Are you one of the many teenagers who have never dated? On the one hand you want to break your single chain; but on the other hand, you feel too nervous to do it. Do not worry; in fact, your lack of experience can easily be overshadowed by your charisma, intelligence, and ability to make a woman feel special. Once you've found the right woman, work on showing you care, capturing her attention, and starting a fun and meaningful relationship with her.
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Part 1 of 3: Attracting Women's Attention
Step 1. Don't worry if you've never been in a relationship before
In other words, there's no need to feel overly nervous or self-conscious. You may feel inferior because everyone seems more experienced than you; but the fact is, everyone will always feel less experience. So don't let your lack of experience keep you from approaching the girl you like!
- If you feel very low on yourself, try asking people with more experience for advice; surely, you will realize that verily, there is nothing to be afraid of.
- Remember, even men who have been in a relationship many times can feel confused; After all, romantic relationships are something that is constantly evolving and evolving, so all you need is patience and a willingness to learn.
- There's no need to lie about your romantic relationship history; However, that doesn't mean you have to announce it to all corners of the world. Trust me, doing so will only make you feel inferior.
Step 2. Find the right girl
If you've never been in a relationship before, it's natural that you feel in a hurry to get your dream boyfriend. But in fact, it would be much better if you are willing to wait for the right woman instead of rushing into a relationship with a woman you don't like. Try to find a girl who seems to you and is attractive enough that you want to get to know her better. Even if you don't know him very well, as long as you feel positive and happy around him, chances are that he really deserves your approach.
- Instead, approach a woman who you think can have a meaningful relationship with you. In other words, there is no need to be too picky and be willing to accept a woman who you think can make a good life partner.
- Don't focus too much on appearance. Of course, every guy wants to have a beautiful girlfriend, but that doesn't mean the girl you like has to be a supermodel, right? Try to be more realistic and open-minded towards women who wear glasses, are slightly chubby, have acne, are very short or very tall, are a bit of a tomboy, have tattoos, have piercings, dyed their hair, etc. In fact, such appearances are more natural and are not shaped by media such as TV or magazines. Expand your horizons regarding women; show that you are not a conservative figure so that it is attractive to be approached by women.
- Try to find common interests. If you like sports, try joining a sports club at your school or taking part in a local sporting event. If you like music, try going to a concert or joining the school orchestra club. If you enjoy reading books, spend some time at the nearest library or bookstore. Remember, the internet is the perfect place to find people with the same interests as you.
Step 3. Stand out
This doesn't mean you have to scream on the basketball court or play guitar in front of the class; instead, show that you take pride in the things that set you apart from others. For example, highlight your football skills or your love for science fiction. Do the things you love and let him see; trust me, he will be impressed with your strengths and passion while doing it.
Don't be afraid to be silly! Remember, you don't have to pretend to be cold and manly just to get girls' attention
Step 4. Try talking to him
Do not be shy! Try saying hello, introducing yourself, and starting a nice conversation with him. There's no need to rush into asking a million questions; just bring up simple topics like schoolwork, your plans for the weekend, a movie you just watched, or your favorite band. Remember, make sure you always look him in the eye when speaking and show that you pay attention to his words.
- Instead of bringing up a serious topic, try asking how he's doing, smile to make him laugh, and release any tension between you two.
- Invite him to chat when you only have a few minutes to meet, for example during class changes. Doing so can reduce your nervousness because you know that the conversation won't last too long.
Step 5. Make him want you
If you want to grab his attention, try to build a fun topic of conversation and leave just before the conversation reaches its climax. That way, he will be encouraged to talk to you again because your conversation feels unfinished. If your conversation goes on for too long (even to the point that one or both parties feel like they're running out of topic), chances are he won't have much to say the next time either.
- Not that you should just walk away; simply say that your conversation was enjoyable and that you would like to continue it again sometime.
- There's no need to explain why you have to leave; there's nothing wrong you know, looks a little mysterious in the eyes of women.
Step 6. Give him a sincere compliment
When you first talk to a girl you like, give a simple, sincere compliment just to show that you care about her. If she just got a haircut or put on a new skirt, tell her that you like her. If she's wearing quirky jewelry that looks like she's made it herself, try complimenting her and asking where she bought it. If the notebook is decorated with interesting pictures, try praising his talents and building a conversation around the topic.
Never mention her body shape if you don't want to embarrass her and misunderstand her. Instead, try complimenting the outfit he's wearing by saying, "Hey, your sweater looks great!"
Step 7. Amaze him with your confidence
If you want to grab his attention, show that you are confident and happy with yourself. For those of you who lack experience with women, doing so may not be as easy as turning your palm. But don't worry, over time you will be able to do it! Don't let a lack of experience undermine your confidence; rest assured that you are intelligent, fun, and able to offer a lot to women.
- Straighten your body, look him in the eye, and tell him the interesting things in your life; show that you are a man who is confident and deserves to be recognized more deeply. If you have trouble doing it, there's nothing wrong with faking your confidence until you get used to it and let it out naturally.
- Everyone needs a different process to build their confidence; To begin with, try to understand your flaws and learn to accept the things you can't change.
- Another way to build confidence is to spend time with positive people. If your current friends are always looking down on you, try to find a more supportive circle of friends.
Part 2 of 3: Capturing His Interests
Step 1. Ask questions about his life
One way to trap a girl's attraction is to show her how much you want to get to know her better. Don't make her think that you're approaching her just because you want a boyfriend or are attracted to her beauty. For that, spend more time finding out what's going on in his life, his thoughts, and his interests. Some things you can ask are:
- Hobby
- The pet
- His favorite band, movie, TV show or actor
- Her friends
- Favorite place
- Vacation plans
Step 2. Show you care
To trap a girl's attraction, try to show your concern in a way that doesn't overdo it; for example, pay more attention to him when there are other women around you and spend more time with him. Smile at him and always look him in the eye when you pass so he knows that his presence stands out in your eyes. To trap his attraction, also show that he also needs to make an effort to make himself stand out in your eyes.
- If he's in a bad mood, approach him and ask him what's wrong. Show that you are willing to be around him in any situation.
- In any situation, try to tease him once in a while. Show that you're fun by pushing his arm or shoulder, and teasing him with non-offensive lines. Make him laugh and show you care without being too aggressive.
Step 3. Don't be overly aggressive or overly aggressive
In other words, show your feelings without making them feel sick, uncomfortable, or even frightened. Don't be around him, call him, or even stalk him; Believe me, sooner or later he will definitely stay away from you. Just make sure your presence continues to make him curious, wondering, and wanting to get to know you better.
- When you are traveling in a group, try to give them more attention. However, that doesn't mean you should only focus on him; once in a while, talk to other women to show that you are open and not obsessed with her.
- If you have the phone number, don't always be the first to call or text. Every now and then, throw the ball of conversation at him.
Step 4. Do something positive for her
If you want to capture his interest, show your effort in a positive way. For example, offer to help with his schoolwork, fix his bike, or take notes for schoolwork when he's not in school. Try to make her smile and make her life easier; Make him realize that you really care about him.
- You can even help bring her books to class. But remember, make sure he agrees for you to help, okay!
- Help him as long as you don't feel he is being used. Remember, your goal is to show that you are a potential boyfriend – not a errand boy –.
Step 5. Show that his opinion is important to you
Don't treat women as objects! In other words, treat him as a fellow human who also has thoughts, feelings, and reason. The method? Try asking his opinion about things you watch on television, discussions taking place in class, or books you've just read. Show that you value and want to understand his thinking; I'm sure he'll be more impressed with you.
- If you need advice on a problem (no matter how simple it is), try asking him for advice; Show that you value their opinion, even if your problem isn't that complicated.
- Make sure you don't go on and on about one topic without asking his opinion on that topic.
Step 6. Look for similarities between you
Another way to build relationships with women is to look for common ground to enrich conversation topics. Once you get to know her more deeply, you'll definitely find out what things you both like; For example, you both love to cook or listen to rap music. One or two similarities are enough to form the basis of a meaningful relationship. If you find that you don't have anything in common, don't worry; basically, the same attraction can be built over time.
- Do not rush to find common ground between you. With time, you will surely find it naturally.
- Even if you don't share the same interests, you may have similar characters, traits, or even backgrounds.
Part 3 of 3: Asking Her On A Date
Step 1. Spend more time with her
As your feelings grow, it's only natural that you want to spend more time with them. Even though you might not be able to spend every second with him, at least find a way to meet and chat with him more often; for example, take him to class, sit next to him at lunch, or take him to the mall after school. Spending more time with him can help you get to know each other better; In addition, you will also realize whether she is indeed the woman you are looking for.
- There is no specific amount of time you need to spend together before dating. If you want to ask her out a week after you met, feel free to do so; most importantly, make sure you know each other well before entering this stage.
- Don't be friends with him for too long. Be careful, you can potentially get stuck in the friend zone and have a hard time finding a way out afterwards.
Step 2. Find the right time and location
Are you ready to ask him to be your girlfriend? If so, try to plan as best you can to increase your chances of being accepted by him. For example, make sure you express your feelings when he's in a good mood and when he's not in a hurry. Ask if he has time to chat with you for a bit; After that, make sure you make the most of the time you have to share your feelings.
- If you've never chatted with a girl alone, try to talk to her in a private but comfortable place and not too far from the crowd.
- Before asking her out, check her mood. Make sure he's happy, focused, and not stressed.
Step 3. Ask him to be your girlfriend
Do not be nervous! After saying hello and having a chat for a while, tell him how you feel as honestly and candidly as possible. For example, you could say, “I really like spending time with you and would like to get to know you better. Will you be my lover? The sooner you confess, the sooner you will feel relieved.
- Lean closer and look him in the eye as you speak. Trust me, your confidence will impress him
- You can compliment him a little before confessing your feelings; however, make sure you don't overdo it to keep him comfortable.
Step 4. Give the right reaction
If he accepts your declaration of love, congratulations! This means that you can show your happiness by hugging him or doing something similar. However, if he rejects your love, make sure you are not rude or aggressive. Instead, try to be polite and respect his decision; in other words, make sure your relationship remains fine after that. Undoubtedly, you managed to build a good impression in his eyes; Besides that, you will certainly be proud of yourself for being able to act mature, right?
- If he is willing to be your girlfriend, don't hesitate to show your happiness! In other words, there's no need to hold back your reaction and be over-the-top.
- If he rejects you, don't insult him or be rude to him. Continue to treat him well and politely; you don't have the power to control his feelings anyway.
Step 5. Work on building meaningful relationships
If you and he agree to date, make sure you really make an effort to get to know him better and slowly open up to him more. Keep the relationship interesting by asking him to do new things like cooking or taking a diving class together; at the same time, keep asking him to do the routines that you often do together. Keep trying to show how much it means to your life.
- Always respect him. Make sure you always insert romance that is not excessive, compliment her, and make her realize that she is a very special woman for you.
- Don't let your lack of experience keep you from enjoying your romantic relationship. Don't worry too much; all you need to do is focus on your current relationship situation and enjoy every second with him.
Tips
- Eat healthy foods and exercise. Trust me, doing so can increase your confidence significantly; after all, women are naturally more attracted to such men.
- Find a job if you are not currently working. Have a decent job that you are a responsible and reliable person.
- Learn how to communicate with women.
- There's no need to be too sad or disappointed if he just sees you as a friend; after all, he probably has lots of girl friends to introduce you to! After all, the experience will teach you a lot more about women, won't it?
- If possible, always carry a menthol candy with you just to make sure you smell good when you're around him.
