According to most men, they are easy and also happy to be seduced by women. Men say they like it when a woman is brave enough to take the first step. Men are generally attracted to women who know how to dress nicely, classy, and a little bit sexy. For example, men like dresses, simple jewelry, high heels, and smells good. In this article, you can learn how to approach a guy and say hello, and find ways to enter into a fun chat that will hopefully lead to a phone number exchange. If he's not interested, remember that the experience will make you more proficient at seducing a guy next time.
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Method 1 of 3: Look Beautiful
Step 1. Wear clothes that are classy, but fun
Men like women who look well matched, but not so perfect that they seem unapproachable. Men don't like a lot of jewelry, but if you wear some pretty earrings with a cute simple dress and flat shoes, or fitted jeans and a simple black blouse with high heels, men will be attracted to your style. Add a smile, your appearance will be perfect.
- Consider wearing a necklace that will accentuate your collarbones. Men love it when women flirt by touching their own neck, and wearing a simple necklace is an easy way to draw a man's attention to your collarbones and neck.
- Make sure your clothes are clean and tidy. If you have already chosen the clothes to wear the day before, you will have time to wash them if necessary.
- Among all the pieces of clothing that you wear, choose one that is a bit sexy. Men like women who know how to look a little sexy but not too much, for example, wearing tight jeans with a loose top.
Step 2. Wash your face and apply moisturizer every day
Natural beauty will be hidden if the skin is problematic, and self-confidence will decrease. So, clean your face every morning and night with a facial soap with acne medication if necessary. Follow up with a light facial moisturizer. Healthy skin will appear softer and shiny.
Use an exfoliating soap once a week to remove dead skin cells and make facial skin brighter and more beautiful
Step 3. Apply mascara, lip gloss, concealer, and powder
Men love light and natural makeup. Makeup should highlight facial features so don't overdo it. You can widen and brighten your eyes by applying a layer of your favorite black or brown-dark mascara to your upper lashes. Use a tinted lip gloss that tints and moisturizes your lips before going out and again before you talk to your crush. If you have blemishes, eye bags, or other skin imperfections, cover them with a solid or liquid concealer that's a shade lighter than your skin tone. Gently blend with fingertips. Then, finish with a translucent powder, especially if you have oily skin.
You can apply a small amount of colored lip gloss to your cheeks to make them blush a bit and sparkle
Step 4. Make sure your body smells good
Men often express their preference for women who smell good. Fragrant body aroma begins with bathing every day. You don't need to wash your hair every time you shower. Cover your hair with a shower cap and wash only yourself. Use scented bath soap, and use a sponge that creates a good lather.
- Put on a scented deodorant every morning before leaving the house. Then, put it on again in the middle of the day, after you've done a sweaty activity, and/or before going out at night.
- Find your signature fragrance. You can use bath soap or perfume. Use in the morning and again before going out at night. Spray your fragrance once on the wrist, once on the neck or collarbone area, then spread the perfume with the wrist around the neck or chest, then spray once on the hair. You may need to carry a small perfume bottle in your bag or car so you can re-spray if you don't have time to get home and freshen up.
Method 2 of 3: Getting Closer
Step 1. Get the attention of the guy you have a crush on
Position yourself around him, and make yourself approachable. If you can lure him closer, even better. Find a chair that is easy for him to see or a place to stand or sit that is some distance away but still within his line of sight. That way, if he sees you, you can tell. Play with your hair, glance at him, or talk to someone nearby to get him to pay attention.
Don't play with your hair or eye contact too much, as you'll clearly be looking for attention
Step 2. Make him catch your eye when he looks at him
Then, find something that keeps you a little busy. You can open your phone, browse menus, or have a casual chat with people near you, but don't be impressed that you're so busy you're unapproachable. After that, look at him again when he looks at you too. Hold eye contact for a second or two longer than usual, blink slowly, then smile a little and look away. This can encourage him to come over and say hello to you.
Step 3. Take the first step
If he doesn't approach you, that's okay. Don't be afraid to take chances because men like women who are willing to take the first step. You should walk up to him, initiate eye contact, and say "Hello" in a friendly manner. Then, ask something or give a compliment. Don't be afraid to smile because he may be nervous too. Then, introduce yourself.
- You can ask something simple and let the chat continue from there. For example, “What drink would you recommend here?”
- Try complimenting her hair, facial features (like eyes), or her style. For example, “Nice watch, I like your style.” Give compliments casually and lightly, but show that you're interested.
Step 4. Believe in your own seduction theory
Some men like women who are more subtle and distant, while others like the opposite. You have to be yourself, and you also have the advantage of being more appropriate to use with your own theory. If you feel a certain urge to take to initiate a flirt, follow your intuition. Every environment is different and you have to be good at assessing the situation. If you've done this a few times, think about what worked and what didn't, and move on to proven techniques.
Method 3 of 3: Chatting
Step 1. Start the chat as if you already knew him
Don't act like a stranger, instead, you should have a friendly, warm, and comfortable conversation. Just think of him as your friend and have a casual chat. Men like women who seem relaxed and fun because they can relax them. Speak at the normal speed and voice you would normally use with your own friends. When chatting with friends, listen to your voice and be aware of what gestures you use when chatting naturally. Try to do the same with the guy you're flirting with.
- Don't be too mesmerized by everything he has to say, and keep your cool. Men like women who have a life of their own. If you can chat while still being who you are, that confidence will entice him even more. Try not to look at him with wide eyes while chatting. This will make you seem desperate or amazed.
- Since you're new to her, there's no need to tell her everything about yourself at this first opportunity. You need to concentrate on the fluency of the conversation, not the accuracy of the information you say. You need to tell interesting and cool things about yourself, but the main point of this chat is to make things between the two of you lively and interesting.
Step 2. Show your cheerfulness and sense of humor
Look for something around you that can be funny to comment on. For example, if you've been waiting for a drink for a long time, you can make a silly comment, like "So, do I have to help make a drink here?" A simple comment like this will keep the conversation light, and is great for flirting with a guy. Men find a woman's cheerful attitude very attractive, and can bond you with her.
- A cheerful demeanor ensures a non-stressful chat for men.
- Even if you don't think you're a funny person, you can still try to exaggerate things in the conversation.
- Try practicing cuteness with friends, and making funny comments about the environment or what's happening to you.
Step 3. Seduce a guy with body language
Men find a woman who touches her neck and hair while talking is attractive. You can tilt your head to one side and look at him with a smile to show that you are interested. Women can also seduce by laughing while positioning the body in such a way that the best parts of the body will be exposed. Another way is to look at her with a slight lower eyelid and smile, like the classic Marilyn Monroe portrait. Expressions like this are very seductive to men. As the night progresses, make longer eye contact, position yourself closer together, and allow your hands to touch each other when walking side by side.
If you want to open the boundaries of touch, you can lightly touch his arm while talking
Step 4. Show an open attitude and genuine interest in him
Listen actively when he talks. You should make eye contact, smile, and nod when he talks. Then, ask something relevant to what he has to say, and repeat the important parts in your own words to show that you are interested in what he has to say. Everyone likes it when their words and thoughts are heard and cared for. At the same time, it's also important to make it clear that your intentions are just flirting, and make sure he knows that you only want a short relationship before the conversation gets too deep.
- Reserve your attention for something else. Don't get completely absorbed in this one man. Also pay attention to your friends and other people you've chatted with before.
- Judge what kind of man he is. When you hear him talk, you can judge the vibrations he's sending out. Is he the kind of person who seems happy to lead the conversation or enjoys listening? Based on this assessment, you can either get him to talk more or you can do the talking.
Step 5. Make sure you are appropriate, not reckless
If you find that you really like him, don't drink too much or get too excited about the conversation. You may regret some of the things you said or did if you didn't brake. For example, if you laugh too much or drink too fast, back off to the toilet. Try to calm yourself by washing your face, talking to yourself, or texting a friend.
Maybe you need to set boundaries so you don't regret anything later. So make a plan for how long you want to chat and how much you can drink, then stick to it
Step 6. End the chat and ask for the phone number
Once the connection between you and him is established through attentive listening, joking, and chatting like friends, leave before the chat gets stale. Say positive things about the chat, and ask for the number. End with something like, “Nice chat, can I have your number? Who knows we can chat again later.”
- Send a quick message a few days later and see where it leads.
- If he doesn't want to talk anymore, don't worry. You've had the experience of approaching a guy first and having a chat with him, and that will improve your conversational and flirting skills so that next time you'll be better at chatting with the guy you like.
Tips
Don't take it to heart if he doesn't want to continue contact. Maybe he already has a partner or is in love with another woman
Warning
- Don't ignore warning signals or "bad vibes". Follow your instincts and stay away from guys who are starting to get aggressive or make you feel uncomfortable.
- Going out with a few female friends will reduce your chances of seducing a guy.
