If you're reading this article, chances are that you've already begun to harbor a romantic interest in the opposite sex, and may want to have a special relationship with them. Liking someone is a million feelings! On the one hand you feel happy, but on the other hand, that feeling of happiness makes you frustrated. What do you really need to do to deal with your feelings? Do you need to confess your feelings to him? Read this article to find the answer! Remember, women tend to mature more quickly than men; therefore, make sure you are able to show your maturity. With patience, a positive mindset and behavior, and a little luck, getting a girlfriend at a young age is no longer as difficult as moving mountains!
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Part 1 of 2: Getting a Girlfriend
Step 1. Think about why you want to have a boyfriend
As a child or teenager, make sure you want to date for the right reasons. In other words, don't do it just to look cool in front of your friends! Trust me, those goals are not fair to you, not even to him. If a girl catches your eye, make sure you want to date her because you really like her character. After all, that's the most important thing, right?
Step 2. Show your maturity
In general, women are considered to mature faster than men; This cycle will usually continue until they reach the end of their teenage years. That way, of course you won't be able to attract any girl's attention if you're constantly being childish or joking around out of place. Act more mature than your age; Prove to the people you like that you deserve to be taken seriously.
- Of course you can still joke with your friends; however, at least emphasize that you are capable of being mature in the right situations. In other words, take your education seriously and always get maximum marks in all fields.
- If you're having a hard time acting mature, try picking some male role models in your life and emulating their behavior. For example, you can use your father, uncle, teacher, or other adult men as role models, as long as they are capable of being mature and responsible.
Step 3. Introduce yourself
If you haven't met him in person, don't bother giving him a detailed introduction! After feeling your maturity is enough, try to assert your existence in his eyes. Generally, a simple and casual self-introduction process is the best option for you to do. Follow some examples below:
- Say "Hello!" casually when I met him. Such a simple greeting will usually produce the best results. Most women will even feel flattered just because they feel cared for by you.
- Ask questions that can break the mood. Generally, questions that are casual in nature give the best results. For example, you could ask for the time or try to borrow a pencil during class.
- Follow your brief introduction with light praise; doing so can show your interest in an instant! Don't you dare do it? Don't worry, almost all women are weak to compliments so won't give a negative response!
Step 4. Look for opportunities to spend time with him
After successfully communicating verbally with him, try to find ways to get to know him more deeply. This stage is very easy to do if you and he go to the same school! If you are taking the same class, try sitting next to him so you have a chance to be teammates. Also try to sit nearby at lunch so you can get acquainted in a more casual way.
Step 5. Ask personal questions
While you're in the process of getting to know them better, make sure you ask lots of questions about the person you like (whether it's about their opinions, life goals, etc.). Do this to understand it better! Instead, also tell him personal things about you so he can realize your uniqueness and greatness as an individual.
- Be patient. Don't do this just to get a girlfriend! At this stage, focus on getting to know him instead of attracting his attention. Enjoy the time you spend with him! Trust me, sooner or later he will realize your interest and purpose in approaching him.
- At this stage, you may even realize that you no longer like him. If that's the case, don't force yourself to constantly approach him. Trust me, some girls are better friends than boyfriends.
Step 6. Familiarize yourself with his friends
Generally, teenage girls will really care about their friends' comments! If you want to win her heart, first approach her friends. If you've been less familiar with his friends, try to find ways to spend time with them. After getting to know them, try taking them for a walk together to the mall or just sitting together during lunch time at school.
Even if you want to bond with his friends, make sure you don't focus all your attention on them. Be careful, he can get jealous and misunderstand your intentions
Step 7. Ask him out when the time is right
Remember, this is an important moment for you! Often times, rejection occurs when a person is too hasty to express his feelings to the woman he likes; therefore, make sure he likes you too before you confess your feelings to him. In other words, don't do it if you're not sure about his feelings for you!
- Be prepared to accept whatever the reaction is. Even if he likes you too, chances are he's still afraid or awkward about being in a romantic relationship with anyone. Don't be discouraged if that's the case! Stay friends with him and don't walk away from him. Over time, he will surely realize your sincerity and feel more comfortable around you. As a result, it is possible that one day he will accept your feelings!
- Of course, there's a chance he might reject you because he doesn't have any interest in you. If that's the case, don't be too sad! His refusal is not necessarily due to “who you are”; maybe, he just wasn't ready to be in a relationship with anyone. If he rejects you, try moving on without him; Also, think about your best qualities and try to find a woman who can recognize these qualities.
Part 2 of 2: Successful Relationships
Step 1. Respect your boyfriend and treat him well
Prove that your attitude and behavior to him has been sincere and not made up! Also show that you are a person who is able to be mature and respect women. Even if you know that he likes you too, that doesn't mean you can treat him in a reckless way or that you no longer care about him. Instead, stick with it and be patient; don't force him to do something he doesn't want to do and live your relationship without rushing. Believe me, your maturity is effective in strengthening his feelings for you gradually.
Step 2. Continue to show interest in whatever he has to say
After your status changes to dating, the intensity of the conversation between you and him will be deeper and more intimate. Show interest in the things he tells; If you already believe it, don't hesitate to share your secrets. Remember, emotional support from both parties is one of the important foundations in a quality relationship. Therefore, don't just want to look cool in front of him! Treat him well and meet his emotional needs.
Step 3. Respect his family
When introduced to his family, make sure you treat them well too. Chances are, his family will seem wary or perhaps judgmental the first time they meet you; prove that their worries are unfounded! Look them in the eye, smile as sincerely as you can, and confirm that your boyfriend isn't in a relationship with the wrong person.
Don't hesitate to introduce it to your family! Even if it's just inviting him to dinner at your house, at least you need to show him another side of your life
Tips
- Wear neat and clean clothes, eat healthy food, and take good care of your body! Trust me, the right girl will come naturally if you do.
- As a child or teenager, you really don't need to mourn your fate if you don't have a boyfriend. After all, most of your friends your age haven't dated either; some of them are not even interested in dating because they are very young.
- Don't look desperate! Don't be too obsessed with him and have fun in your own world. Trust me, they are the foundation for building a strong relationship.
- Get to know him better before dating him. After getting to know him more deeply, who knows, you will realize that his personality does not match your expectations.
