Being rejected by a friend can be overwhelming, especially if the two of you are already very close. Maybe you're confused about what to do when he says he doesn't love you, but still wants to be friends. It can be difficult to separate romantic and platonic feelings, but only at the beginning, and you can do it! Read these tips to learn how to befriend a guy, even after he rejects you.
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Method 1 of 10: Process your emotions first without rushing
Step 1. You may be angry or hurt after being rejected, which is normal
Feel the emotion, and feel free to grieve if you need to. Don't try to cover up your feelings or forget them too quickly because you'll only hurt yourself more.
- If you don't want to be friends with him first, go ahead.
- There is no time limit to forget the pain of being rejected. Just feel what you feel for as long as you need.
Method 2 of 10: Try not to take the rejection to heart
Step 1. He doesn't reject you because you're not a nice person
Don't take his rejection as an attack on you personally. On the other hand, it means that you and he are not compatible. If he still wants to be friends, then you are a good friend in his eyes.
Focusing on rejection will hurt you. Whenever you think of that rejection, remind yourself that you didn't do anything wrong
Method 3 out of 10: Wait for him to call before seeing you again
Step 1. This way, you know he really wants to be friends
Once you've confessed your feelings to him, give him two or three days to calm down and process his own emotions. Once he is ready, he will call or text to meet again.
Sometimes there are men who say they still want to be friends because they don't want to hurt the feelings of the woman they rejected. If he seriously wants to continue the friendship, he will definitely call again
Method 4 of 10: Restart friendships with other friends
Step 1. Meeting just the two of you can be a little awkward at first
The first time you meet after the rejection, bring some other friends along too. This will reduce tension and allow for neutral interaction.
You can tell your friends what happened or not. If you're worried that they'll gossip, feel free to keep that story to you and him alone
Method 5 of 10: Remember that feeling awkward is normal
Step 1. Undeniably, it will be awkward at first
Maybe you're both feeling a little embarrassed, and that's normal. Just accept the awkwardness and embarrassment so that it can be passed as quickly as possible. Everything will be back to normal soon.
Method 6 of 10: Focus on the friendship and the future
Step 1. No need to discuss the rejection or your feelings again
If he wants to talk about what happened before resuming the friendship, that's fine, but just up front and in private. Do not discuss it in other situations because it will only make the atmosphere uncomfortable.
Method 7 out of 10: Reject his approach if he starts flirting
Step 1. He's already rejected you, and if he's flirting, it's confusing
There are some men who by nature like to seduce and seduce the opposite sex, while there are men who are actually interested but are afraid to commit. To be sure, you should avoid seduction even if he started it.
You will be confused yourself if you respond to his advances, and it may hinder your efforts to continue living as usual
Method 8 out of 10: Enjoy time with other friends
Step 1. Focus on strengthening other relationships
Enjoy time with friends, hang out with family, and devote your energies to others. Your attention will be distracted and you will be able to get rid of your feelings more quickly.
If you are close to someone, please share what you are going through
Method 9 out of 10: Approach other people
Step 1. Now it may sound absurd, but it's the best way to forget someone
Try approaching other men. You don't need to be in a serious relationship, maybe drink coffee or hang out with new people. The more focus you put on the other person, the less you will feel for the person who has rejected you.
Don't be in a relationship if you're not ready. There's nothing wrong with enjoying being alone for a while and focusing on yourself
Method 10 out of 10: End the friendship if you can't shake the feeling
Step 1. This is a drastic step, but it may be best for both of you
If you've tried to be friends again, but the feelings of love persist, the friendship will only hurt you. You can keep your distance slowly or make it clear that you can't be friends with him.
- You could say, "I know we want to be friends, but I still have feelings for you. I need some time alone to get over this."
- Keep the possibility of making friends open. You can make friends again at a later date when your feelings for him are gone.
Tips
- Rejection hurts, and the best medicine is time.
- Love yourself and focus on taking care of yourself when continuing the friendship.
