Getting a man closer is not an easy matter. You can like him, but you can't force him to do anything. You really like him, and maybe he likes you too. If you're shy or want him to go the old ways and come after you, try some subtle approaches to increase your chances of being asked out.
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Method 1 of 4: Entering his Radar
Step 1. Plan a "chance" meeting
Think about what he likes and where he usually spends his time. With reasonable effort, arrange a meeting that seems like a coincidence. Show interest in his interests, he will probably pay attention to you.
- For example, if you know he likes rock climbing, go to the gym he usually goes to. You can say it's your first time there and see if he's willing to help. This is an opportunity to flirt and invite casual physical contact.
- Find out when he studied in the library and what he studied, then come at that time with more or less the same material.
Step 2. Approach his friends
Having friends and social circles in common will increase your chances of spending time with them. His friends can say positive things about you and he's sure to hear. He may already know you, but let his friends show you that you share positive qualities and interests.
Step 3. Have a chat with him
Maybe he doesn't talk to you because he's shy or has a hard time approaching girls. So whenever he's around, make sure his focus and attention is on you and what you have in common. Try a few different approaches to breaking the silence.
- “How the hell do you do card magic like yesterday's party? Teach me please."
- “I feel like going to the mall to eat. What's your favorite food around here?”
- "Hey, you're great with computers. Can I ask you to teach me?"
Step 4. Add interaction on social media (eg, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat)
Like what he uploaded. Retweet the Twitter content. Show him that you have a lot in common so that he sees you as more than just a friend.
Step 5. Be with him when he's having a tough day
Help him get to know you as a person who cares about him. Be a place to lean on when she needs support. It won't be long before he realizes that you're the one person who can always make him happy, and that opens up lots of opportunities to be alone.
- Take the time to fit into his schedule. You may have to sacrifice a little time. However, the key here is to listen to the problem he is having.
- Find out if he has problems in studies or work. Ask him if he wants to study or work together.
Method 2 of 4: Showing You're Interested
Step 1. Don't hesitate to seduce her
A little flirtation will make him realize that you are interested. More importantly, seduction was an invitation for him to approach without worrying about being rejected. Help him see that this friendship can turn into something deeper. Generally, seduction is done via body language, gestures, posture, or words.
- If you sit near him, seduce with the eyes. Look into her eyes and smile. Make eye contact a little longer than usual.
- Imitate his body language. Lean over as he approaches. Smile when he smiles.
- Lick your lips. If he looks into your mouth, lick your lips imperceptibly. However, don't do it too often because you only need to show a suggestive impression, not compulsive.
- When you catch him looking at you, smile a little and look down. Then, lift your eyes to look at him again, this time with a flirtatious smile.
- Play with hair. Both girls and boys usually unknowingly groom themselves when trying to impress the opposite sex.
Step 2. Open the invite for touch
Show that you're relaxed to the touch, and won't flinch or jump back. Let him touch you. Pay attention to where your touch is comfortable, but don't push him away if he's a little too excited.
- Hug back. If he wants to hug, accept it gladly, and make sure he's the first to let go.
- Play with her hair. When you see a strand or two of hair coming out of the comb, gently trim it.
- Do it and choose the time carefully, otherwise the effect will be the opposite.
Step 3. Give praise
Find reasons to say things that make him smile or feel confident. Try the following options:
- Grab his arm and say, "My arm is small when you put it near yours."
- Touch her hair and say, "Your hair looks good this way."
- "I can look into your eyes for hours."
Method 3 of 4: Taking a Bolder Step
Step 1. Don't hide your point
Some guys are too shy or nervous to approach. Others may not be convinced by the signal you are giving. Even a shy guy will open up if he knows you like him.
- Hold her hand when walking side by side.
- Ask him for help with something you don't really need. If the help is simple, he'll understand that you're just looking for an excuse to meet.
- When he's around, say, "I wish I had a girlfriend."
- Tell him a dream pretending that you are dating him.
- Don't be too affectionate if he hasn't taken a step closer. Here you are showing intent, not chasing.
Step 2. Ask a direct question
If you don't want to approach first, open his eyes that you deserve to be approached. Ask leading questions that help him decide.
- "Do you think I'm beautiful?"
- "A lot of people say I could be the ideal boyfriend, do you think?"
- “I think most guys are lucky to have my boyfriend. Do you agree?"
Step 3. Refrain from commenting on relationships and love
If you want to be more daring, remember that there are still no-pass points. Being pushy or aggressive can sometimes make a man feel intimidated or lose interest.
- Don't force him to talk about love. Men are usually hesitant to talk about this one topic.
- Make teasing comments that the two of you are perfect as a couple.
- Never mention anything about marriage.
- Don't say "I love you" to people who haven't made any approach because those words won't be well received.
Method 4 of 4: Determining whether the two of you would make a good couple
Step 1. Make sure you both match
Sit with him at lunch. Chat a lot so the friendship has time to develop. You'll get to know him better the longer you're friends.
- Find out if you and he have the same principles. If it turns out that the principles are completely different, that's a pretty clear sign that the relationship is going to be in trouble.
- Find out if he has ever cheated on you. Ask how his past relationship ended. Lack of trust is a guarantee that serious problems will arise in the relationship.
Step 2. Be yourself
Show yourself as you are. There is no point in dealing with people in a false self-image. Don't pretend you like what you don't like because you'll be the one to lose yourself when he finds out the truth.
- Show something you care about, like a favorite book. Talk about why something means so much to you.
- He will appreciate your honesty and that you are not afraid to be yourself.
- Mention some of your hobbies and see if the responses are pleasant.
Step 3. Make it clear that you are also interested
Before pushing him to make an approach, make sure that he likes you too. Avoid disappointment. Here are signs to help you decide:
- If he often smiles or teases you, it's a sign he likes you.
- If he stays away, he may not be interested.
- Frequently asking about you is a sign that he likes you too.
- An invitation to a social event is also a sign of interest.
Tips
- Take it easy for him, for you, for the relationship, and don't rush the process.
- Men are sometimes shy to approach. So, it's probably best to show that you like him without having to approach him first.
- If he flirts with her and she doesn't reciprocate, it doesn't mean she doesn't like you.
- Try to be a good friend to start with. That will help.
- Be the one who cheers him up when he's having problems.
Warning
- Don't force things to develop quickly.
- Don't be desperate. If you like him, don't overdo it. Just normal.
- If you think he's going to ask you out, keep it to yourself. If you tell someone and it turns out there's no date, that would be a real shame.
- Don't obsess. He may misunderstand and think that you are stalking him.
