There are women who seem to be being chased by men all the time. So, what's the secret to being able to attract men like that? Unfortunately, there's no magic potion that will make you look more attractive, and no type of outfit or workout routine is guaranteed to make guys come after you. However, there are some tricks that you can use to become the girl figure that men covet.
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Method 1 of 3: Increasing Attractiveness
Step 1. Show your great personality
A positive attitude or personality can make a person ignore negative physical traits and make them more attracted to you. For example, a man who is normally attracted to a slim woman may be attracted to a slightly fatter woman if she is friendly and open. Get to know your positive personality and let it shine through!
- Get to know your best characters and look for opportunities to showcase them. For example, if you are a passionate person, you can take the opportunity to get involved in volunteer activities. If you are a responsible person, try applying to become class president.
- If you feel you need to fix something, that's fine. For example, if you are a shy person, you might try to be more open and friendly. If you usually get angry easily, you can try to control your emotions.
Step 2. Take good care of yourself
You really can't change too many aspects of your appearance. However, a study shows that people are more attracted to those who are good at taking care of themselves. Make sure you take the time to groom yourself every day. Some basic things you can do to increase your attractiveness include:
- Shower every day.
- Styling hair.
- Brushing teeth.
- Wear clean clothes.
Step 3. Highlight your best features or body parts
Men's preferences regarding appearance and body shape are very different so try not to get hung up on the photos that appear in magazines. Instead, accept your body shape and physical features and try to highlight them as much as possible.
- For example, if the best part of your body is your eyes, you can accentuate your charm with eye makeup. If your legs are the best part of your body, choose shorts or short skirts to show off his charm.
- You can also use a little makeup if you want. You don't need to wear makeup if you feel uncomfortable, but makeup itself is known to increase the perception of attractiveness in men's eyes. Try putting on a little makeup and notice how you feel. If you like it, make makeup a part of your routine. Keep in mind that you don't have to wear a lot of makeup to bring out your best body parts. For example, you can use brown mascara and lip gloss to showcase your natural beauty. However, remember that makeup is just a “tool” and you can't completely rely on makeup to look your best.
Step 4. Wear red clothes
Women who wear red appear more attractive to some men. You don't have to always wear red to take advantage of this, but try wearing a top or adding a red accessory every now and then.
If you want, you can add a red element to your everyday outfit using lipstick, a pair of earrings, or a red scarf
Step 5. Wear an occasional pair of high heels
High heels are known to make men feel more attracted to women. Since high heels are very uncomfortable to wear, you can only wear them on special occasions, such as school art performances. You can also wear a pair of shoes with shorter heels.
Method 2 of 3: Using Body Language and Seduction
Step 1. Make eye contact and smile
Eye contact is a powerful way to show a guy that you're interested in him, and a smile reflects that you're cheerful, friendly, and approachable. The next time you're around a guy who seems adorable, try looking him in the eye for a few seconds before flashing him a smile. This shows him that you feel that he is adorable and wants to talk to him.
When you first try it, you may feel stiff or awkward. However, keep in mind that he may be nervous too
Step 2. Try to mirror him when you talk to him
Mirroring occurs when you follow a posture that is similar to the posture of the other person. For example, if he leans back and holds him with his elbows, you can also make the same gesture. This way, you can show your interest and increase intimacy with him.
- Try to take advantage of mirroring when you first get to know someone. You may immediately show it without realizing it if you really enjoy chatting with the other person.
- Don't imitate every move he makes. Just mirror the gesture every now and then.
Step 3. Start a chat
If you want to chat with a guy, you don't have to wait for him to talk to you first. You can just approach him and say “Hello!”. If he responds to you with a smile and a reply, he may also want to chat with you. If he ignores you or gives a very short answer with little or no facial expression (eg no smile or eye contact), try switching to another guy.
Try asking questions to keep the conversation going. For example, you could say "It's sunny today, isn't it?" or “I love this cafe! The coffee menu choices are good, aren't they?”
Step 4. Be a good listener
Being a good listener is also an important aspect when talking to men. You will appear more attractive if you have the ability to show that you are interested and pay attention to what the other person is saying. Some good listening skills include:
- paraphrase. Try repeating what he's saying every now and then to show that you're paying attention to what he's saying.
- Nod. Try nodding every now and then to show that you're listening and understand what he's saying.
- Avoid distractions. Never take out your phone or look away when you're talking to a guy you like because this will make him feel like you're not interested in him.
Step 5. Ask open-ended questions
Compared to closed questions, questions like this will encourage the other person to talk more. Closed questions only require a short answer, while open questions "invite" the other person to explain further the answer.
For example, you will get a “yes” or “no” answer if you ask, “How are you doing?” Instead, try asking "What are you doing today?" Questions like this show him that you want him to talk while you listen
Method 3 of 3: Constructing Mysteries
Step 1. Keep a few things to yourself
Don't give too much information about yourself and try to mention fantastic or weird things you've done. You don't have to lie or be insincere. Try telling a story that talks about your experience in an interesting way.
For example, instead of explaining how you came to know the dark facts about baseball, you could say, “I know, man! I'll let you know sometime." After that, you can continue the chat
Step 2. Don't always be there for her
You should not arbitrarily cancel plans or reduce your free time with him. However, by reducing your presence, you can increase the level of dopamine (a chemical that triggers feelings of pleasure) so that meeting you will be a "big gift" for him.
Step 3. Control your emotions
It's important that you don't get too emotional when you first get to know someone. You don't have to be cold or make him feel that his accomplishments are nothing to be proud of. However, excessive emotions can also be a little "troublesome". Try to be as relaxed as possible. This will increase your mysterious aura and make him wonder if he can really win you over as his girlfriend.
For example, don't jump up and scream for joy when he asks you out. Instead, try smiling and saying, for example, “Yeah, that sounds interesting! Do you have a plan?”
Step 4. Say goodbye early
You need to think of a reasonable reason to say goodbye first so that you are not surprised or confused when someone asks “Well… why are you going home now?” This can increase your mysterious side because you can mention the next event that is actually uncertain. Show courtesy and cheerfulness and reassure everyone that you will see them again.
