How does it feel if the guy you like isn't even aware of your existence? Before filling your phone with heartbreak songs, it's a good idea to read this article first! Attracting the attention of a guy you like (and maybe you don't know) is hard, but not impossible. If you follow the steps below, you can even encourage him to approaching you first!
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Method 1 of 3: Opening Up
Step 1. Smile
Believe me, most men also feel embarrassed if they have to approach the woman he likes. Therefore, smile and open yourself up; surely, your smile is able to break down doubts and insecurities in the man you like. As a result, he will feel more comfortable approaching you and introducing himself first. Don't bend your face if you don't want to make it even more groggy and move away.
Step 2. Make eye contact
Smile while making brief eye contact. Trust me, smiling all day will do no good if you don't make regular eye contact; especially since eye contact is the primary signal that 'allows' him to approach you. If you run into him, make sure you smile briefly while looking into his eyes. Sooner or later, he'll definitely notice your presence (there's even a chance he'll smile back at you too!).
It's good to make eye contact; but make sure you don't stare at him all the time
Step 3. Show your confidence
Having self-confidence is much more important than having an awesome hairstyle or outfit. High self-confidence is effective in making you look more attractive, dynamic, and fun in the eyes of others. That's why someone who is confident is often easier to attract the attention of those around him. What are you waiting for, be positive and confident!
Step 4. Talk to his friends
When the guy you like sees you chatting with his friends, he's more likely to feel more comfortable approaching you. But remember, don't tease his friends! Trust me, he will notice too.
Step 5. Get rid of your phone
When you're around a guy you like, ignore your phone and show that you really want to chat with him. Remember, your body language should show that you are ready to be fully involved in the interaction process.
Step 6. Pay attention to your body language
Remember, communication does not only take place verbally, but also nonverbally. Believe me, your body language is also able to speak even from a distance.
- Don't cross your arms in front of your chest. This kind of body language shows that you are not approachable.
- Pay attention to your posture. A slumped posture shows that you are a woman who lacks self-confidence.
- Show a natural but firm posture. Hands hanging relaxed at the sides of the body indicate good self-confidence; meanwhile, clenched fists indicate that you are restless and difficult to approach.
- Try not to wring your clothes or move your hands nervously.
Method 2 of 3: Showing Existence
Step 1. Put yourself in his line of sight
If you get a golden opportunity to show your existence, take it! For example, if you know he walks in the same aisle every day, try standing in the aisle at certain times. But remember, don't do this every day or you'll look desperate!
- Make sure your actions are purposeful! If he is sitting near a drink stall, you can pretend to buy a drink at the boarding house. You can also visit the library if you know he is standing on the steps of the library with his friends.
- When you pass him, make sure you walk with a straight body and a raised chin. Smile and walk with confidence.
Step 2. Sit next to him
Remember, don't sit on the SIDE or your intentions will seem too obvious! At least, sit where his eyes can reach so he can notice your presence more easily! If he is your classmate, sit next to him. If you are on a lunch break in the cafeteria, sit at least two tables next to it.
Step 3. Create a situation that 'forces' to approach you
For example, bring lots of thick books when you know you're going to run into them. If he is seen standing at the door of a room, try to enter the room with lots of stuff. You can also walk back and forth in front of the class with a confused or lost look, as if you are having trouble finding a room or someone.
Although it can't be applied very often, this strategy is very effective at opening the door to communication with him (or at least, giving you a chance to look into his eyes and smile sweetly!)
Step 4. Find common interests with him
If you know an interest or hobby, try to join in on it. For example, if you know he likes to watch basketball games at school, try doing it every now and then. If he likes music, try visiting the record store he frequents frequently. If he likes to work out, try to work out at the same gym every now and then. If he sees you often in the same place as him, he's more likely to come up to you and talk to you.
- Try accordingly. Don't force yourself to like something you don't like. Be as reasonable as possible!
- Plan all your actions carefully and don't always appear in all the activities. Surely you don't want to be seen as a stalker, do you?
Step 5. Join the group of friends
If you are already friends with some of his friends, try to get closer to them. By doing so, you will give him more opportunities to approach you. Plus, it's more likely that his friends will tell him positive things about you too!
Method 3 of 3: Giving the Best Appearance
Step 1. Be proud of how you look
The way you represent yourself from the outside can reveal how you see yourself. Show him that you are a woman who deserves his attention! Remember, appearance is not everything; but it can't be denied, the first thing you see is your physical appearance. No matter how great your personality is, men won't be able to see it from a distance!
- Tidy up your appearance. Always clip your nails and comb your hair neatly.
- Make sure you always shower and brush your teeth to maintain personal hygiene.
- Wash your face regularly. Doing so can make your face look more radiant naturally.
- Wear scented lotions and perfumes. Remember, apply a reasonable amount of lotion or perfume spray. Scents that are too strong or too strong can actually make him dizzy and reluctant to be close to you.
Step 2. Try changing your hairstyle
Don't make drastic changes like dyeing your hair pink! Instead, try experimenting with flat irons, curling irons, bobby pins, and other hair knick-knacks to get his attention. Once you've found a hairstyle that suits you, try practicing it before going to school or traveling with it.
- Straighten your hair with a flat iron for a more casual look.
- Increase the volume of your hair with a curling iron.
- Have you always had bangs or a ponytail? Try changing your go-to style, whatever it is!
- Try changing your parting or wearing bangs if you haven't had bangs for a long time. Experiment to your heart's content!
Step 3. Take good care of yourself
There are many things you can do to improve yourself; but for now, make sure you focus on the basics! Radiate your natural charm by doing the following:
- Get enough and quality sleep.
- Exercise regularly.
- Eat healthier foods.
Step 4. Impress her with the clothes you wear
Judging someone just by their outward appearance is not wise; but admit it, the saying 'from the eyes down to the heart' is true, isn't it? Therefore, wear clothes that are comfortable and suitable for you. If you don't feel comfortable with what you're wearing, the discomfort can be seen in the way you carry yourself and in the eyes of others.
- Tidy up your closet and collect interesting colored clothes.
- Highlight your physical strengths. Not that you have to wear clothes that are too sexy! Just wear clothes that can highlight your physical strengths without being excessive. For example, if you have tight arms, try wearing a sleeveless shirt.
- Customize your outfit with the character of the guy you're traveling with. If you're taller than him, try wearing flat shoes so he's comfortable walking side by side with you.
- If you usually always wear jeans, try replacing them with a feminine cut from time to time.
- Find your own style! Believe me, you will be easier to 'look' if you have a unique style and character!
- Experiment with the jewelry or accessories you have. Sometimes, even simple details can attract the attention of the opposite sex!
Tips
- Smile more often.
- Be friendly and approachable.
- Find common interests with the guy you like.
- Remember, confidence is the key that you must hold!
- Be yourself. Whatever you do, never forget who you really are. Remember, you are a unique and great woman! Trust me, you don't have to change yourself just to win a guy's heart.
- Make sure your breath smells fresh.
- Be as reasonable as possible.
- Don't try too hard!
- If you really like a guy, there's no need to wait for him to act first! Some men can also feel shy and nervous, you know. Don't worry, nothing forbids women from taking the initiative!
