor can make your short messages more entertaining, allowing you and the person you're talking to to continue to be interested in texting. Try sharing a joke or being smart about choosing a topic. He will appreciate your efforts.
- Making fun of her can be intimate without getting too serious, and it will also provide an opportunity for both of you to laugh together and reinforce positive feelings about your relationship. Try to find something you can joke about without hurting the other person's feelings. For example, tease him when he mistypes something while texting.
- If he makes fun of you, go along with it but don't be afraid to joke that he hurt your feelings either. For example, "How dare you tease my cooking! There's no excuse unless you treat me to a meal!".
Step 7. Be sensitive to the implied "code"
The way he responds to your messages can show how he feels about you. If he replies to your messages relatively quickly (within a few minutes) and the content of the message is quite long (at least a sentence or two), it means that the other person is deep in your conversation. If he only sends short one word messages or responds casually with a long pause, it means he's not interested.
- Make sure the short message between the two of you is worth it. As with other forms of communication, exchanging short messages should not be a one-way street. You and your interlocutor must actively reciprocate. Sending too many text messages can give the impression that you are pathetic for trying too hard. However, letting the other person be the one who is always trying hard to send a message can give the impression that you are not interested.
- Don't send things like "Is my message in yet?"
Step 8. Consider your timing
Send a message when the other person can spend time with you. If he's at school or playing sports, the other person isn't able to spend as much time replying to your messages as you'd like. Send messages at leisure times such as early in the morning and late in the evening.
- Sometimes sending a sweet, supportive message can be very appreciated by the other person, especially if he or she is under pressure. It can be a good thing to send messages once in a while during business hours.
- Texting at night can feel more intimate and open up opportunities to seduce the person you're talking to.
Step 9. Check your text message before sending it
You should double-check your spelling and grammar to make sure your message isn't confusing. Many mobile phones already have an auto-correction function that will give you a choice of words that are often used when typing. If you do not check your message, it is not impossible that the message will be interpreted differently from its original meaning.
Use punctuation to add impact to your short message. For example, (…) can give the impression that you don't want to say something or are at a loss for words. This punctuation mark can give the impression of being more seductive and pointing than a regular point. Use exclamation points and question marks sparingly so as not to distract him from your message
Method 2 of 3: Seducing Via Text
Step 1. Don't say (or do) things you wouldn't do face-to-face in your text message
Texting shouldn't replace flirting in a face-to-face meeting or make you make promises you can't keep. While it's okay to write down something you'd be embarrassed to say directly, make sure that it's what you really wanted to say. Remember that maintaining eye contact, giving a charming smile, and other body cues are the best ways to show how you feel to the person you're talking to. Don't let texting be more important than meeting the person you're talking to in person.
Step 2. Be flirty
Build anticipation for the person you're talking to by making comments that can be interpreted sexually without being too explicit. This keeps the conversation interesting and leads you to the hotter topics of your conversation. You can also purposely misinterpret the message so that it refers to something "naughty".
- Saying something like "I'm in the mood for something black and sweet, let's go… buy a sticky rice martabak." is a cute and cunning way of flirting.
- Another example is as follows: "Oops, I just finished taking a shower, I don't have towels. I wish you were here".
- You can also say "Can't wait to be alone with you" or "Let's play;)".
Step 3. Praise the other person
People generally like to be complimented and the person you're talking to will also understand that you're trying to get close to them. Try simple things first like "You have a great taste in music!" or if he just said something funny, try "Hahaha! You're really funny." A little bit of his ego boost can go a long way in getting him to seduce you back.
- Praise sincerely. There's no point in giving compliments that you don't really feel. If you really like the person you're talking to, there's bound to be a lot of things you like about him or her. Tell him.
- To make it look more seductive, you can say things like "I can still imagine you wearing that shirt" or "Wanna rub your back okay."
Step 4. Make an appointment to meet later
When texting is flowing smoothly (you're both really active and nimble in texting), try to bring up your desire to make an appointment to do something together. If he knows that you are interested in spending time with him, you will be on his mind. What's more, if he says yes, your goal of meeting him in person will be fulfilled.
- You don't have to explicitly say you asked her out. Try telling her that there's a concert coming up soon or that there's a coffee shop she should try.
- Even a simple message like "Let's drink coffee together" can convey what you mean, namely that you want to spend time with him.
Step 5. Send a quote
Sometimes you can't find the right words yourself. In this case, a song, poem, or quote that has a deep meaning can help you show how you feel. Even better if the quote is also a seduction. Even a quote in English like "Thou art to me a delicious torment" by Ralph Waldo Emerson can serve as an example.
Step 6. Get into the physical stuff
Talk about the physical sensations you have or would like to experience with him through the five senses. Make sure the message remains appropriate for the status of your relationship at that time. You can mention that you like the smell of her body, her sweaty skin, or how hard her muscles are after a workout. You can also try making "naughty" comments if you're already close enough and want him to know what you want.
Step 7. Make him want more
The main purpose of exchanging text messages is to direct him to want to meet face to face. You don't want the conversation to drag on until it becomes boring and awkward. End the conversation with something cute or tempting, "Come on, handsome. See you tomorrow" or "Thanks for entertaining. Can't wait to see you."
Method 3 of 3: Using Visual Elements
Step 1. Use emoticons
Emoticons are a unique way of communicating with short messages. Emoticons provide an opportunity for you to express certain feelings or impressions that writing cannot. Emoticons are a fun way that you can use to help you seduce her or convey a certain message. However, don't use too many emoticons as this can detract from the fun.
- Smiling emoticons may seem boring, but they can seduce you while still sounding innocent and mysterious. A smiling face never seems too frontal and easily shows that something is under way. For example, "Can't wait to see you again:)".
- Blinking emoticons give the impression that you want to share a secret and can be mean or even mean "naughty" flirting. For example, "I really want sausage;)".
- The blushing emoticon can be a way of showing a cat's shyness. For example, if he comments that you look beautiful after you send him a photo, you can use emoticons:).
- The kissing emoticon can be used if you really like what the other person has said or imply you'll be doing this a lot in the future:*
- Lip-licking emoticons can give a strong seduction, especially in certain contexts. For example, when your interlocutor says he just showered, did some exercise, or took off his clothes:-9
Step 2. Use image emoticons
Many cell phones and chat applications provide a large selection of image emoticons, such as images of angel or demon faces, faces with heart-shaped eyes, and others. You can use this in your short messages to give a sense of comfort and convey more information. It's possible that the person you're talking to is seduced by a pretending to be innocent message with a satanic face emoticon following it.
Step 3. Submit a suggestive image
There are plenty of still artful photos of women in sexy clothes or naked that you can post to grab her attention. Don't post anything too lewd because he may expect you to post your own photo in a similar style. Keep the images you submit direct without being vulgar. Measure the extent to which your interlocutor likes this. If he responds in a similar way, move on! However, if he doesn't seem to be enjoying it, lower the intensity of your chat and start over.
Step 4. Submit a sexy photo of yourself
Send something suggestive or slightly erotic to let him know that you want to take your intimacy to the next level. Remember, you don't have to send nude photos to seduce the person you're talking to. A photo of you wearing a classy but sexy outfit next to a nice car can give him the seductive look he likes.
- If you want to send a more "naughty" image, consider sending a photo of your lips, a photo of your hips with your panties sticking out, your bra straps sticking out, or your cleavage. This can make the other person more waiting for your message.
- One good idea is to take a picture of two pairs of panties and send this to him. Ask his opinion which one is better.
- Keep in mind that sending someone a nude photo of you can damage your reputation when it goes viral. Don't take that risk.
Tips
- Be careful not to come across as too frontal, unless that's your style. A guy can lose interest quickly if a girl flirts too early. You don't want to be the creepy girl he and his friends make jokes about.
- Don't complain too much or just talk about your problems. This gives a negative impression and can make the other person lose interest.
- Be respectful if a guy isn't interested in you. Stop if you see the other person is not interested. Your efforts will be wasted or even annoying for him.
- While it's fun to seduce someone by exchanging messages, don't rely on this alone. If you and the person you're talking to have made it clear your attraction to each other, ask him out. Don't let your approach stop at one point.
